WHAT ARE YOUR DEAL BREAKERS WHEN IT COMES TO RELATIONSHIPS?

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I remember a traumatized girl who had casual relationships with all my friends when I was about 19. We all went to the same rock/metal bar on friday nights and to leave for our home we had to walk past a tough hip hop club. Once we were walking out drunk at 3am or so and she started ranting a loud voice about how black men had raped her and were bad, and then she pointed to a BMW car outside the club that had 3 huge gang-looking black men on it and started shouting at them "come on blacks! me and my friends here will take you all on, come on n*****rs" etc. Luckily they ignored her. I remember times like that and I have trouble respecting "hurt" women who take no responsibility for their own healing.

AMEN, brother----men, TOO!

Yep, all genders--including the "nonbinary" ones.

Isn't it strange that married girls have much more complex deal breakers that happens to match with how their partners are compared to non-married? Did they have a lot of luck, or are the deal breakers just after constructions?

I think married people realize that the "ideal" (i.e., what's on the lists) is not attainable; they realize that compromise is really the way to preserve relationships.

That's why I wrote some.


What's wrong with not understanding art and what is wrong with not liking those TV shows you listed? Why are they deal breakers?

Art is the essence of existence, a way to transcend the hard "realities" of the moment.

It would bother me if a person only thought about what was "real" at the moment, and didn't think about what could be "real" in the future.

I wonder if we all play mind games unintentionally because I have been accused of playing them myself and I am like "what?" all because of my emotions and my feelings and because of my horrible experience so I was trying to prevent being used again for sex but my ex could have been gaslighting me (abusers will accuse you of doing things and that includes playing games) and those people online probably didn't know what they were talking about when I said I would wait six months before I have sex.

I wonder if we all play mind games unintentionally because I have been accused of playing them myself and I am like "what?" all because of my emotions and my feelings and because of my horrible experience so I was trying to prevent being used again for sex but my ex could have been gaslighting me (abusers will accuse you of doing things and that includes playing games) and those people online probably didn't know what they were talking about when I said I would wait six months before I have sex.

I believe there are times when people don't mean to play "mind games"--but what people say or do could result in the perception that one is playing those games.

Well this is abstract for me to understand so I guess I know what peacells meant when she/he said art at it's finest. I thought he/she meant artwork as in paintings and drawings and sculptures and I wondered what is there to understand about it? it's just artwork. I know some people go deep with it while I only see the work and that is it while some go abstract with it because they look being the work and see the meaning to it. I hear artwork is abstract which is why people go deep with it when they look at them. I never understood it but I put that too my concrete thinking and even though I have learned to think in abstract concepts and see abstract concepts, I am still concrete in other things.

I think people say people play games when they do things they don't like. This is the pattern I have been seeing over the years and my ex was the first for me to figure out what playing a game meant. Doing something a person doesn't like.

Sometimes we do have to play games. For example, in court when you fight for child custody, you have to find things to use against your partner for custody and they call it a game. Bu if they are doing that game, you have to play that game back by using things against them in court to keep custody or so you can get joint. Why do we call it a game? Because we don't like doing it duh and we don't like it being done to us so therefore we call it a game.

I like girls that play "mind games". That's absolutely not a deal breaker! I also like the clingy type (if it isn't too extreme), so that is not a deal breaker either.

Well, from my own experience, there are different levels of severity depending on the woman. there are games that are wild and spunky, and make you feel like you're on an exciting chase, and ones that can destroy you. And if you think all mind games are fun, you aint known the ones ive known.

your attitude of "crazy and clingy women are my kind of thing, i can handle them!" may lead you into some very dark times if you're not careful.

I can be pretty concrete in my thinking, too.

I guess I'm disqualified. What's 7,8 and 9 mean?

And decent women who want a real relationship won't go for #5.