"Date other fat people if you're fat"

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I think that advice is given when someone is having troubles finding someone for their partner because no one will date them or go out with them so people give them that advice.

That's BS.

I was always considered thin, now sometimes I have a pot belly. Sometimes it's not there when I keep my body "under control".

Either way I would date thin or "full" (as we say in Hebrew) ladies if they would find me attractive, and I find both "ways" attractive. It's really an individual thing.

But really, people change their body shape. It sounds ridiculous to me that you would say one should date people of a certain shape when it's not permanent to begin with.

They say that because fat people typically don't have as high of standards, many of them will date anybody who shows interest. Especially fat chicks.

This isn't meant to be harsh but if you're a moderately fat girl, you know that many guys are going to be turned off by it. And if a guy happens to show interest, fat chicks are extra friendly because they know that they're not going to impress you by their appearance but maybe if they make up for it with a nice warming personality, a guy who doesn't mind her fatness will give her a chance.


But yeah if you're a fat girl if you want your attractiveness appeal to go up, then lose weight. Consume less food, eat better food such as fruits and vegetables and lay off the junk food, go for walks, lift weights do low amount of weight but lots of repetition because this burns off fat. What you want to do is to burn as much fat off as possible because then you can become curvy and that is sexy to some guys. Obese isn't sexy at all.


Know the difference between curvy and obese.

IMHO, You aren't entitled to have people love you and you aren't entitled for others to be attracted to you.

If you want a decent amount of attention than it is ideal to follow most of societies standard for physical attraction (not all, as many are unrealistic or unnecessary).

Yes, everyone has different tastes and there's plenty out there that will love you if you are unfit or out-of-shape, however you have no right to complain if these are the reason's other's don't find you attractive.

I only believe you should complain about a lack of dating success if you are 'doing all the right things...and still failing!' not when you're 'whining people aren't attracted to X trait' and not doing anything to fix the problem.

Culturally speaking, the majority of males are not attracted to overweight women, just like the majority of women are not attracted to overweight men.

The ideal body for a male is high metabolism, low-body fat, low risk for most diseases, moderate strength, high stamina, endurance and agility.

The ideal body for a female is high metabolism, moderate body fat, low risk for most diseases, low strength, moderate stamina, endurance and agility.

This is the body our ancestors survived on, and the one for ideal physiological function.

It is not the large, ripped guy for men, nor is it being stick-thin for women.

Should these men whine and complain women aren't attracted to him?

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Should his female equivalent have any right to do the same?

This is what whiny and complaining about things instead of fixing them actually looks like.

For once, I actually agree with some of darkphantomx's pos and think he has a point.

If you are overweight or have some other culturally undesirable trait, accept that many other people won't be attracted to you, and they have every right to do so.

Otherwise, why do you feel the need to complain? Unless you're actually working on improving your health/undesirable trait/whatever, it's not like many people are going to be attracted to you anyway. Accept that only some will be attracted to you and be quiet about it, or try to improve, I say.

It's the same thing as telling us aspie males to stop being a-høles and actually work on improving as a person and treating women like people instead of mistreating or generalizing women and then complaining about a lack of success, something I frequently see on this forum.

To OP: Imho, miss, if you want a male who can help you change your lifestyle for the better, I suggest developing the ability to at least make a start yourself. I believe it's not good to rely on another person to change your habits/lifestyle and this is something you should be able to have the willpower to start yourself. Apply this to anything in your life. It's your life, your choices and your responsibility. Just like I'm not going to rely on my girlfriend for finding me a job when I can take steps to do it myself. It's my resume, etc. and she shouldn't have to fill it out.

Many, many males probably will be attracted to a hard-working and dedicated woman, and by making a start this is very likely what you will become. I optimistically believe that you can do it, and there is no 'can't'. You can definitely still try and date someone who pushes you to try new things and experiences, in fact this is very healthy and I do myself. But without them, should you really lack the ability to do it yourself? I know that, while I usually lack the ability to go out of my comfort zone and try new things, I really could so long as I really push myself to. And yes I do have depression, anxiety and other issues. Can you do the same?

every effort relies on you in the end. i agree that we live for ourselves. some believe this attitude has helped pus the west ahead of the rest of the world in some respects.

CommanderKeen wrote:

This is not skinny. This is lean

Hmm too me it looks like there is something oddly disproportionate about this guy...whatever it is, makes him look unattractive to me.