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23 Jun 2016, 6:07 pm

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Nope, and I cannot explain it. I go on what people write, and by knowing which traits are ND and which are NT. In this case, the girl appears to act in a way that makes it likely she is not NT. For one thing, if she was NT, she had broken contact with the OP long ago. She also wouldn't have taken any initiatives.

Oh sure, if she has the attention spawn higher than that of a dead cat she must be ND, right?
Also I think that girls nowadays have in general less problems taking initiative.



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23 Jun 2016, 6:51 pm

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rdos wrote:
Nope, and I cannot explain it. I go on what people write, and by knowing which traits are ND and which are NT. In this case, the girl appears to act in a way that makes it likely she is not NT. For one thing, if she was NT, she had broken contact with the OP long ago. She also wouldn't have taken any initiatives.

Oh sure, if she has the attention spawn higher than that of a dead cat she must be ND, right?
Also I think that girls nowadays have in general less problems taking initiative.


Those were only examples. :roll:



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23 Jun 2016, 7:16 pm

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Nope, and I cannot explain it. I go on what people write, and by knowing which traits are ND and which are NT. In this case, the girl appears to act in a way that makes it likely she is not NT. For one thing, if she was NT, she had broken contact with the OP long ago. She also wouldn't have taken any initiatives.

Oh sure, if she has the attention spawn higher than that of a dead cat she must be ND, right?
Also I think that girls nowadays have in general less problems taking initiative.


Those were only examples. :roll:

Well I can only respond to things you say, I am not a soothsayer. Unlike you, apparently.



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23 Jun 2016, 7:51 pm

Hey Molin.

I don't understand why things have to be so complicated.

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...i suggested a date like one of you said and she after a few days she responded, apologisin for a late response and that she is going through tough times and does't want to meet anyone for a while...


Based on your updated post from yesterday, it's pretty clear where she stands - that she is not looking for any sort of romantic relationship with anyone while she's dealing with more important matters in her life. Even you, yourself, described the emails as "friendly", and why wouldn't it be? She currently views you as a friend, and while there may be a possibility for something more in the future (she didn't specify this), that is something that you will have to ask her when her life settles down a bit.


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23 Jun 2016, 8:43 pm

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A lot of females will move on if nothing develops fairly quickly, they're on a biological timer-- speed is a concern for them. They're also programmed to have males chase them, not the other way around, thus if he doesn't make a move at some point chances are she won't either.

If a women is very interested and believes she has a shot, the person can chase for over a year -as observed, that is nearly always the case.



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24 Jun 2016, 5:25 am

Peacesells wrote:
rdos wrote:
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Nope, and I cannot explain it. I go on what people write, and by knowing which traits are ND and which are NT. In this case, the girl appears to act in a way that makes it likely she is not NT. For one thing, if she was NT, she had broken contact with the OP long ago. She also wouldn't have taken any initiatives.

Oh sure, if she has the attention spawn higher than that of a dead cat she must be ND, right?
Also I think that girls nowadays have in general less problems taking initiative.


Those were only examples. :roll:

Well I can only respond to things you say, I am not a soothsayer. Unlike you, apparently.


Crude black-and-white concrete thinking has no place in determining romantic phenotype. The ND courtship is a complex game, and can be expressed in many different ways. In fact, the NT courtship is not that simple either. People that think there are simple rules they can learn will not be likely to succeed.



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24 Jun 2016, 6:38 pm

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Hey Molin.

I don't understand why things have to be so complicated.

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...i suggested a date like one of you said and she after a few days she responded, apologisin for a late response and that she is going through tough times and does't want to meet anyone for a while...


Based on your updated post from yesterday, it's pretty clear where she stands - that she is not looking for any sort of romantic relationship with anyone while she's dealing with more important matters in her life. Even you, yourself, described the emails as "friendly", and why wouldn't it be? She currently views you as a friend, and while there may be a possibility for something more in the future (she didn't specify this), that is something that you will have to ask her when her life settles down a bit.

Or... It could be the usual way to turn down someone the easy way using an excuse. I wouldn't wait for her if I were you OP, it is also possible that you will see her dating someone else, even if she said what she said. But it could also be that she said the truth, I don't know her.



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24 Jun 2016, 6:53 pm

at this point, the only real way to know for sure is if the OP DOES see her with somebody else in a dating situation.