Red flags in dating? Early stages

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I also agree with this. I can't stand the atmosphere and I thought that most Aspies wouldn't either because of all the noise. Anyone going to the bar really still wants to be single and play the field, IMO.

A Hunny + the bar scene =

Thank you! See, I told you there are women who ACTUALLY agree with me. I guess you don't speak for all women after all, Luhluhluh.

Yeah. I think men and women should be able to debate on a forum without any sort of intervention or nannying.

You don't have to believe you have trust issues. I simply agree with her assessment. To us, it sounds like you do. It's not an attack. I am not looking for an argument, I won't reply.

Yet, you have constantly started arguments with me in multiple threads. Call me crazy, but just because a few people whom I've never met on an aspergers forum tell me I have trust issues and I should date women who bar hop; doesn't make it a good idea. Even a woman on the forum agreed with me, but I guess she doesn't receieve "constructive criticism". It's funny how that works.

I have always been this way from a young age, it's not forum behavior. It's my nature to speak my mind and help people. In this particular case, I speak my mind, agreeing with her assessment. Like I said, I am not looking for an argument, good day.

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Copping out, like in the other thread and also no mention of nurseangela agreeing with me; how interesting.

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The philosophy forum is a little less strict on the rules, but in the other forums, let make sure we are being supportive of everyone.

I wouldn't date a lady who bar hops, either, and I work in one.
I don't feel the need to do it - it seems to be the kind of thing someone single does.
Perhaps it's a generational thing, or a need to keep up with friends in the sense of not looking like a wet blanket. But all my friends are older and settled down so that sort of behaviour with them is associated with sad lonely people wanting to hook up.

That doesn't happen here, at least if you're not a female member.

I didn't say "all women" I said "women everywhere."

No one is stopping you from preferring and finding a conservative-minded woman who wants to stay home and not go out to happy hour. I'm not understanding the attitude?

You'd be amazed how difficult that is. Everything triggers here.

Actually , you are a traditionalist. I find this quite refreshing. We have a lot of feminists here. I for one, wouldn't have minded being a housewife in my 30's if I was planning a family. I ended up not finding the right Hunny and had to find a way to provide for myself - hence the nursing career. Now I don't want kids and am pretty involved with my career and education so I know I will be having a job for the rest of my life and want a Hunny who also has a decent career (or a job that is more than just a 9-5). The younger generation of women have been conditioned that they can be both a mother and a career woman and being a realist, I know that isn't possible. That is why there are so many divorces these days. My Ma was a stay-at-home Ma and I loved it. Families just aren't like that anymore. It's hard to find a guy these days that even has a decent job to support a family of four - most of the time you need two incomes to have the same lifestyle that our parents had. People also expect to have more luxuries so two incomes are needed. IMO, I think the feminist movement ruined marriages and families. I also think that both men and women in the younger generations have been conditioned to want a wife that works and that sets up women for a disaster because most are not able to perform both jobs of a career woman and mother 100% making most women unhappy in their marriages and leading to more divorces.

Women everywhere, or all women could be viewed as the same thing; at the very least you are implying women other than yourself. Also, when you added the that implied sarcasm; hence the attitude.

Citation please. Specifically, where was this bolded statement said.

Because where's the fun in that?