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10 Feb 2017, 4:45 pm

i_wanna_blue wrote:

I believe that sometimes our circumstances may not be conducive for finding a significant other. Many people over the years have not been able to find love due to factors that hinder ones opportunities to find love. In that sense there isn't someone for everyone. Not every situation provides the opportunity for one to find someone to love, but that does mean that not everyone is capable or worthy of love.

All my life I've felt I am unworthy of being loved, and that no person could ever love me. But my perspective has changed. I haven't found love due to the restrictions of my circumstances and not due to me being unworthy of someones affection.

Whether I'll get the opportunity to be loved, time only knows, but if it doesn't happen, I am okay with it.

How the hell could you be okay with it. If i never get loved i would rather kill myself now then die a lonely 80-90 year old man with no family and no kids

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10 Feb 2017, 6:09 pm

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Shahunshah wrote:

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Shahunshah wrote:

Explain why it is different. If you can feel for someone, genuinely care for them, and feel upset when they are in pain how is that not love?

Explain.

If you feel upset that they are in pain, isn't that due to being able to imagine that kind of pain for yourself? Or because we are taught that we should comfort someone who is suffering? Humans are not born caring about others, it is taught. We care about others in order to gain that same sort of caring back.

Its not just that though. Notice any reaction to a loved one being in immense pain and you will see that they aren't just playing a game. They feel a level of pain themselves, I personally can't stand the thought of people being close to me in pain or crying. It is upsetting.

also it's not something you can teach. Even children understand that pain is bad. That pit in your stomach when you see the pepole you care about the most sad cannot be faked.

I can feel bad for a stranger who is upset. But when its someone I love I feel it in my very core.

Yeah I don't get what Androbot and Boo are saying.

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10 Feb 2017, 10:20 pm

It's depressing threads like this which make me think life-like robots would not be such a bad idea after all.

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10 Feb 2017, 10:38 pm

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It's depressing threads like this which make me think life-like robots would not be such a bad idea after all.

Speaking of which, Alexa sang me a Valentine's song. Too bad it isn't Alex (I'm still working on it). :mrgreen:

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10 Feb 2017, 11:27 pm

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How the hell could you be okay with it. If i never get loved i would rather kill myself now then die a lonely 80-90 year old man with no family and no kids

Have kids if you want but raising kids may be a severe drain on your free time and disposable income.

nurseangela wrote:

Speaking of which, Alexa sang me a Valentine's song. Too bad it isn't Alex (I'm still working on it). :mrgreen:

Keep trying nurseangela! Alex will be yours one day!

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11 Feb 2017, 9:00 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

cricketman123 wrote:

How the hell could you be okay with it. If i never get loved i would rather kill myself now then die a lonely 80-90 year old man with no family and no kids

Have kids if you want but raising kids may be a severe drain on your free time and disposable income.

Exactly. I'm okay with being alone, because I'm not missing out on something 'perfect'. No marriage is perfect, because there's no such thing as a perfect wife, or perfect kids. I'm not perfect either, and my life's not perfect and getting married won't change that. Being alone has its good points as well. At least the only person's issues you have to deal with are your own.

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12 Feb 2017, 7:16 pm

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To quote Frank Sinatra, I've thought of giving up but my heart just ain't gonna buy it...

Now that is romantiscism right there, the way to every womans heart is to serenade her.
That way you also become you're own worst accolade and someones best friend. :wink:

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13 Feb 2017, 7:24 pm

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^ Are there any statistics on that?

What percentage of the population remains single?

Can I stop you for a moment? How are you doing that with the text underneath you post? Teach me, Yoda.

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14 Feb 2017, 2:59 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:

^ Are there any statistics on that?

What percentage of the population remains single?

Interesting link http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/09/ ... r-married/

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14 Feb 2017, 3:24 am

^^^the trend looks as though it is headed into an abyss in amuurica, at least, unless our society does a quick 180 degree U-turn and start paying attention to basic human values instead of mammon. not holding my breath waiting for that to happen in my lifetime.

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14 Feb 2017, 4:11 am

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Yes, if you are looking for a perfection then you should not start a relationship. No relationship is ever perfect.

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14 Feb 2017, 4:42 am

"good enough" is hard enough to find, much less perfect, it would seem, judging by our divorce and never-married statistics.

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14 Feb 2017, 4:18 pm

Empathy wrote:

Zed90230 wrote:

To quote Frank Sinatra, I've thought of giving up but my heart just ain't gonna buy it...

Now that is romantiscism right there, the way to every womans heart is to serenade her.
That way you also become you're own worst accolade and someones best friend. :wink:

I should be taking notes.

I remember exgf loved that kind of poetic stuff. Now she's gone and I have no one to enchant with my florid prose

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14 Feb 2017, 4:22 pm

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"good enough" is hard enough to find, much less perfect, it would seem, judging by our divorce and never-married statistics.

Wait, you know where there's a perfect girl?

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14 Feb 2017, 4:57 pm

cricketman123 wrote:

i_wanna_blue wrote:

How the hell could you be okay with it. If i never get loved i would rather kill myself now then die a lonely 80-90 year old man with no family and no kids

Indeed though I don't plan on living past 30
So like a year and week left at most

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14 Feb 2017, 10:34 pm

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cricketman123 wrote:

i_wanna_blue wrote:

How the hell could you be okay with it. If i never get loved i would rather kill myself now then die a lonely 80-90 year old man with no family and no kids

Indeed though I don't plan on living past 30
So like a year and week left at most

What would be even worse would be if you got your first girlfriend when you're 80 years old.

Then died from old age at 82.

That's what I imagine when people tell me I'll find love "eventually". Eventually might be when my life I almost over.

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