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28 Feb 2017, 8:57 pm

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So. No single healthy weight women in my real world (they are all taken) and online dating makes me feel like worthless ugly s**t.
Yeah. Even the obese ones think they're too good for me.

How did the market become so heavily tipped in their favour that I need a degree while they don't need to maintain a healthy weight?


They have other things to offer


Precisely. You are after women in an age range that is extremely desirable to most eligible men.


True. Do women have have broad age range then men? If men have a narrower age range that might explain why women within that age range can afford to be choosy, even if they're fat and/or unemployed.


The thing is fat isn't the worst thing you can be so it doesnt mean a person had to lower their standards. Those of fat people are with attractive partners. I guess you just don't have as equal to offer as alot of fat girls.



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28 Feb 2017, 9:01 pm

Alliekit wrote:
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Alliekit wrote:
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So. No single healthy weight women in my real world (they are all taken) and online dating makes me feel like worthless ugly s**t.
Yeah. Even the obese ones think they're too good for me.

How did the market become so heavily tipped in their favour that I need a degree while they don't need to maintain a healthy weight?


They have other things to offer


Precisely. You are after women in an age range that is extremely desirable to most eligible men.


True. Do women have have broad age range then men? If men have a narrower age range that might explain why women within that age range can afford to be choosy, even if they're fat and/or unemployed.


The thing is fat isn't the worst thing you can be so it doesnt mean a person had to lower their standards. Those of fat people are with attractive partners. I guess you just don't have as equal to offer as alot of fat girls.


Alliekit I can understand why this topic upsets you. I wasn't trying to offend you. Can't we bury the hatchet :)


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01 Mar 2017, 2:44 am

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http://www.youbeauty.com/love/study-reveals-the-age-men-find-women-most-attractive-and-its-seriously-disturbing/
All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. The most commonly chosen ages are 20-23. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman. And a 50-year-old man is really gunning for a 22-year old on his arm.

All people are copycats and want the same things in a partner, but that's a depressing fact so we fooled ourselves into believing we're unique. That's not true. There's some variation, but mostly it's the same.



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314pe wrote:
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http://www.youbeauty.com/love/study-reveals-the-age-men-find-women-most-attractive-and-its-seriously-disturbing/
All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. The most commonly chosen ages are 20-23. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman. And a 50-year-old man is really gunning for a 22-year old on his arm.

All people are copycats and want the same things in a partner, but that's a depressing fact so we fooled ourselves into believing we're unique. That's not true. There's some variation, but mostly it's the same.

Is this because men have been culturally conditioned to think 22 year old girls are more desirable or is this because men are biologically conditioned to want a 22 year old girl, who still has 15-20 years of fertility left rather than a post-menopausal woman who can no longer bear children?


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01 Mar 2017, 3:14 am

314pe wrote:
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http://www.youbeauty.com/love/study-reveals-the-age-men-find-women-most-attractive-and-its-seriously-disturbing/
All men, from those in their twenties to those who are fifty, want to date a woman in her early twenties. The most commonly chosen ages are 20-23. For almost every year in his thirties, a man is most attracted to a 20-year-old woman. And a 50-year-old man is really gunning for a 22-year old on his arm.

All people are copycats and want the same things in a partner, but that's a depressing fact so we fooled ourselves into believing we're unique. That's not true. There's some variation, but mostly it's the same.


All humans are 99.9% genetically identical.



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01 Mar 2017, 3:15 am

Yes, but our cultures are different. So if it's cultural then it would be different in some places.



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01 Mar 2017, 3:18 am

Actually other studies claiming we are between 99 to 99.9 identical; but this is still a huge similarity.


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Yes, but our cultures are different. So if it's cultural then it would be different in some places


Yes, but people within the same culture are almost clones in perceiving what's attractive and what's not, you remember my tinder regional experiment?



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01 Mar 2017, 3:36 am

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Yes, but our cultures are different. So if it's cultural then it would be different in some places.
Yes our cultures are different. In places where people die from starvation like Africa, the prevalent culture is that fat women are attractive. In places where people die from clogged arteries like the West, the prevalent culture is that skinny women are attractive.


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01 Mar 2017, 4:07 am

I forgot about this. Fat people are attractive in Mauritania, for example.
https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/the- ... mauritania



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01 Mar 2017, 4:27 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
Alliekit wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
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Alliekit wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
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So. No single healthy weight women in my real world (they are all taken) and online dating makes me feel like worthless ugly s**t.
Yeah. Even the obese ones think they're too good for me.

How did the market become so heavily tipped in their favour that I need a degree while they don't need to maintain a healthy weight?


They have other things to offer


Precisely. You are after women in an age range that is extremely desirable to most eligible men.


True. Do women have have broad age range then men? If men have a narrower age range that might explain why women within that age range can afford to be choosy, even if they're fat and/or unemployed.


The thing is fat isn't the worst thing you can be so it doesnt mean a person had to lower their standards. Those of fat people are with attractive partners. I guess you just don't have as equal to offer as alot of fat girls.


Alliekit I can understand why this topic upsets you. I wasn't trying to offend you. Can't we bury the hatchet :)


I'm not being offended it is just the blunt honest truth. They have more other things to offer which is why they want more.



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01 Mar 2017, 4:36 am

^ what do you mean by "they want more"?



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01 Mar 2017, 4:50 am

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^ what do you mean by "they want more"?


Well retrogamer said even the fat girls want more. I guess that means they want like a funny good guy who has a job of some kind? I'm not sure what he meant by it.



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01 Mar 2017, 5:04 am

"The thing is fat isn't the worst thing you can be so it doesnt mean a person had to lower their standards. Those of fat people are with attractive partners. I guess you just don't have as equal to offer as alot of fat girls."

What did you mean by this Alliekit?



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01 Mar 2017, 5:57 am

Alliekit wrote:
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^ what do you mean by "they want more"?


Well retrogamer said even the fat girls want more. I guess that means they want like a funny good guy who has a job of some kind? I'm not sure what he meant by it.



Well, don't be offended at the Alliekit, but to be honest, I notice that overweight women are less picky in the looks department- this is very noticeable on dating sites. They tend don't seem mind my height or me being smaller than them.
And the fitter the woman the picker becomes, especially looks wise, they may become extremely picky.
Most rude comments on my looks and body came from fit women.

For example, it's very noticeable in my experience that overweight women are by far more likely to message me first on dating sites, If I message an overweight woman (they often hide that in their pics), they reply....always.

Also if I swipe right an obese woman by mistake on tinder I almost always get matched with her (which means she accepted me too).

Umm...this is true only for Caucasians though, Asians reply me even the ones with good shapes (they're rarely fat anyway).



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01 Mar 2017, 6:49 am

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"The thing is fat isn't the worst thing you can be so it doesnt mean a person had to lower their standards. Those of fat people are with attractive partners. I guess you just don't have as equal to offer as alot of fat girls."

What did you mean by this Alliekit?


Like I'd rather be with a fat person than someone who is rude, vindictive, a cheater, a golddigger, insensitive etc etc the list goes on



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01 Mar 2017, 6:51 am

Might have missed this but how do you guys define 'fat'?

Where I live most women are extremely tall and slender. I am average by my family genetic pool and size medium. But I am a curvy lady with a booty ;) which is not at all common in this country but very normal where I come from.
Still I have been called fat all my life and been extremely bullied in my teens and young adulthood which resulted in a severe eating disorder.

Never had trouble dating btw as I was more interested in either only sex or only friendship rather than relationships.

Don't care anymore as I get older and I avoid hanging out with people that are thin obsessed. I prefer people that are smart & kind like me.

I find dumb and rude people extremely off puting and not sexy at all.