My 20's were wasted

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Only reveal that if asked by someone in a speed date. Come up with a short, entirely positive summation of yourself, and ask the other person questions. Use the experience as data, not as evidence of future success.

ETA: I spend loads of time telling myself, "It's just data. It's just data."

i know the feeling. i'm almost 30 and i'm no where near where i want to be in my life. i thought that i would be in a committed relationship and working in a career i love, but i'm so far from getting any of those.

I would try to avoid "speed dating."

I don't understand why people do it, actually.

One cannot get at the true essence of a person under this format.

I've been conditioned to see things as something I need to win or I strike out of them. I couldn't find my balance on a skateboard so I never tried again. I failed an art class and didn't try again because I thought I had found my niche but failing it made me feel like I wasn't meant to do art. I couldn't protect myself against the school bullies so I felt like I would never win a fight and avoided physical confrontations.

I go through the day wanting a girlfriend but the day ends with me still being single. I feel like I shouldn't even continue existing.

If you understand how to do conditioning, you're halfway to a new condition.

Don't feel bad, I spent 3 and a half years as a shut in after graduating high school (: I was way too apathetic to date but even so I have no regrets.

At this point, I'd rather kill myself than wait another year.

I know you said when you fail you quit, but could you start to learn some new skills?
There's a website called freecodecamp, when you finish you get a web developer certificate and already have some webpages and apps built in your portfolio. It's completely free and you can do it at home online.
It's also a very helpful community if you get stuck.

I know you don't want to wait another year but if you couldn't get a girlfriend at your current state, what do you think will change? Nothing.

My 20s were also wasted. I didn't have sex until I was 28. Most people have sex in their teens. My teens were also wasted.

I didn't even try until I was about 25. When I was a teenager girls used to ask me out on dates and I'd say no because of social anxiety. Stupid, Stupid, Stupid,

Yes but if I do something at 31 that someone else did when they were 19 does that mean I'm immature compared to them?

Not necessarily.

I don't feel "immature" because I got my drivers' license at age 37, when most people get it at 18 or so.

I didn't get mine until I was 21.



I actually lost my virginity when I was 21. The first time I asked a girl out, I feared being told no so I said I was kidding. I wonder what my life could've been like if I just waited for her answer.

I don't believe it's that rare for people not to get their license until age 21.

It's much better for insurance rates, that's for sure.

I think for males its over 25 when the insurance rates go down xD And of course in NY its MUCH cheaper to get your license when you're older as opposed to being a teenager still

In my province they eliminated discrimination based on age/gender. Instead, all the insurance companies look at either a)years of being continually insured or b)years licensed. In other words, you can get a license at 16, not drive for 10+ years at all and still be classified at 'very low risk'. Meanwhile, you can drive continuously, have a perfect driving record, have a small gap in insurance due to buying a new car a month later and be labelled as 'very high risk'. I once had my company double my rates and label me as a brand new driver because I had a brief gap in insurance when I got my own car and off my parents plan. I switched companies after that nonsense. Another threated to drop me and send my file to the fraud department because I still lived with my parents and never disclosed it (they had their own plan and never touched my car). WTF?

Back to the topic at hand, you may think you 'wasted' that time by being single but other people would say they 'wasted' it by being wasted all the time, not saving money and getting into bad relationships. It's all in how you look at it.

Yiu might not but otheres will see yiu as immature and say your a man child that should be avoided.