Slys dating site advice help thread.

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I didn't say "taboo." I've spoken to women in the street.

Most of the time, they are respectful, but I sense that most would rather be left alone to listen to music or something. It might be "worse" for taller men. My shortness has allowed me to "get away" with some things. Perhaps because I hadn't a chance lol

Same with guys, by the way---though guys are usually slightly more amenable than women.

I don't like somebody telling me to "get real"--unless I do need to "get real."

No it’s me having asked and been rejected by women at work. Even the bigger ones think they too good for me.

Nearly all the women on wp have said women don’t want to be asked out while they taking the bus, gorcery shopping, etc that they get enough of it at bars and such and they just trying to live their life’s uninterrupted.

Women never pay attention to me, they never approach me, and they never try to talk to me. Most I get is nasty looks from women while I’m shopping, like how dare he look my direction. Probably cause I’m so ugly and fat , that or they can tell somewhere that I’m worthless financial.

Holidays are for couples. Nearly every single Christmas movie is a romantic love movie where a woman and man end up together. Happily every after. Even rudolf is a love story. Santa and Pete has a love story in it too. And Avery Halmark movie is love story. Like the one where a lady writes a letter to a soldier so he travels all way from Iraq to see her and ends up stealing her away from her husband to be. Blah. I use to enjoy them a lot. I use to watch them from wake to sleep all through December.

Ugh you just don’t get it. Your gay right? So I take it you believe in different sexuality. You saying there’s only one way to happiness and it’s from within is the same as people say there’s only one sexuality and it’s striagh and gay people just need fixed. Welll there’s many ways to happiness, from within is just one, there’s also people who find happiness from hobbies, or from buying things, and from being with others. I’m a social person we derive happiness from others. It’s not wrong or fake. It’s just different lik you finding guys attractive instead of women. Humans are different. We don’t all derive happiness from within we can’t all go live on a island alone and be happy. That’s not how the world works. I’m so tired of people who derive happiness from within telling me my happiness way is wrong and I just need to fix myself. I’m not broken. If I hadn’t been born and aspie I’d probably have no problem I’d be out socializing with people and deriving happiness from it. But I was born aspie. So I suck at socializing but I was also born to derive happiness from others . Is what it is. The happiest I’ve been was with friends. I’m not meant to be a hermit. I can’t derive happiness from within, or from hobbies,or from owning and collecting things. It’s not wrong

Se that’s the other problem. You and others think when someone ansocial person and drive happiness from others that means that others bestow it to you that’s false. They don’t have to do a single god dam thing . We derive happiness from simple interacting with them and spending time with them, doing things, talking. Companionship ship. They don’t bestow it t us. It’s quite normal most of the freaking worlds population drives happiness from interacting with other humans. Our species is a social species.. sure a lot of aspies and I guess you are anti social and happy alone. I’m not. I’m really tired of being told I’m born wron by aspies who prefer to be alone and be happy that way. Look you be you and I’ll be me. I’m not you , your way of happiness won’t work for me. Stop trying to make me be you.

I need friends and gf to be happy, I need daily social interaction to be happy. I’ve known people who don’t in fact daily social interaction makes them unhappy. They prefer to be alone. That’s not me.

I don't think women would find you "fat and ugly."

Many rich people dress like crap.....

Most women find me ugly.

After Christmas I’m going try hard to start going back to the gym to lose wieght.

I have happy times with other people, but they're not my only happy times. I'm not dependant on others for happiness.

Happiness is an emotion, agreed? Emotions are dictated by thoughts - they're our "touchy feely" reactions to the thoughts we're experiencing. It seems likely that you're happiest around other people because your thoughts are their most positive when you're interacting with friends or others. My point is that you need to get yourself into a mental head space that's more positive thinking, and thus feeling, when you're alone, too.. so that it's not ONLY when you're with others that you can experience contentment or happiness. If you're ONLY happy around someone else, it's called being codependent on others for your own happiness and it isn't a healthy way to go about your life as then you're constantly seeking others to be around in order to feel good instead of just feeling good as your regular baseline.

Anyway it's easier to be happy by yourself. You don't have to worry about the other person. You can do whatever you want.

You can fantasize about exotic women

I'm already dating an exotic woman

Just curious if sly may have tried any of the advice in this thread yet and how he's making out with it ?

I think the advice for having a level of ambition is helpful for anyone, no matter what predicament they're in.

Does Sly ever talk about having a level of ambition for himself?

I don't think Sly really has any ambition. He must surely realise that most girls prefer ambitious guys.

“Deriving happiness from within” doesn’t mean someone is antisocial or a hermit. It means they’re happy with who and what they are. You have it all wrong.

Not that I can talk, I’m so unhappy with who I am I’m planning to off myself at some point. But that’s what it means.

What? Why? Don't! I really admire you. You're so ambitious. You have an excellent work ethic. You have a level head. You're a really good person. Please don't off yourself.

I’m not ambitious about work at all like none. I have no interest in climbing Corp ladder. Nor can I due to my disability and situation. I’ve had every single dream and goal crushed since 18 so any ambition I had died out over 12 years of constant failure and being told I can’t cause I’m born wrong.

I’m have ambition in my games or hobbies. But that’s not the ambition women want. They mean career ambition so the guy will eventually make good money and keep making more and more. Until he becomes a ceo or something. Bleh so sad of a life in my opinion. Working their life away for what? They can’t take the money, House, car, objects with them when they die never having enjoyed life cause they were to busy working themselves to death for some rich cat. So no I’d rather make enough money to do things I enjoy which I do, and work the same job in the same city for the rest of my life. If you ask me most people need less ambition. As a society we are just working ourselves to a early grave, stressing our selves out, ignoring our kids. All to make a select few elites even richer.

I just wish I didn’t have to be alone and that there’d be similar women. But I guess that generalization is right, most guys are just lazy bums and women are super ambitious.

Yes ambition =money, most women like money. If lazy guys made good money and ambitious people didn’t I bet most women would prefer lazy guys. At least if a girl does ever like me it’ll be for me and not my job status. About the only good thst may come out of my life. Have fun working your self to dearth for rich people. Today it’s 60 hours few years it’ll be 80 hours then 100 hours then they replace you with a robot ai.

Though some women must go for unambitious men or such men wouldn’t been breed out due to dna not being passed down. So the fact there’s so many lazy men lacking ambition seems to point to good amount of women atleast in the past going for lazy men. Otherwise most men would be high level excutives and there’s be no fast food or retail workers.

Also question in this idea ambitious world. Who makes stuff? Who sells stuff? Who cooks food? Who stocks shelf’s? Who pumps gas? Who mows lawns? Who washes cars? Ambitious people don’t do that stuff. So who’d do it for them if everyone was ambitious? Society would ground to a halt. There’s be no commerce, no truck drivers, no construction workers all labor jobs would be empty. Society needs low income people to keep going. It’s a pyramid and you can’t have a pyramid withou the base support.

Probably not, but my personal opinion is that ambtion over those things is better than no ambtion at all, so if a woman asks you if you're ambtious or not, don't say no, say yes. If she wants to know more then tell her; certainly the results can't be worse than they'd be if you said you have no ambtion. Besides, you're right about there being no point in using all your time working without never having time to do anything nice if you're fine with the kind of lifestyle you can get with the money you're already earning.



Most people like having money. I mean, who doesn't? Money gets you a roof over your head, food on your table, a way to get to the places you want to go, nice things you like etc.



Nuhhuh, that's not how it goes. Yes, society would collapse without people who do stuff like that, but there is nothing that proves that these people aren't ambtious. Some people might not be, but I'm pretty sure most are. It's in human nature to try to go forward, to make one's own life better. Some of them might be ambtious about other things than work, like raising their children right or doing some kind of hobby, some of them might be working those jobs temporarily while studying for something more well paid/something they like more and some might actually like those jobs. I mean my godfather is a truck driver who really enjoys his job and is doing really well for himself financially.

And also, certain kind of construction workers make really good money. Not doctor level money, at least I don't think so, but really good money anyway.