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kraftiekortie
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12 Apr 2018, 10:35 am

One can be decisive and firm without one being a jerk.

That's the lesson the "bad boys" haven't learned yet.



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12 Apr 2018, 10:51 am

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
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I think the trap you are most likely to fall into retro, is being to apologetic, and thus coming off as being to needy. You need to own your own opinions, and not just say what you think she wants to hear. In 99% of cases this can make women angry at you initially, but ultimately she will respect you much more in the long run, and also be more attracted/in love with you.

Based on my experience this was true with every woman I dated including my wife. We rarely argue but more than once I have stood my ground on some issue (like making a major purchase), which is not something I did very often before meeting her. Even though she was momentarily upset with my decision you could see her attraction growing at the same time.

While I hate the term 'needy', I do agree with what you are saying. I would use the term "mentally strong" instead. Women as a general rule love men who can make a tough decision and stay with it, something the "bad boys" figured out a long time ago.


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12 Apr 2018, 1:20 pm

GiantHockeyFan wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
I think the trap you are most likely to fall into retro, is being to apologetic, and thus coming off as being to needy. You need to own your own opinions, and not just say what you think she wants to hear. In 99% of cases this can make women angry at you initially, but ultimately she will respect you much more in the long run, and also be more attracted/in love with you.

Based on my experience this was true with every woman I dated including my wife. We rarely argue but more than once I have stood my ground on some issue (like making a major purchase), which is not something I did very often before meeting her. Even though she was momentarily upset with my decision you could see her attraction growing at the same time.

While I hate the term 'needy', I do agree with what you are saying. I would use the term "mentally strong" instead. Women as a general rule love men who can make a tough decision and stay with it, something the "bad boys" figured out a long time ago.
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13 Apr 2018, 3:39 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
GiantHockeyFan wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
I think the trap you are most likely to fall into retro, is being to apologetic, and thus coming off as being to needy. You need to own your own opinions, and not just say what you think she wants to hear. In 99% of cases this can make women angry at you initially, but ultimately she will respect you much more in the long run, and also be more attracted/in love with you.

Based on my experience this was true with every woman I dated including my wife. We rarely argue but more than once I have stood my ground on some issue (like making a major purchase), which is not something I did very often before meeting her. Even though she was momentarily upset with my decision you could see her attraction growing at the same time.

While I hate the term 'needy', I do agree with what you are saying. I would use the term "mentally strong" instead. Women as a general rule love men who can make a tough decision and stay with it, something the "bad boys" figured out a long time ago.
Yes.

I'll be keeping this in mind.


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