Late 20's to 30's: dating & romance

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03 May 2018, 12:56 am

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Obviously women aren't attracted to intelligence, because our modern day geniuses have never married. I mean just look at Stephen Hawking, and Bill Gates, and Elon Musk, and....er, um.

Yup, poor geniuses just can't catch a break with the ladies who refuse to be attracted to them. :lol:



Yes but none of these names are “hot symbols”; they don’t have large fan base like drop dead gorgeous hollywood actors for example, nor you see female teens or young adults screaming for them like how we witness it for famous singers.

Most of these men tho did get married with women who are fairly atypical.

It’s the same for men when it comes to female scientists (unless the female scientist happens to be conventionally hot looking).



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03 May 2018, 12:59 am

I would say my main criterion for what I find attractive in people (friends and relationship wise) is intelligence. I think my dating history and small group of loyal and lasting friendships would beautifully provide a fair bit of empirical evidence to corroborate that (although there have been a few exceptions on the dating front when there were other factors at play). However, what has shifted over the years is how I define intelligence.


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03 May 2018, 1:00 am

karathraceandherspecialdestiny wrote:
Obviously women aren't attracted to intelligence, because our modern day geniuses have never married. I mean just look at Stephen Hawking, and Bill Gates, and Elon Musk, and....er, um.

Yup, poor geniuses just can't catch a break with the ladies who refuse to be attracted to them. :lol:


None of them are poor, they are all incredibly wealthy.



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03 May 2018, 1:04 am

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This thread might win a prize for tastelessness and tunnel vision, through no fault of the OP, whose genuine questions were drowned out by ensuing prejudice, insensitivity and others wheeling out their predictable barrows for yet another outing.


This thread isn't exactly lacking in gratuitous sarcasm as the go-to way to meet any attempt to gain some insight on the topic at hand, either.


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03 May 2018, 1:15 am

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Something you learn in science, is that to prove any sort of correlation, you have to isolate the independant variables.
If we were to make a list of traits, that correlate most with female attraction.
Intelligence on it's own, loses to good looks or wealth on their own.


Assuming you have an unbiased sample. I have to wonder what sort of women the guys (and average guys in general) here attract, considering they’ll take whatever they can get. They seem slu*ty and promiscuous, have children to other fathers, are often in other relationships, often stupid and insecure as well. That’s really bottom of the barrel.

What you’re saying is true, to a point. But don’t get lost in projection here.



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03 May 2018, 1:24 am

B19 wrote:
This thread might win a prize for tastelessness and tunnel vision



There's a strong light at the end of this tunnel though....can you see it? Can you? It's soooo beautiful.


*note: my friends smoke hash next to me yesterday.



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03 May 2018, 1:28 am

Also the term "sapiosexual" is utter bs and incredibly prententious.

Only when you ladies marry a poor, obese guy with low social status, but has an IQ of 200, can you claim to be "sapiosexual".

When you say things like income, height and health are requirements, that is by definition, exactly the same as saying those traits the most important.

If I set up certain nutritional requirements for myself, that is by definition the same as saying: These macro and micronutrients are the most important. My daily intake of protein, is much more important than ice cream, even though I might really like ice cream.

Minimum requirements, are by definition traits and characteristics that are deemed most important. Intelligence is more like a cherry on top, but height, income and health are usually requirements.
I've never seen a girl on tinder have "needs have an iq of atleast 130" in her profile. I've seen many many many women have "needs to have certain height" or "needs to make certain amount of money".



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03 May 2018, 1:29 am

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"Sapiosexual" is the only tattoo I ever seriously considered getting. :wink:


So what do you fantasize about when you masturbate?

Why none of you is answering this question btw? Is it too personal? :|



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03 May 2018, 1:38 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
Something you learn in science, is that to prove any sort of correlation, you have to isolate the independant variables.
If we were to make a list of traits, that correlate most with female attraction.
Intelligence on it's own, loses to good looks or wealth on their own.


Assuming you have an unbiased sample. I have to wonder what sort of women the guys (and average guys in general) here attract, considering they’ll take whatever they can get. They seem slu*ty and promiscuous, have children to other fathers, are often in other relationships, often stupid and insecure as well. That’s really bottom of the barrel.

What you’re saying is true, to a point. But don’t get lost in projection here.


Everyone here is projecting, so that is a moot point.
That goes for the women here who say "I am attracted to intelligence" and then conclude intelligence is an important trait in this context. Anyone can say that, and it sounds great.
However, I'd be willing to bet that I am around more women in my day to day life than most people here, as my field of study consist of mostly women, several of whom I share good friendships with.
I am not blaming anything, I am simply trying to figure out what traits predict female attraction, through real world observation and analysis.

But I challenge anyone here to spend 1 year at university, and then still come to the conclusion that intelligence is a good predictor of female attraction. The smartest male students here are not lusted after, not even by smart female students, and that is just a fact.



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03 May 2018, 1:45 am

Closet Genious wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
Something you learn in science, is that to prove any sort of correlation, you have to isolate the independant variables.
If we were to make a list of traits, that correlate most with female attraction.
Intelligence on it's own, loses to good looks or wealth on their own.


Assuming you have an unbiased sample. I have to wonder what sort of women the guys (and average guys in general) here attract, considering they’ll take whatever they can get. They seem slu*ty and promiscuous, have children to other fathers, are often in other relationships, often stupid and insecure as well. That’s really bottom of the barrel.

What you’re saying is true, to a point. But don’t get lost in projection here.


Everyone here is projecting, so that is a moot point.
That goes for the women here who say "I am attracted to intelligence" and then conclude intelligence is an important trait in this context. Anyone can say that, and it sounds great.
However, I'd be willing to bet that I am around more women in my day to day life than most people here, as my field of study consist of mostly women, several of whom I share good friendships with.
I am not blaming anything, I am simply trying to figure out what traits predict female attraction, through real world observation and analysis.

But I challenge anyone here to spend 1 year at university, and then still come to the conclusion that intelligence is a good predictor of female attraction. The smartest male students here are not lusted after, not even by smart female students, and that is just a fact.


Are your smartest male classmates happen to be ugly, short or/and fat? Because it's the looks which I notice to matter most.



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03 May 2018, 1:50 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
Something you learn in science, is that to prove any sort of correlation, you have to isolate the independant variables.
If we were to make a list of traits, that correlate most with female attraction.
Intelligence on it's own, loses to good looks or wealth on their own.


Assuming you have an unbiased sample. I have to wonder what sort of women the guys (and average guys in general) here attract, considering they’ll take whatever they can get. They seem slu*ty and promiscuous, have children to other fathers, are often in other relationships, often stupid and insecure as well. That’s really bottom of the barrel.

What you’re saying is true, to a point. But don’t get lost in projection here.


Everyone here is projecting, so that is a moot point.
That goes for the women here who say "I am attracted to intelligence" and then conclude intelligence is an important trait in this context. Anyone can say that, and it sounds great.
However, I'd be willing to bet that I am around more women in my day to day life than most people here, as my field of study consist of mostly women, several of whom I share good friendships with.
I am not blaming anything, I am simply trying to figure out what traits predict female attraction, through real world observation and analysis.

But I challenge anyone here to spend 1 year at university, and then still come to the conclusion that intelligence is a good predictor of female attraction. The smartest male students here are not lusted after, not even by smart female students, and that is just a fact.


Are your smartest male classmates happen to be ugly, short or/and fat?


Some of them yes, but that shouldn't matter to someone who is "sapiosexual".

There are many students here who are way smarter than me, and I simply don't see any sort of correlation between intelligence and attraction.



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03 May 2018, 1:52 am

Closet Genious wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Closet Genious wrote:
Something you learn in science, is that to prove any sort of correlation, you have to isolate the independant variables.
If we were to make a list of traits, that correlate most with female attraction.
Intelligence on it's own, loses to good looks or wealth on their own.


Assuming you have an unbiased sample. I have to wonder what sort of women the guys (and average guys in general) here attract, considering they’ll take whatever they can get. They seem slu*ty and promiscuous, have children to other fathers, are often in other relationships, often stupid and insecure as well. That’s really bottom of the barrel.

What you’re saying is true, to a point. But don’t get lost in projection here.


Everyone here is projecting, so that is a moot point.
That goes for the women here who say "I am attracted to intelligence" and then conclude intelligence is an important trait in this context. Anyone can say that, and it sounds great.
However, I'd be willing to bet that I am around more women in my day to day life than most people here, as my field of study consist of mostly women, several of whom I share good friendships with.
I am not blaming anything, I am simply trying to figure out what traits predict female attraction, through real world observation and analysis.

But I challenge anyone here to spend 1 year at university, and then still come to the conclusion that intelligence is a good predictor of female attraction. The smartest male students here are not lusted after, not even by smart female students, and that is just a fact.


Are your smartest male classmates happen to be ugly, short or/and fat?


Some of them yes, but that shouldn't matter to someone who is "sapiosexual".

There are many students here who are way smarter than me, and I simply don't see any sort of correlation between intelligence and attraction.



A sapiosexual would certainly lust for a big brainy head in a jar like me.



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03 May 2018, 1:55 am

Then you could incorporate a lecture about programming as foreplay.



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03 May 2018, 1:56 am

University is basically a frat house. I don’t know what you expect from bunching a bunch of kids together living away from home for the first time.

I don’t get the whole fixation of people here. Yes, ugly socially inept men never got anyone at school. Neither did women with aspergers, though. There were two in my year. Me, and one other.

My looks certainly aren’t even close to being “hideous” and it didn’t help me. I was quite happy minding my own business so that was okay. There are more to social dynamics than this.

Plenty of plainly average men and women are extremely promicuious.

Looks clearly play a part, they get people initially interested. Though one guy with a pocked face managed to date the prettiest girl in my year, simply for being cool and not socially inept. Was about 5 foot 6.

It definitely is not just unattractive people who struggle, nor is it only above average people who win.

Aspergers generally puts people below average to the “cool people” unless we work very hard to not be.

I still can’t believe so many people refuse to believe that it’s the main contributing factor.



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03 May 2018, 2:05 am

Closet Genious wrote:
Then you could incorporate a lecture about programming as foreplay.


My function to evaluate the intellectual compatibility with any potential woman.

Code:
var sapioSexyNights= [];

var willWeFuck  = function (myIQ, herIQ){
If (myIQ > 150 && herIQ > 150) {

sapioSexyNights.push("possible cheese and wine sexy night on " + new Date())}

else {console.log("watching cat videos on youtube alone")};

}



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03 May 2018, 2:21 am

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Plenty of plainly average men and women are extremely promicuious.


Like me?