What's the point for Aspie men to date?

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Tamarind's a tough cookie---with a long history

But at least she doesn't break people's hearts....

One thing I'd love to offer is for people to send me a message as though they are contacting me on a dating site. And I could give critique about whether I'd reply or not, what I found attractive/not attractive, etc.

I see this as more practical and helpful advice than giving broad tips based on vague statements about one's situation.

But the problem is, I'm not yer average girl on a dating site, so my reaction won't be the "norm". It's just one girl's opinion. One verrrry picky girl, hahaha.

I think you have substance, Tamarin.

I find that you are more like "the woman in the street" than those people on dating sites. You know....a woman who goes to work every day. Who might have kids. Who has responsibilities. A "regular" woman.

Women I meet in everyday life tend to have more moderate opinions than women on the Internet.

I've never met a "third-wave feminist"----ever. I've met feminists, yes. And a few who believe in the "patriarchy" or whatever. But you can have a reasonable argument with them.

Only women and men who are really angry and out of touch tend to express "radical" opinions often seen online.

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Interesting! I don't find myself to be much like that at all! Isn't it fascinating, the impressions we give off compared to how we see ourselves...

Of course, I'd have to meet you in person in order to really "have an idea."

But that's my impression.

I am not really saying that I am upset to cause a reaction in you, I don't really care and I like being angry. Besides I don't think Sly is so ret*d that he can't take a smiling pic of himself.

Attractiveness is a mix of factors like charm, confidence, beauty, status, intellect, often money, and many others. Given that he's self-admittedly lacking in many of these aspects, he can at least work out to be more beautiful, and he can do that without learning artificial behaviours he can stressfully try to use with girls to simulate a charm he doesn't naturally possess.
There's also a good chance that succeeding in this could help him build some confidence and charm the natural way, which would change his pessimistic mentality.
Other less important advices that come to my mind now are: stop mentioning shaving and cleaning your guns everyday (this one stop doing maybe? Do they even need it everyday?) among your hobbies and perhaps gaming too, stop posting crying or rolleyes smilies, stop using the word super to amplify the value of adjectives.

I would agree that talking about cleaning guns is not suitable for conversations with girls----and shaving, too.

No, I'm not into "artificial" behaviors. I was just talking about taking a picture. A person DOES usually look much better with a subtle smile than with a neutral expression.

Yep....and forget about the smilies, etc. I agree with that.

I lack the motivation to stick to my diet or go to the gym(haven’t been in weeks)
Right now I’m thinking of buying no bake cookies after work.
I’m hungry all the time.
I’ve gained 8 pounds back or so.
Keeping to 1600 calories is really hard
I don’t even have motivation to shave anymore

You’d have to make a fake profile first. Otherwise it’s just going be hia how’s it going which is what I send to profiles who have no info or pictures

I’ve posted my profile I don’t mention anything about shaving or guns. Most women here are anti gun though i dont know why I hide it since it’s nvwer work out with a anti gun woman and me. I’m super pro gun I carry a gun every day I’m not working. I sleep next to a few guns. I watch gun videos every day. No they won’t like me at all

Most women looked at my pic then read that I work retail and that’s the end of thst.
I’ve had a few women like my pictures but not want to message once they read I’m low paid.
Most say unless you have a good job car and own place not to message them

Alright then. In regards to shared interests and compatible personalities, I consider similar musical tastes to be of particular importance, yet I'm attracted to girls who like music like this:



While I prefer music like this:



This



and this



Any advice?