puzzledoll wrote:
sly279 wrote:
I wonder if I’d left out the mom part if people been as reactionary.
Something like "How does a single stay at home parent make enough money to make ends meet?" would have been a good way to go. I know several and aranger, I think it was, mentioned how their mom does it. Many people have told you possible ways. The way the original post was phrased very much comes across as being judgmental of the mom for not working and makes it seem like you think it has to be alimony (ie some wounded ex supporting her lazy ass). There is literally NO way you can know how that specific stay at home mom supports herself unless she chose to tell you. Setting it up aimed at one specific dating site profile of a woman made it feel very judgmental of that specific woman who we literally know nothing about and never will. There is no way to answer how she supports herself.
I saw her profile and I wonder how I used it as example. I didn’t share her name or profile so I don’t see how it’s bad. I really do feel men just can’t talk about women here like at all. Seems wp puts women on a pedestal.
People judge me all the time without knowing my reasons or situation that’s just how the world works. They do it to my face, it’s not like I messaged her rudely and and judged her. I just came to ask what I believed to be a harmless question and people took it personal for reasons beyond me.
On a side note
I’m so tired of this “ have you’re life together” s**t.
Why not just date people who’ll love you , make you happy and treat you well?