It’s driving me crazy...

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Yep. Heinous stuff.

Thing is, though, you were with her two years and you’re not taking it well. Who would? Given time, though, you can start looking for someone else and try to forget this nightmare ever happened.

This girl is disgusting. You’re better off now.

it is a nightmare

and so my tinnitus now

Ms Bea, I am recalling something very concerning. - about a month and half ago, a strange symptom occured to her; she woke up with a very red face, her whole legs weree itching... we thought it was allergy, she has a history of allergy to some food like shrimps.

Then pimples ravaged her chin, around her lips, , her legs, and her body, back and shoulders mostly - those pimples turned black after few days and fell off.

I jokingly said when I first saw them “Umm these look like herpes”, it was my first thought, she felt offended and told me don’t joke like that and it’s just allergy.


I have no symptom of anything yet but I must check it asap.

The thing is I really highly regard her, I put her on pedestal, look what i said about her last sept: viewtopic.php?t=368016


Also Ms Bea, how will I do background checks and verifications with a future gf? Spy cams? Hiring investigators? What a love life is that?

I dunno how I will love again, maybe i ll have a mental erectile dysfuction too, I feel an ultimate digust from the sex memories with her.
She really destroyed my my soul and probably my health too.

Well, there's the internet, you should be able to find stuff out. Like a LinkedIn profile or whatever they have in your world. Does she have a family nearby? You want to meet them. Stuff should make sense, not need a scaffolding of lies to explain.

Anyway, enough from me. I prescribe a 30 day cooling off period during which you stop thinking about your love life.

Highly regarded* , in the past.

I think non-monogamous types can feel for more than one person. She loved you in the moment. In that moment, it wasn't fake. It just wasn't long lasting. It doesnt mean you can't be loved again.

But obviously cheating is wrong and you have a right to be upset about it.

hurtloam, when I caught her yesterday her face was very expressionless most of the time, totally deprived of emotions - like a vampire I swear. Even when she acted teary when I cried at some point, her face was like ice, I would barely recognize her. As if it's this was her true feelings all along and finally there was no use to hide it anymore.

that's just sociopathic...lies, cheating, so many empty words.

i'm so sorry that you had to go through such a thing.

Holy f**k, that was an intense story, but im glad that you were able to find some inner peace from it.
Clearly she was trying to do some damage mitigation, but at that point it was impossible.
The behavior is typical for manipulative women... nothing is her fault, everything "happens to her" and she has no agency over what she does.
Personally I would not have seen her again, but it's good that it went well for you and you were able to talk out your feelings and get the clarity you needed.

Oh man, I was trying to find a silver lining.
That's harsh.

The only person in this story who's giving me hope that there's still some good in some people is her roommate, really , I am no friend of hers and I barely know her, we only met once when i visited them, when she saw our pic together on that dating app (where me and ex actually met), she came out of blue telling me everything while risking to get herself in trouble, she couldn't stand her lies on someone she barely knows.

Appearances are really deceiving, my gf looked so innocent with angelic smiles, while this roommate has a very bulky and strong look, like a WWF wrestler with a resting jerk face, personalities and faces don't match really.

I did tell her when i faced her that she can win the Oscars.

UPDATE : i have just been contacted by a guy, not her same current guy, who saw our pic together on the dating app (that i forgot to remove), and he guessed her name right and where she lived, he told me he dated her few times a month ago and didn't know that she had a boyfriend. She had sex with him, I asked him if it was for money he said no, she just wanted sex for the sake of sex.

My goodness....

Boo, get off that dating site. You need a break.

You can always go back when you're ready. But the last thing you need right now is more drama.