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09 Apr 2019, 8:34 am

None of what you say is necessarily "passed on through genes."



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13 Apr 2019, 8:14 pm

I'm happy for you.



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14 Apr 2019, 12:07 am

Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.



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14 Apr 2019, 1:40 am

hurtloam wrote:
Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.

First of all, I think it's pretty likely that most people would feel very differently about a child and their child. I don't really like being around other people's children, but I get the distinct impression that I'd feel differently about children who I've contributed to creating, in the same way that I feel differently about music that I've created myself and other people's music. Challenges are inevitable with children, but that doesn't mean they're not ultimately worth it, but I guess it depends who you ask.

Also, children don't stay children forever.



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14 Apr 2019, 1:52 am

hurtloam wrote:
Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.


What Grand said, also I have mixed feelings about it.
It’s like I find it pointless to even think whether I want kids or not.



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14 Apr 2019, 6:48 am

I wouldn't mind getting more children. Would be fun. It can take half a lifetime to find a suitable soul mate.



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14 Apr 2019, 6:26 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.


What Grand said, also I have mixed feelings about it.
It’s like I find it pointless to even think whether I want kids or not.


Ah so you're open to the possibility. I am not at all.

I'm scared I meet someone and everything else works, but he wants children. I really, really don't.



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14 Apr 2019, 9:20 pm

hurtloam wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.


What Grand said, also I have mixed feelings about it.
It’s like I find it pointless to even think whether I want kids or not.


Ah so you're open to the possibility. I am not at all.

I'm scared I meet someone and everything else works, but he wants children. I really, really don't.

So then like I said in the other thread, you'd be smart to figure out a strategy to get that information off of anyone you fancy before you even so much as imagine having a relationship with that particular guy.



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15 Apr 2019, 3:18 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
Here's a question for you Boo. Do you like children?

I like them enough to be around for maybe a couple of hours every so often. I don't want one living in my house. I think I'd go crazy. I find children very tiring and I'm tired all the time anyway. Having to parent a child would lead to a life of complete exhaustion for me.

First of all, I think it's pretty likely that most people would feel very differently about a child and their child. I don't really like being around other people's children, but I get the distinct impression that I'd feel differently about children who I've contributed to creating, in the same way that I feel differently about music that I've created myself and other people's music. Challenges are inevitable with children, but that doesn't mean they're not ultimately worth it, but I guess it depends who you ask.

Also, children don't stay children forever.


Of course, your own child has much better chances of disappointing you utterly. If the kid grows up into a total ratbag you'll spend the rest of your life wondering what you did wrong.