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I feel more and more that my time here is over.

I'm sorry that you feel that way.

I wanted to one day post that I finally got a girlfriend but I can’t even get started due to the quarantine.

If it’s wasn’t for the quarantine and you could get started today, what would you do? Are you ready?

If you’re not 100% ready, what can you do during quarantine to prepare yourself to get started the day this shutdown stuff ends?

I have pretty much have accepted that I will be alone forever.It's a very hard thing to do,but sometimes it might best to know when it's time to give up.Atleast you did date before.I never even get a woman to like me on a friendship,let alone on a roamntic level before. I starting feel it's more pointless for us as Aspie men to even conversve with women outside of family,let alone trying befriend women,or trying date women.Women just don't like our social Awkwardness that comes with being a Aspie.Odds are so heavily stacked against us to point where I'm not sure if it's worth the effort for Aspie men to try to reach out to women,knowing it's going lead to rejection.It's very sad,but it may be true.

It's a good thing you can't speak for all of us, because not all of us struggle to the same degree and some of us are more capable of improving in terms of awkwardness and handling awkwardness. It also depends on the women you expose yourself to (ba-dumdum-tsh), some people have a higher tolerance and compatibility for awkwardness than others. Both men and women with ASD struggle in this regard to varying levels, so framing it as entirely a problem for males to suffer because of women really sounds like unfairly blaming women in general for a problem that is not their fault and that many of them on this site also suffer just as severely as you do.

Women in my area tend to very conservative in their outlooks on life and usually don’t have male friends because their boyfriends/husbands can get hostile over that (if the guy has a girlfriend himself, they won’t get mad but if the guy is single, they will get aggressive) but the women who are liberal that I know tend to form tight knitted social groups. The ones I know don’t include or invite me to do things and I am not sure why. I have told some of them I am socially isolated but they don’t appear to be interested in making new friends.

However, I personally don’t like some of the liberal women I know. One of them is one of the bitter middle aged women who give me huge amounts of stress at work. The other bitter women, including the library director, are conservative. Another one made me decide to leave the Meet Up group I used to be a part of after she blew up on me for something completely trivial.

I had to go into work today even though the library is still closed to the public and the same people who stress me out are all in.

I can’t put wanting a girlfriend on the back burner at all. This thread needs to go now since that idea just can’t be met.