CubsBullsBears wrote:
Talked to my therapist about this situation. She said that it’s possible that the girl thought that I was giving her a piece of paper for her to throw away and never even looked at it. I suppose that I could go back to the store and if I get a chance to talk to her with no one around, I’ll ask her if she saw it and see how she responds. I still think the odds of having a relationship with her are low at this point, but I’d be remiss if I didn’t explore this possibility.
I would advise against going back this soon after and asking about it. I've found that people tend to find this level of persistence to be off-putting. As autists we are inclined to hyper-focus on things, making it hard to play the waiting game that is dating. I understand why you're anxious for a resolution, but being on the receiving end of that intense focus seems to signal to NTs that your desperate. Obviously this is a faulty conclusion, but I've heard it said many times before.
It took me many years to learn how to tone down my need to speed through all of the steps to the end goal (i.e. the relationship), so I know this is hard advice to take.
Here's what I would suggest:
Don't make a point of retuning to the shop in the next few days (or even week). If you need to go in and she's there act as you normally would. If she is less friendly than usual, that may be a sign she got the note and wasn't interested. If she continues to act as she had done previously then, in a few weeks casually ask her if she would like to go out sometime.