Can you tell when you get hit on?

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I think you are a bit hard on yourself. Based on your related experiences, you do get a lot of attention.

Well, at times you certainly talk like a guy.
I like that.

I can tell when I’m being hit on usually. But I’m terrible at flirting.

I bet League Girl is a total babe! She’s probably pretty hard on herself in the looks department.

Shows that also women also don't think about guys just as friends and know very well that they are hanging out with them just because of sexual expectations. They seem to call them friends if they have friend zoned them and won't ever give them a try. Otherwise would hang out with a guy and call him friend if they have a crush on him. Whithout any sexual attraction most women and men dislike to hang out with the opposite gender because they don't share as many interests but women seem to be less honest about that even that they are very aware of it.

She's been on WP a long time and I once stumbled upon a news video for which it was claimed she appeared as a participant in a protest. This would have been over 10 years ago, I think. At the risk of being too frank, from what I saw I would say that, at that time, she was somebody I would have hit on had I been that age and thought I had a chance. Of course peoples' appearance can change over time so I can't honestly say whether she would impress me nowadays as the sort of lady a young dude would hit on. However, I would like to think her husband was right.

When I was a teenager, I was extremely unpopular in fact if I found myself as part of a group of teenagers whom I'd never before met, I would probably be the least popular of the group within a month (I am also possibly one of the least popular WP member LOL). As a consequence, I often got the message I was unattractive. However, later on I was sometimes hit on, in fact sometimes I was sometimes hit on quite obviously, although I don't recall this happening any earlier than when I was twenty-two.

In my early 30s, I began working out and unexpectedly noticed a change in how young women looked at me so this is the one thing I will recommend to guys asking for help in finding dates.

Here is a poor-quality photo of me in my mid-twenties in case any women here want to ask themselves whether they would have considered hitting on me based on looks:

Ah, you talk like girl. Keep on talking that talk, I like that. Tongue twister.
'I scream, you scream, we all scream, for ice cream~'

There was this one lady I knew in college. I remember seeing her in one of my classes and thinking she was very attractive, but I never talked to her. After that I noticed her around campus occasionally but not often because she lived off campus. A few years later I ran into her in the campus clubhouse and we actually talked. We got to be on friendly terms and chatted online a lot, but she had a boyfriend. Eventually she told me her boyfriend broke up with her and she felt sad for a while. This wasn't the first time that a lady had been friendly toward me without any romantic intention. I didn't notice any change in how she talked to me after she became single. At one point she tried to set me up with her best friend, but that was when she still had a boyfriend. We kept talking online. At one point she was complaining about random guys hitting on her at work. I interpreted that to mean she didn't want to be asked out. It was soon after this that my abusive ex approached me, and that relationship left me all broken ever since. I still can't help thinking about how my life might have been different if I had the courage to at least try.

You have a decent history. You were screwed over by someone. I've been screwed over, too.

Why can't you "try" now? I'm serious. It's not a lost cause for you. And don't talk about being 39 years of age being "old." I'm going to be 60 in five days, and I'm not old! I have gray hair and a receding hairline----but I'm not old. And only my wife thinks I'm old because she sees me limping after I've walked and ran 5 miles. Nobody else thinks I'm old.

Decent people don't want to lead anyone on, so won't hang out with an opposite sex friend in case they think it means something more, but may genuinely like the friend as a person and want to hang out with them. Some people genuinely are friends and don't need to worry. It's unfair to say that men and women don't get along. I like having guy friends because women don't tend to like the same music as me.

I have some male acquaintances. Most are married these days, but I feel like I can't hang out with them as just buddies because their wives will hate me or they might take my friendship the wrong way. I think some of the wives hate me anyway.

One guy is a genuine doofus. He said I could pop over to their house any time for a cup of tea if I'm feeling down (pre-covid). They had an older friend living on her own who would just drop in. I know his wife. She's the jealous type and would not be down for me dropping in at all, even if her hubby thinks I'm in the same category as their old lady friend lol.

I'm a "doofus" type, too....but that's part of my charm

That's part of his charm too. He genuinely tries to help people and cares about people.

We need more "doofus" types like that.

I'm sick of all this emphasis on being "hip" or whatever....

I have interests I talk to guys about without going there with the thoughts. To me it's a choice. Obviously if we didn't have choice we would hit on married people and people we think have a disgusting self esteem and aren't cute enough besides that, or creepy people. But we can erase those expectations/possibilities from the beginning or once we find out they're taken, etc.
This tells me that you would date or do any girl you became friends with if you could. But most guys desire just one ultimately.
Not to mention that some girls aren't interested in sex or dating.
Men like you can't be just friends with women like me, though, now, can they. ;D We gotta cuddle up and hang out to have all the fun. Touch my hands and share candy with me

The point isn't that I got screwed over by someone. Its that no one other than the one person who screwed me over has ever wanted to date or be in a relationship with me.

I can't try now because I don't even know any women in my age range who are single. And it was already that way even long before the pandemic started. On the extremely rare occasions when I did meet a woman who was single and that I liked, those women made it very clear that they have no interest in me, at least not romantically or sexually.

I never said I'm old. What I am saying is that I am far beyond the age at which everyone else I know has life figured out and is married, has children, has advanced in their careers, owns a home and has a significant amount of savings in their bank account. So I'm not old, but I am too old for where I am in life compared to where I should be.