Fed up with an aspie husband

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I would agree that being married to an Aspie can be difficult but I believe that it can also be difficult for an Aspie to be married to an NT. When I read posts here by members who are or who have been in relationships, there are two main types of issues. NTs who are in bad relationships with Aspies or people they suspect of being Aspie & the NT is trying their best but failing miserably. & the other type is an Aspie who is in a bad relationship with an NT or someone who has some other disorders & the Aspie is trying their best but failing miserably. I wonder if sometimes both types are two sides of the same coin so to speak. Maybe the NT & the Aspie are both trying their best but neither can see the other's perspective or side. Understanding is very important for both within a relationship. NTs can have bad relationships with other NTs & Aspies can have bad relationships with other Aspies. Both partners need to try & work together & meet each other halfway in any relationship.
That said I also wonder why some people get in serious relationships in the 1st place. A couple had major problems when they were dating & they get married or have kids somehow expecting that things would suddenly be better even thou the problems did not really get better while they were dating. People should NOT get in relationships expecting a frog to suddenly transform into a prince/princess like in some Disney fairy-tale. The movie Shrek is much more realistic. Someone who was born an ogre will always be an ogre. An ogre can work on himself & make various changes in his life & personality to accommodate others but he still won't stop being an ogre.