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11 Oct 2022, 2:16 am

Because extroverts dominate the field.



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11 Oct 2022, 9:34 am

I've always been drawn to the loners. Popular people are usually loud, and have a big social circle - none of that appeals to me.

Socially awkward and shy loners appear mysterious to me.


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11 Oct 2022, 10:06 am

^You certainly would have dug me in high school!



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11 Oct 2022, 10:12 am

^ You're lucky you didn't know me in highschool. Or college. Or uni. I would have dug my heels into you to introduce myself.


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11 Oct 2022, 10:17 am

^I guess now you just dig your fingernails into the person you're introducing yourself to.....



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11 Oct 2022, 12:39 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
^You certainly would have dug me in high school!

Jokes aside, I would have been nice to you. I was always mean to the chad/bad boy types.

Posts on L&D where they complain about women going for that type completely confuse me as that is not my experience.


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11 Oct 2022, 2:46 pm

It's actually not many women's experience.

I was mostly a reject in high school-----because I wasn't either a blatant nerd, a blatant "new wave" type, or a blatant jock.



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11 Oct 2022, 4:07 pm

Where_am_I wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
^You certainly would have dug me in high school!

Jokes aside, I would have been nice to you. I was always mean to the chad/bad boy types.

Posts on L&D where they complain about women going for that type completely confuse me as that is not my experience.


What is your opinion on the chad/bad boy type if he is on the spectrum?



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11 Oct 2022, 4:27 pm

Where_am_I wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
^You certainly would have dug me in high school!

Jokes aside, I would have been nice to you. I was always mean to the chad/bad boy types.

Posts on L&D where they complain about women going for that type completely confuse me as that is not my experience.


On average, bad boys are more popular when it comes to dating/sex. That's where the posts come from.

In any case, I'm glad to hear you're drawn to shy/socially awkward guys. That means most, if not all, of us (on here) would be your type.



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11 Oct 2022, 4:28 pm

Mitchell M. wrote:
Where_am_I wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
^You certainly would have dug me in high school!

Jokes aside, I would have been nice to you. I was always mean to the chad/bad boy types.

Posts on L&D where they complain about women going for that type completely confuse me as that is not my experience.


What is your opinion on the chad/bad boy type if he is on the spectrum?


It's highly unlikely (impossible even) for a guy on the spectrum to be a bad boy.

Looks-wise, I suppose we can be Chads. However, the stereotypical Chad is generally every bit as smooth socially as he is looks-wise.



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11 Oct 2022, 8:10 pm

SkinnyElephant wrote:

It's highly unlikely (impossible even) for a guy on the spectrum to be a bad boy.



Well, if one DID exist, we wouldn't find him on here. LOL!! :D



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11 Oct 2022, 8:16 pm

One thing I will say is that I NEVER recall getting the label or comment of "creepy" behind my back. I've heard "weird", "strange", "not all there", "something up with him"... guess it helped that I had about an 8.5/10 rating from having handsomeness which my close circle of friends attested to, including a platonic female friend, and that I worked out regularly. So I had moderate success at the clubs and occasional success on dates with girls.

I think the "creepy" label tends to be more for the very unattractive men who engage in similar behaviours to the average Aspie. Like, if someone looked like George Costanza or Wallace Shawn and acted in a "bizarre" socially awkward fashion towards women, yeah, they'd creep them out. But if it was someone who looked like Chris Hemsworth or Matthew McConaghey (particularly in the 90s or 2000s), they'd be unlikely to get the "creepy" label.

That's just how our society works. Heck even Ted Bundy was able to bypass women's "creepy" radar... :(



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12 Oct 2022, 4:14 am

^ I wouldn't give any of them the creepy label, regardless of what they look like.

I don't know about others, but I've only ever seen much older men as creepy. For example, a 70 something wanting to date me when I was 30 - my first thought was creepy.

It was judgemental of me, to be fair, and there was nothing creepy about him. I obviously had an issue with big age differences.


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12 Oct 2022, 6:46 am

Jayo wrote:
One thing I will say is that I NEVER recall getting the label or comment of "creepy" behind my back. I've heard "weird", "strange", "not all there", "something up with him"... guess it helped that I had about an 8.5/10 rating from having handsomeness which my close circle of friends attested to, including a platonic female friend, and that I worked out regularly. So I had moderate success at the clubs and occasional success on dates with girls.

I think the "creepy" label tends to be more for the very unattractive men who engage in similar behaviours to the average Aspie. Like, if someone looked like George Costanza or Wallace Shawn and acted in a "bizarre" socially awkward fashion towards women, yeah, they'd creep them out. But if it was someone who looked like Chris Hemsworth or Matthew McConaghey (particularly in the 90s or 2000s), they'd be unlikely to get the "creepy" label.

That's just how our society works. Heck even Ted Bundy was able to bypass women's "creepy" radar... :(



This is a truth, but of course I perdict some will come here and deny it all and be like "bUt nOO iT AlL aBoUt pERsonalITY oNLY"



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12 Oct 2022, 9:28 am

^ It's not denial if that's how they feel. :roll: If you don't believe it, then that's your problem.


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12 Oct 2022, 9:49 am

My "creepy" radar beeps at desperate men.
Socially awkward ones who have otherwise interesting lives (plenty of them in the Faculty of Physics) are fine.


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