What Are Your Biggest Put-Offs?

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Put-offs? Needy or over emotional people who go solely on emotion... it could only frustrate and exhaust me. People like that need to learn a few things in this realm... I won't lie I obviously need to learn things in this realm too but I started out like that... it just isn't good and it's very bad for your self-esteem and how people may perceive you. I got stronger and stronger... but for the 'real thing' I've had very few chances to put my new self into practice.

Also... people who try to manipulate in day to day life. Screw that I'm my own guy with my own perceptions and views on things, with my own life. What can I say... my ex was like that. It put me off people in her age group. So... I'm 18 now and she's 16 so yeah I'm never gonna go for anyone 2 years younger than myself until I'm at an age where there isn't an emotional maturity gap between them sorts of ages.

I have a lot of self pride... I'm sorry if I sound arrogant lol it's not intended I'm just trying to look out for myself.

Hear, hear!

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-and who get really upset if you show that you actually know more about that subject (or any subject) than they do

-anyone who makes fun of other people, for any reason, in order to feel better about themselves (this applies to men and women, for friendship as well as romance).

If someone is poor, but able to take care of him or herself and make ends meet, I don't see it as a bad thing. *but*, if someone is poor and intends to mooch of me, move in to my apartment without sharing the rent, eat my food without ever paying for groceries...

Yeah, then I'd have an issue. So "Poor", not bad, "moochers", bad

Well, I have a lot of them....

-Really religious. (Hardcore Christians in general.)
-Reactionary, conservative, etc. Supports the war, homophobic, that sort of thing.
-Cruel, sadistic, pains other people for pleasure...
-Does drugs, smokes, or frequently gets drunk.
-Slutty. (Loving sex isn't bad, that's not the same thing, but if she has no restraint and is very promiscuous I find it very unappealing.)
-Untrue to her word--like she says she'll call and she never does.
-False kindness. (Like, she pretends to care when you're around her, but when you're not in front of her face you don't mean a thing.)
-Ghetto girl.
-Preppy.
-Bitchy, mean for the sake of being mean.
-Bald, super short hair, etc.
-Hates anything dark or gothic or geeky or "weird."
-Irresponsible, immature, etc.
-Can't have an intelligent, complicated discussion with her. (Or, if you do, then you get frustrated because she seems so stupid. I know that there are multiple forms of intelligence, but there are some people who just seem really stupid when you talk to them.)
-Boring.
-Shitty taste in movies or music.
-Obese, particularly ugly to my eyes, etc. (Sorry, I can't help it.)
-The "beach blonde" look (think Jessica Alba, Carmel Electra, etc.) Such a hopelessly dull look to my eyes.
-Interrupts me a lot.
-Closed-minded.
-Racist, sexist, etc.
-Wants me to be the "guy" in a relationship...expects me to be the confident one, or the macho/masculine one....
-Puts words in my mouth and doesn't listen to what I'm saying. "Oh, so you find these things attractive and I don't have them so clearly you don't think I'm good enough for you." "What? If that was what I meant, I would have said it." I wish people would understand that, as an aspie, I'm blunt, and usually don't have ulterior motives--I say how I feel. But people think that I'm insinuating s**t when I'm not insinuating anything, I'm just telling it like it is, not trying to give people "hints" as to what I actually mean....
-Selfish. Doesn't have any concern for other people.
-Smells bad, uses perfume, etc.
-Uses too much make up (like...cakes layers and layers that s**t on her face), has had plastic surgery, etc. I do like some make up, I like black lipstick and eyeliner and the "goth" look in general, but I hate blush and pancake make up and what not.
-Super busy to the point where she never has any time for you. I'm not what I'd call clingy...I don't expect to be around someone every second of the day, but if she's so busy that you'll be lucky to talk to her once a week then it ticks me off.
-Plays mind games, f***s with me, tries to trick me into saying something I don't mean, etc.
-Never willing to talk about something serious or important.
-Really popular. If she has a lot of other friends then chances are she doesn't have a whole lot of time for me....
-Thinks she's out of my league even if I've told her how much I like her. Won't take my word for it....
-Lies, lies, lies, lies, lies....
-I have no chemistry with them.
-Watches a lot of TV (TV, not movies) and doesn't mute the ads.
-Hates movies, hates the music I like, hates computer games, etc.
-Wants me to hurt her so she'll be turned on.
-Suicidal. (Not in the sense that she's tried in the past, but in the sense that I have to convince her not to do it every other week....)
-That super high pitched "Hentai Schoolgirl" shrieky voice.
-Male.

Shiiiiiit that was a lot..... >.< That's probably pretty much everybody in the world, isn't it?

Although this probably wouldn't count as a turn-off, I don't think I can date someone who doesn't have the same interests and beliefs as me.

However, this doesn't mean that I would leave her if she lost interest in those things.

Tim

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If someone is poor and able to take care of themself it's a great quality. Admirable to the core.

More put-offs:

Obesity, flat-chestedness, asexuality, and social conservatism.

Tim

By non-criminal means. If they are criminal, leave them to rot.

See, I'd love a political conservative but social liberal.

Same here. I'm tired of meeting people who are either economically agreeable yet socially idiotic, or vice versa. I love stem cells and gay marriage, but I also love free-market capitalism.

My put-offs would be:

`Non-individualist (I'm okay with a compassionate, caring person, but I don't want someone who wastes their entire life on other people. In other words, I want someone who understands that their life is their life, not society's.)

`Bad taste in music. If you listen to rap, country, or ret*d wannabe-rock/metal Hot Topic s**t like Hinder or Avenged Sevenfold, then don't even f*****g talk to me.

`Dislikes guitars, or only likes acoustic guitars. Acoustics are beautiful instruments and all, but seriously what do all women have against electic guitars?

`Bad Grammar. For instance, people who say "I seen" instead of "I saw."

`Has kids, or wants kids sometime soon.

`Directionless. If you have no goals or aspirations then please go wander aimlessly somewhere else.

`Immature. A little immaturity in your lifestyle might be kind of cute, but for the love of god act your age.

`Wears whore-ish clothes, like those really short shorts or low-cut shirts. I don't care how good you look, it's indecent to walk around 75% naked like that.

Well, that's about it.

mean to animals or small children

people that are nice to somebody when they are talking to them but the moment they leave they belittle them.

people that have lost their sense of wonderment

materialistic

people incapable of seeing something a different way or changing their minds

Oh, I like Hinder and think they have really good songs.

Put offs when I was younger would have included.

Guys who didn't want to have children (if we were getting married or having a long term relationship).

Money hungry and status seeking guys.

Put offs now:

Neat freaks.

Boring farts ie. very conformist and conservative.

Control freaks.

amen sista (I don't like rap) but I like metal well older metal but still all the metal bands you listen too listened to the ones I listened too

I cannot abide girls who look for insults in everything you say, like talkings not hard enough anyway, but say she wears a pretty dress and you say, "you look gorgeous in that dress" and girl says, "so your saying that normally I look awfull?" and goes off with the hump.

I imagine they must analise every word you say, think up all the possible meanings it could have with NT efficency in such matters, then chose the worst possible meaning it could have so that they can accuse you of meaning that?

Whats that all about?, they then start crying when I finish with them so they must have wanted me, is this how NTs fall in Love or something?

I also dont like fungal smells on a girl, or a horse for that matter.

Dishonesty. Can't really think of anything else that isn't a variant on that one.