Conversations vs Disagreements

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I have a similar thing happen to me in real life. I tend to say what's in my mind and I don't mean offence but some people like to take offence. Most of the time I'm only joking but not everyone shares my humour so it's a cross I have to bear.

I'm a lot quieter online because I just come here to play the games mainly and have a break. Plus online I am a bit more considerate because I can't see the people who are reading so I don't wanna run the risk of causing offence when I don't have a feel of the people who might take offence.

I think I express here what I filter out offline. Also social instincts feel easier when interacting offline, because I can pick up on body language and mood and emotions and everything so it sort of dictates what I say. Online it's more like an itching, impulsive urge to say something, even if there's a little voice inside my head saying ''please don't post that''. It's like as soon as I'm on my phone on WP an angel and a devil appear on my shoulders, the angel saying ''please don't post that'' and the devil saying ''go on, post it, it must be out in the open!'' I tend to listen to the devil.

Online addictions are a thing. It's like when my dad was into online gambling. He knew he didn't have the money but he had a nagging urge to gamble anyway, and when he lost lots of money he got frustrated with himself even though he was smart enough to know that would happen. That's the same with me on WP. It's that nagging urge that's so difficult to resist. But if I was that much of a bad, offensive user here then surely I would have been banned long ago. I have been here for 13 years. That's a long time.

Love the above word concept . the "Paragon of Veracity"
In the beginning OP the discussion , seems to indicate your are looking to differentiate about peoples intent in discussions . Debates arguements etc. Perhaps issues of gender differences lends towards men raised with the concepts of being providers very often. Then given that POV they might consider their opinion to be more revolent in most discussions .And often men cannot get the POV of a woman having had to be in such a role for extended periods of time. Then for a woman to get to that point in their lives there usually has been much experiences that are specific to women being in that provider role. Giving most women to have gotten to that place , Have had to endure , very often, Things that can be trauma inducing , potential PTSD situations . And all the triggers that any person might have to deal with from those experiences . So frames of reference are different . So obviously disagreements might come up in discussions . Different Perceptions of different situations . Some peoples perceptions might be coming from a far richer source of Experiences . . But often people will not give creedence to this fact. So the thing i have issue with is more that people involved in such discussions / arguements , dissagreements . Possibly need to understand that there is an exchange of information . Experience , verifiable knowledge . If those things can be conveinently conveyed . Or not ? depending on whether not both parties see such interactions as a exchange of info. Hopefully productive rather than a outright debate. Occassionally debate can reveal previously unrecognized ideas. (In a ideal engagement .) So depending on the level of understanding of both individuals . There could be growth through understanding . Sorry to say often peoples previous interactions in their lives will dictate how they might approach these discussions( engagements). And how they can recieve information. Often i have disengaged people based of my own. perceptions of the others experience might not be allowing for inclusivity of ideas .
Hope this post will be recieved well .