Whisperer wrote:
Bitterness seems more of a consequence rather than a cause.
These threads are annoying. . . there are certain stereotypes that repeat themselves in forums like this (the x-men mentality, witch hunting the sane, the bitter guy preaching that women only crave for money, the whole Alpha Male bull*, etc. . .) and this is one of them. . . It's almost insulting in a very subtle way. . .
Thing is, if you are spiritually anywhere beyond being "a completely hollow person", having longed for a serious relationship with the best intentions and not getting it - EVER; not even a kiss - for reasons that have nothing to do with why you should in theory be or not be in a relationship; then that's a perfectly sane reason to be unhappy. . . to be devastated. . . certainly to feel less confident than otherwise.
There is a point where you just have to be true to yourself. I'm sorry for all those girls saying "I don't like losers, no weirdoes, only happy people with no problems at all, etc. . . " but this happens not to be a breast implant we are talking about. A past history. . . feelings. . . thoughts, albeit painful, are not something that doesn't somewhat bind present life and identity - and the point of acting against all that to please some random person that has already disrespected you at the core by stating you will not be accepted if you do otherwise. . . that point is long gone, it's nought, it's non-existent. . . It defeats the purpose of a relationship in the first place. In a sense, it's far worse than saying "If you don't have breast implants get lost".
At least leave me my name. . .
Very well put, and like I was saying to someone else here a couple posts ago - when I do make those efforts at self-improvement or refining certain sets of skills, I do so with part of that as my intent but I always have to convince myself that in the end - even if there is no payoff, I'll be single but with a lot more still to feel good about (I tend to rail on myself a lot for things I'm not as good at as the next person, even if I don't need to be the best I still want to close the gaps and at least be better at maybe 30% of things than the next guy - IMO that's definitely more earned equality than anything greater). I do have someone I'm talking to right now, things look unusually interesting in a lot of ways, I'll keep my fingers crossed but at the same time I'd love to think nothing subconscious or external will smash things down.
13 Feb 2008, 11:48 pm
