What is my main obstacle?

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You know LPP, the competition in offline dating is just as fierce, if not MOREso. But Ive found it honestly isnt just about luck. The dynamics of human mate selection are strikingly similar to the dynamics of markets. Its all about supply and demand, AND about marketing yourself to the right *buyer* .

Not true at all, in offline dating the number of females are about equal to the number of males so it can't be more fierce than the online dating. As you said it's similar to the dynamics of markets but in online dating you have much less demand than supply so the completion is way more fierce than the offline dating .

Where did you get your statistics from, eh? I've had MUCH better luck with online dating than offline dating. BTW, here in the US and other western countries, the VAST majority of online dating sites cater to Straights, NOT gays. You might attribute that to society's disapproval of homosexuality but in fact, the reason is that gay guys -especially in large coastal cities-have FAR less trouble meeting each other and gettin' sex than straight guys do! American culture is really not oriented around meeting people but gay culture sure as Hell IS .

Tim, there are other places to look for housing in besides Seattle and San Francisco.

Washington DC, Boston, Atlanta, and Chicago may be your best bets.

you have idiotic standards
then ask - why do I have obsticles

your not a hippie
hippies tend to be pagans

If I was conservative , I'd be Tim_Tex.

I like his standards, everyone has standards, even me. (HJAHAHAHAHAHA)

Seriously.

Don't believe me?

Yeah...

Yes, but each time 1 girl's taken from the site, 1 guy won the competition.

Therefore, it's clearly not true to say online dating doesn't work for men.

It IS true to say the odds aren't good -- and I'm hardly suggesting that men should ONLY online date. But why eschew it entirely, especially when there are free sites? Why not throw your hat in the ring when all that can happen is you don't meet anyone, and you're no worse off than before?

Not to mention, IMO you can improve your odds by treating a girl the way my fiance treats me. There's a significant contingent on WP that contends good treatment scares girls off, but in my fiance's case it paid off nicely.

I did get rid of some of the standards I had, but that still hasn't improved things.

All I require is that she be a socially liberal Aspie.

I don't date NTs because I was in a relationship with one years ago, and she cheated on me.

I am convinced that Aspies don't lie or cheat.

Aspie women can lie and cheat. NT women can be wonderful partners. And vice versa. Either way, you would fit well with a woman of above average intelligence who knows herself and likes what she sees in you. Women are beautiful from the inside out. A pretty face with a hateful heart is not pleasant to look at after only a short time. An ordinary face with a loving heart is beautiful for a lifetime.

You've set yourself up for failure. I think you know this. Don't let fear of pain keep you from enjoying your life. You deserve love and happiness. Embrace the pain then let it go.

I was cheated on 24 years ago and haven't had a girlfriend since. Please don't emulate that. It isn't fun to look back on lonely years and the love I wanted to share. I was too afraid to try.

The only useful stereotype I know of is the one where Mako sharks find me tasty so I avoid swimming with them.

And if anyone here hates you, they must be as*holes.

I give up.

yes. For example, I am fairly sure Sheila has Social Anxiety Disorder (TM1 made me suspect it), but she is not AS.

Maybe just take a break? Rest up and try again in a month. Let your id brew up some ideas.

Avoid Mako sharks.

I would have obstacles even if I were just settling for the first girl who showed me any sort of attention.

I think your to nice, maybe a little afraid to take chances, you are very serious and are very mature for your age, and always seem to have an even keel, which in WP is not the rule, maybe trying to have fun once in a while, you wouldn't be judged by anyone here for letting lose once in a while, get out there and meet some beautiful ladies, and never cut yourself down, because you really are a great guy

perhaps your problem is you want a girl like this (pure and virginal in public, sex goddess behind closed doors)