Mrhat wrote:
I know I've talked to a few aspies trying to help them out but ultimately they have to get assertive and develop a thick skin. Don't over-invest their feelings in any one girl, it's a numbers game. If you counted how many people you approached/tried over time there is most likely a pattern.
That doesn't make any sense at all. How am I supposed to ask a girl out if I don't like her? How am I supposed to like a girl if I can't invest any feeling in her?
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Also some aspies dont have any fashion/style sense and this is a dead giveaway for girls who get approached all the time. Girls aren't intentionally rejecting you out of spite much of the time, they are rejecting you because they get approached constantly by guys hitting on them and develop quick methods of rejection. Aspie guys not having any insight into what a girl experiences might get a twisted view of women but not understanding how often they are approached by the 'lovable loser types', which many aspies fall into through no fault of their own.
I can understand the "not wanting to date every guy that approaches" bit. What I don't understand is how what you happen to be wearing fits into it all...
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A girl doesn't have the time to date every guy that approaches her, hence much rejection. A lot of it has to do with self-esteem issues, and flawed negative perceptions in the aspie him/herself. The truth is certain aspies like in thi sthread don't have good judgement when it comes to themselves. What they need is guidance.
Try getting rejected multiple times (excluding times when you "asked her out" but actually didn't care and weren't planning on going out anyway) and see if you're still not cynical about it...
It's not even the rejection that gets to me anymore... it's the manner of execution. I would much rather hear a clear, concise "no", rather than the drawn out non-rejection rejections I keep hearing... Women could just say one simple word, "no", to get the point across, but they just have to launch into diatribes, supposedly to make the man feel better... Well I'll tell you something, they
don't make me feel better they make me feel like she's being condescending...