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17 Jan 2009, 5:22 pm

EgaoNoGenki wrote:
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Dude... looking at the sort of rubbish you post here... what do you expect aspie girls to want?

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp1899353 ... t=#1899353


If you hate me so much, how about I just start on a new username so I start fresh and not make mistakes the second time? In case you say, "Oh, your mistakes will slip through all right," "Practice Makes Perfect" is what they say. :wink:


I don't hate you.
I got a bad impression of you based on your posts. All the posts from you I have seen have made me kind of angry. Doesn't matter in the long run, I wouldn't bother taking my posts seriously, I have a bad temper. My mouth gets me into a lot of trouble.

TBH it doesn't take much for me to give people second chances or more, I hate someones posts for a bit, then I get over it. I'm sure there are heaps of people on the internet who post things who aren't bad girls/blokes IRL.



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17 Jan 2009, 6:47 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
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What if your best friends would get a partner?
I mean your really going to limit yourself, if it was like on msn, people you haven't met I can understand pretty well ( also had some friends talk less to me after they got a gf/bf )

But instead of cutting them of ( if it's real life) try to get to know their partner to, there would be a bigger chance of you finding or meeting more people that way and eventualy maybe it would lead to a partner, instead of limiting yourself like that.

Of the partners of friends that I've met and/or talked to, almost all of them started patronizing me with stupid things like "Well you'll find someone eventually" or sometimes the more creative "I can't see why you're single... I mean, you have everything a girl could want"... That's why I want to avoid the partners... and since my friends all got their respective partners and spend all their time with them, I don't want to spend time around my friends anymore...


they only talk that way because they have one themselfs, try to enlighten that to them.
"oh dont worry, you will EVENTUALY one day see the end of your dark tunnel mate, dooont worry"
i mean, they should not talk like that towards you as they arent in your position



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17 Jan 2009, 7:36 pm

Tias wrote:
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What if your best friends would get a partner?
I mean your really going to limit yourself, if it was like on msn, people you haven't met I can understand pretty well ( also had some friends talk less to me after they got a gf/bf )

But instead of cutting them of ( if it's real life) try to get to know their partner to, there would be a bigger chance of you finding or meeting more people that way and eventualy maybe it would lead to a partner, instead of limiting yourself like that.

@sunshower

Say what you want, really, I whont change my opinion of him


I'm not asking you to (especially after his latest post). However, no matter what he has said, or will say, what a lot of people (not just targeting you here) were doing before would fall under my definition of bullying, and I object to that. I also object equally strongly to his latest post (as opposed to earlier ones), but no sure what voicing my objection to it would achieve, as so many people will probably already do so (and some have done so).


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17 Jan 2009, 8:30 pm

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I think I'd rather date a guy with AS. I've dated quite a few NT guys and they just don't understand me and why I do some of the things I do. They usually end up feeling neglected and break up with me or don't give me enough space and I break up with them for being clingy. In short, they're too emotional and I don't have enough patience for them. It'd be nice to have a companion that has the same energy, emotional level, idiosyncrasies, obsessive personality, etc... Don't sell yourselves short, AS men. :P
some hope for us! :D



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17 Jan 2009, 11:09 pm

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What makes you think aspie gals don't want aspie guys?


Kind of a broad statement isn't it?


I think it had to do with a few female Aspies stating that they prefer NTs. I think that most people, male or female, who are in relationships date whoever they end up with.

I am still going to try for female Aspies, though.



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18 Jan 2009, 5:46 am

Tias wrote:
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I saw several times elsewhere on WP Aspie women saying that they wouldn't want to date Aspie men. I don't remember the topics they were from anymore. That's why I started to believe that Aspie women didn't want Aspie men. I guess the Aspie women who said the above were merely a niche.


Oh my, I forgot that the aspie females on this website talked for ALL the aspie women out there. How could I not have logicaly seen the connection Between a few ignorant aspie women and the rest of the whole worlds aspie girls?

/ sarcasm off

Logic, do you know what that is?
2+2 = 4, NOT 5 because a few people say so.


I think more than several Aspies do not want to date other Aspies just because of the difficulties of dealing with your own obsessions and idiosyncracies and then adding on another person's.

I suppose ideally everyone would want a 1/2 Aspie 1/2 NT. A sympathetic person without some of the inherent struggles of AS.


Half AS half NT? Sorry but that's abit BS'ish.
Either a person is a AS with mild traits them or none at all.

And I find it so godly ignorant of any person limiting their feelings.
What if someone says "I whont date x type people, because of this and that, and want a y type person"
Ignorant as that is, what if she met x1, and rigth away concludes who doabt want to date him, JUST because he is a x type, and goes for y1.
However, if the person had chosed the x1 person, it would have been a good relationship, however that was drawnded just because of some ignorant idea, I really think people should start folllowing their hearts instead of setting such ridicules things up.


I disagree. Autism is a spectrum and there are people with very mild symptoms who are on the very end of the spectrum, bordering AS/NT. At least the autism specialists and psychologists I have spoken to have told me this. They said the I could still have some AS traits and not qualify as AS because it does not influence my daily life enough, or because I might not exhibit all the diagnostic criteria. They said that as a spectrum, autism has "fringe areas" where people have mildly autistic characteristics but not ASD, AS, or autism.

Aspies might want to be with a person who understood them yet did not suffer from Asperger's, or did not suffer from it in the same way they did.

I won't date specific people because I know they are not compatible with me. Heck, I won't even be friends with specific people because I already know they won't be compatible with me. Not that I am not willing to make exceptions, but that certain people just do not get along with me.


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23 Jan 2009, 7:26 pm

we don't have a chance in dating or in life or in anything.