anyone else NOT looking for a partner?

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You might be on to something, CerebralDreamer. But he'd better be some extra special aspie for me to take that chance again.... maybe one that looks like Gerard Butler.... with green eyes (as long as I'm dreaming) LOL!

Me too.

I don't need to actively avoid love; love changed its name and moved to Wyoming.

Please tell me that was a joke.

Of course it's a joke; no one lives in Wyoming.

if it happens it happens, if not I'm happy with being the favorite aunt/cousin for the remainder of my life.

I absolutely agree.

back in the days when I myslef was passively looking, I told my friends (who kept pressuring me to find a partner) that even if I did start going out with someone, they would never be informed. (they did get angry about that, but now they no longer ask).

I just find the whole concept of "introducing the new boyfriend" and "acting like a couple" highly repellent, as you called it. one of my previous "relationships" (it never went past 3 months, hence the brackets) actually ended because I refused to meet the guys friends and family.

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Yeah i can understand what you mean - my first relationship was
like that, meeting the whole damn family and everything several
times, and i just didnt get it. I didnt want to date all these people,
it was the girl i was interested in. Later i met someone who was
more like me and that was nice, non of us had any wish to introduce
anyone to anything, we just liked to hang out together.

I feel that this is well written and that I myself feel the same way about this, without a doubt.

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I'd be more concerned about the day she would have to meet my family.

Hee, you guys have no idea. Trying dating the daughter of a former Pentecostal, who used to be a United States Marine Drill Sergeant, who was fired from his last job because he threw a car part at a coworker. I was sleeping in the same house as him, wrapped up with his daughter through the night.

Surprisingly, her father and I got along great. I'm still baffled by how much I risked to climb in bed with her that night. I know he knew how close we were. Maybe he respected me for caring enough about her to have the stones to do that. I'd rather not meet him now that I've broken up with her though.

My views on independence and relationships are pretty much the same.

I picked option 2, but sometimes I feel more like if it fell into my lap, I wouldn't mind. After all, I don't know any guys who would tolerate my odd habits of staying up until 3 am, pursuing my obsessions. Or who would understand my sporadic libido that makes me declare myself asexual, because I am not interested at least 75% of the time. Or my need for lots of private space and down time, after socializing. Ah, well...Dream on.

There was a time when I would say that I prefer to be single, because I have a lot of time to myself, but even when you date you can have some time to yourself.
I'm at that moment where I like someone, and I think he likes me. We talk almost everyday but nothing has happened yet. I'm not even trying to make something happen. I'm not 100% sure if I want to.
I miss being with someone, so I chose 'actively looking'.

Never looked.

I'm thinking of giving up. Nothing ever works out when I meet someone. I must not be "relationship" material. One of my problems is probably that I'm too proud to wear the "Alpha Male" mask. I've gotten my hopes up and crushed enough for this lifetime and the next. I'm going to find something more reliable and certain like casinos.

I am interested in meeting new friends and all, but not interested in more than that at this time...

Too many things going on in my life at the moment and it is difficult to maintain an adaptable level of functionality while I 'rolll' with what is currently being thrown my way.