Bigotry against involuntarily celibate men

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Is it safe to assume that your "useless" degree is not in one of the STEM fields?

It's true....there are plenty of "normies" who have difficulty with romance, and with finding lovers.

The Source: My Experience.

^ Thanks, Hurtloam.

Child support never covers half the cost of raising a child. I love your response.

Any degree which is not STEM is useless nowadays, except law maybe.

Law is eminently NOT useless.

Many jobs in the United States require a Bachelor's Degree. Many of these jobs don't ask "in what?" The possession of the degree is the most important requirement.

These jobs are mostly in management or supervisory roles. For line workers and their "bosses" skill and seniority count more.

Personally, I would rather answer to a manager who has a relevant business or STEM degree than someone who wrote their Master's thesis on something like "The Impact of Shakespearean Syntax on Modern Teaching Practices in Private Schools Along the Aleutian Island Chain During the Mid-1830s".

I did very well by my Arts degrees, personally.
The world needs more literacy, research skill and critical thinking. Arts degrees are also useful in Law.

BTW: Do you have a link for that Shakespeare paper? It sounds interesting

No, it's not a STEM degree. Please reread my entire post for why. I never had anybody to tell me this "you should go into STEM" sh!t until I had already exhausted all the financial aid I qualify for. In fact, I had never even heard the word STEM until several years after I had already graduated from university.

Am I to assume your experience is peer reviewed?

I'm not judging you. A lot of people fell into similar traps. One of my nephews took an A.A. degree at ITT Tech with no knowledge or understanding that the credits would not transfer to a 4-year college. It took him almost 20 years to complete his engineering degree, due to tuition debt, poor job prospects, marriage, and a downturn in the economy.

Yeah....by my friends who are my "peers."

It's not good to believe in an ideology of hopelessness. Love and romance is not something which can be quantified or qualified by research studies.

I was beaten by my father. I was molested and raped multiple times as a child. As an adult, I was in an abusive relationship with a physically disabled woman who isolated me from any social circle outside of her friends and family and often told me about how other women find me repulsive. She gaslighted.

I had gone back to Libya (where my family lives) to find a job after college because the economy was terrible. I was forced to leave due to visa complications without any money or anywhere to go. And when I was at my lowest point she and her friends ganged up on me and called me a worthless lazy bum. She went around spreading lies, saying that I abused her and cheated on her. And everyone believed her lies while nobody believed me when I told the truth. That was 10 years ago, and since then I have struggled to maintain employment and have even been homeless at least seven different times. I have not had a girlfriend at any time during all these years, have had no support from my family who all still live in Libya, no social circle and very few friends. I owe over 65K in student loan debt with no way to pay it.

My hopelessness is not an "ideology", it is my reality.

I do understand the trauma of what you went through. Obviously, I feel bad for what you went through.

I don't mean to minimize what you went through.

In reality, though, it is never hopeless. Many people do rise up from having such things happen to them. it's a documented fact.

I'll give you one such person: Elie Wiesel. He was an inmate in a concentration camp. Those were places where various ethnic groups were placed to do manual labor, and were also places where people were gassed to death. He rose from that experience to be one of the greatest writers of our generation.

If I do a little research, I could give you many more examples.

One has to acknowledge what one went through. And others do, too. I have to acknowledge it, and to respect it.

But....nothing is ever "hopeless."

Hugs to magnetowasright
I've faced somewhat similar from other so-called humans.

Now I feel chastised.

Except for the sexual assault, the part about your ex-wife being disabled (mine was taking anti-psychotic medications, however), and the events of your last 10 years, your history and mine run parallel.

I'm sorry that I added to your grief.

السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ‬

I feel like you are a strong person.

Are you in therapy at this moment, Magneto?

It's not going to be easy. But your situation is not hopeless.

If you have student loan debt, and don't have a job, you can "defer" the debt. This means you don't have to pay up on it for now.