Do women simply just dislike Aspie men?

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cabbage is the new fennel

So many men think they have to be a hot pepper, but who doesn't like cabbage?

You should try the Czech/Slovak cabbage and potato dumpling recipe, a genius invention.

I don't believe everyone here would enjoy that foreign stuff.

At least he's cute, not like my blobby face.

Pardon me?

Nope -- I wasn't implying that at all. I was referring to my three boyfriends who were 1) closet gay NT, incapable of lifting his arse of the chair to do anything, and completely passive in the relationship in every conceivable way 2) closet gay sadistic NT with addictions, who lived with his mother and didn't work (for no reason -- nothing to do with disability), who took more time, effort, patience and money than he could give to his own baby toe 3) closet gay passive man who never touched me, emotionally or physically. Also NT.

That comment had nothing to do with autistic men. I've been on WP supporting men and saying I love autistic men, that I act like an autistic man more than an autistic woman, and that I would love to date an autistic man ... for the past three years.

That was really off the mark.

I saw mp's comment and identified. It had nothing to do with the OP's comment so I'm sorry if it was taken the wrong way.

My new guy is NT and so far not passive or needy, but I haven't been able to see him since March because of lockdown.
I'm a little frustrated when it comes to relationships, I guess.

Note: I mention the fact they were / are gay, only because I was trying to get closer emotionally / romantically / physically or in terms of moving the relationships forward, but there was always a wall between us that I couldn't understand or trespass. At the time I had no idea of their orientation and I had nothing to compare because they were the only people I'd dated. I invested a lot in these relationships (not to mention 20 years of my life), not understanding why the relationships weren't progressing normally. It was frustrating. I wanted a partner who was equally into the relationship, but couldn't find such a person. I'm still best friends with one of them but the dating dynamic was always beyond our reach.

I gather you don't get on with workmates?
Even *I* had superficial semi-friendships when I was working.
They can then introduce you to other people.

I still maintain the idea that us aspie women just want something more than a potato. Like you have to at least have a personality aside from...' I am nice potato date meeeeee!' because a lot of times those nice potatoes turn out to be bad potatoes. LIke if you have an S.O and you ignore them constantly for games or basement time or whatever...they will leave. You are probably a potato if the gf leaves due to neglect and you never spending time with her, because you are always in a game or have some other excuse why you cannot spend any time with them. Then finally the girl leaves and some guys are like...'whaaaa i only just barley got acknowledged here while doing a 7 day video game binge, the least she could do is stick around and have sex whenever i feel like it.'

Its like no, sorry potato but you don't just get to get connections with people, end said connections by ignoring people and then b***h when a female acquaintance from the days of old just simply doesn't want to have sex with you, because you turned up after they moved on. LIke don't be a potato if you are in a LTR, both people need to participate a lot to make an long term relationship work...if one of you is a potato it doesn't work. LIke seriously both people have to participate or it ends in a divorce.

My favorite sandwich in existence is fried cauliflower + tahini + vegetables.


And with fried potato!

fennel