How do you know if your standards are too high?

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02 Nov 2009, 5:44 pm

Reasons for the criteria:

College Student: Self-explanatory

18-22 years of age: Self-explanatory

Resides in Portland area: I am more than happy to waive this one if I am able
to connect with someone who resides in the suburbs of Portland

Catholic, but not conservative: Fear of judgement if I date a non-Catholic

Does not drink, smoke, or use drugs: Self-explanatory

Movies: People who see movies tend to be more open-minded and like the craft that were put into movies

Sex & Sex Drive: Can initiate sex and can talk me through it, what intentions will be done during sex,
if not into sex, that's fine with me

Conversationalist: Not too chatty, but can carry a converastion over coffee/tea

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02 Nov 2009, 6:55 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

Reasons for the criteria:

Aspie: I sometimes have trouble reading hints, and need the straightforwardness that a non-Aspie may not provide. Also, I don't have to pretend to be some wealthy, MTV-esque superhunk.

Does not drink, smoke, or use drugs: Self-explanatory.

Lives in the SA-Austin area: I will be willing to waive this one if I feel that I might connect with someone who happens to live elsewhere.

Simpsons/South Park: People who watch these shows tend to be more open-minded, and are more likely to have higher sex drives and not worry about taboos than people who don't watch those shows.

Curves/Boobs: I mentioned earlier that I need someone who doesn't mind fetishes. This is just one of the few that I have.

Wants kids: The Bible says "Be fruitful and multiply".

Christian: Fear of judgment by fellow Christians if I date a non-Christian.

Looking for the same: Because I feel that if a woman is not specifically seeking out someone like me, then she is just settling for me because she can't find anyone else.

You realize this woman doesn't exist, right? A woman that has big boobs, watches South Park and has fetish sex but is a Christian with values?

Btw, the Simpsons isn't that controversial of a show. It's just a cartoon sit-com. I don't know where you get the idea that the Simpsons is "taboo."

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02 Nov 2009, 7:10 pm

As for my standards, I'll name what is absolutely necessary and why, and things that would be a bonus but not necessary.

10 on the 10 scale lookswise: Was dating a woman that was a 8/9 on the 10 scale, and was just hungry for someone more attractive. I'm a visual person.

Open communcation: I don't mean sharing secrets and telling every personal detail, but I mean talking the way you'd talk to a good friend and no having to guess what the other person thinks or what they mean when they say something. Basically, on the same page.

Not a hardcore partier/drinker/attention wh*re: Self explanatory.

Other than that, no absolute requirements.

Bonuses:

Great singing voice: to accompany my piano playing.

Likes 80s/90s pop culture: Thus why it's a bonus as the women I tend to have these things in common with are 30/40 something.

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02 Nov 2009, 7:22 pm

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Fear of judgment by fellow Christians if I date a non-Christian.

Ahhh, the (comical) irony. Makes me glad to be an atheist. :lol:

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02 Nov 2009, 7:23 pm

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10 on the 10 scale lookswise: Was dating a woman that was a 8/9 on the 10 scale, and was just hungry for someone more attractive.

So where do you figure *you* rate on that scale, hmm?

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02 Nov 2009, 7:43 pm

therange wrote:

Tim_Tex wrote:

It was when it first aired, and they had the T-shirts that said "Underachiever, and proud of it" and "I'm Bart Simpson, Who the Hell are you?"

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02 Nov 2009, 7:59 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:

It was when it first aired, and they had the T-shirts that said "Underachiever, and proud of it" and "I'm Bart Simpson, Who the Hell are you?"

But it's *not*, now. Back then, it was controversial mainly because kids were watching a cartoon that was most definitely not for kids. There are far more "controversial" shows currently airing; off the top of my head, "True Blood," "Rescue Me," and even "House" would probably qualify. "The Simpsons" and "South Park" exemplify the low-brow type of humo(u)r that I don't find funny, and I'm sure that other women (AS and NT) don't watch either of those shows for reasons having nothing to do with their purported "controversial" nature. I hate stupid, puerile crap that insults my intelligence, end of.

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02 Nov 2009, 10:56 pm

SINsister wrote:

therange wrote:

10 on the 10 scale lookswise: Was dating a woman that was a 8/9 on the 10 scale, and was just hungry for someone more attractive.

So where do you figure *you* rate on that scale, hmm?

Keep in mind women like Roz or Daphne from Frasier or Patricia Heaton are 10s to me. Very rarely is the woman that is my "10" a playboy model though they aren't ugly.

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02 Nov 2009, 11:25 pm

Now I'm curious why you evaded SINsister's question.

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02 Nov 2009, 11:43 pm

I'm a guy and don't rate other guys, but I am above average looking, keep myself in shape, don't have an ugly face or bad hair. I'm not Brad Pitt, but who is?

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02 Nov 2009, 11:47 pm

Ah, ok. Not a 10.

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02 Nov 2009, 11:49 pm

Men aren't supposed to be 10s. They are just supposed to be presentable and not ugly. And like I said, by 10 I don't mean supermodel or playmate, I just mean 10 to me. My 10 could easily be another guy's 6.

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03 Nov 2009, 4:51 am

therange wrote:

Men aren't supposed to be 10s. They are just supposed to be presentable and not ugly.

OMFG, ROFL! :lol:

Alas, another misguided male chauvinist. How positively common. The typical deluded, average-in-all-respects dude who insists that he "deserves" a beauty, innit? I shouldn't have bothered asking. :roll:

Incidentally, *I* expect any guy I date to be at least as attractive as I am. I deserve nothing less, nor will I settle for it, thankyouverymuch.

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03 Nov 2009, 7:35 am

therange wrote:

Men aren't supposed to be 10s. They are just supposed to be presentable and not ugly.

Uh, no hon. That's not how it works.

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03 Nov 2009, 7:53 am

SINsister, I run into these schlubs all the time, and over time I've lost all sympathy for them. It's screamingly obvious when they're reacting strongly to the way I look, that kind of "zomg WANT" thing they get going, and the ones where it's so obvious invariably have a sub-par presentation of themselves and their appearances.

The sheer irrationality of it gets me wondering if they're all there upstairs. If they react that strongly just to how I look, clearly there's going to be a ready supply of other men who do as well. I'm not sure how they think they're supposed to stand out as anything but another tired example of male double standards.

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03 Nov 2009, 8:06 am

i have no "standards".
i always am completely open to all aspects of a person that wants to know me.
unfortunately, i nearly always find nothing of interest in other people.

i do not judge by fashion or attitude or status or anything. if i hear nothing that interests me within a few minutes of meeting someone, then i "switch off" and i never get to know them because i never listen to anything they say further.

but people who consider things that are also considerable by me will be granted my ear until i hear a dissimilarity, and then i am afraid they are out.

it is totally my problem and not theirs.

but i sleep well as me.

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