What do you think are some major causes of Aspie rejection?

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18 Aug 2010, 6:09 pm

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I'm convinced both you and Toad would have a partner if you dropped the whole "I'm unlovable" thing. People don't want people with rock-bottom self-esteem. That's why you only get guys that want you for sex. If you were more friendly and upbeat, you'd meet a guy that would think "She's not the greatest looking girl in the world, but she has a kick-a$$ personality.


Not necessarily. I have self-esteem problems & I like people who also have self-esteem issues cuz I can relate to em. People like Toad, Erisad & me have self-esteem problems because we are constantly rejected. Maybe if we found people who accepted us when we wer having a bad day; we'd start to feel better about things. The poor self-esteem is caused by the rejection. Even when I was happy & optimistic about things; I still got rejected.


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18 Aug 2010, 6:17 pm

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I'm convinced both you and Toad would have a partner if you dropped the whole "I'm unlovable" thing. People don't want people with rock-bottom self-esteem. That's why you only get guys that want you for sex. If you were more friendly and upbeat, you'd meet a guy that would think "She's not the greatest looking girl in the world, but she has a kick-a$$ personality.


Not necessarily. I have self-esteem problems & I like people who also have self-esteem issues cuz I can relate to em. People like Toad, Erisad & me have self-esteem problems because we are constantly rejected. Maybe if we found people who accepted us when we wer having a bad day; we'd start to feel better about things. The poor self-esteem is caused by the rejection. Even when I was happy & optimistic about things; I still got rejected.


That's why I feel better about myself when I'm at school. My friends accept me for my faults. Sure, I'm a fattie with low self-esteem but they love me anyways. Not to mention I'm a fantastic student so it makes me feel better about stuff. :)

When I'm at home, my family's highly critical and are always commenting about my weight, lack of a job and boyfriend so I tend to focus on it more. So when I go back to school in 11 days, my depressing posts should decrease. Or at least they'll be about something else. :lol:



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18 Aug 2010, 6:18 pm

That's why your sefl-confidence isn't based on what people think about you that don't know you.

If I still cared what people thought about me I'd be in and out of depression clinics.



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18 Aug 2010, 6:24 pm

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That's why your sefl-confidence isn't based on what people think about you that don't know you.

If I still cared what people thought about me I'd be in and out of depression clinics.


People still want me to go through therapy and clinics but I fight against it. All they want is my money and I don't have much. D:



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18 Aug 2010, 7:56 pm

Erisad...you don't sound like you're in a good place right now...getting off meds cold turkey...fighting help. These aren't attractive traits to a future boyfriend.



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18 Aug 2010, 8:28 pm

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Erisad...you don't sound like you're in a good place right now...getting off meds cold turkey...fighting help. These aren't attractive traits to a future boyfriend.


I just fight professional help. Psychologists have done nothing but cause me grief. At this point, I'll just get better by living my own life. I don't have money for professional help so I won't even bother going that route. :/



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18 Aug 2010, 9:10 pm

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It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.



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18 Aug 2010, 9:24 pm

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It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.


Every night? Holy s**t. What if I have something else to do? Like have a job? I'm sorry but being a girlfriend doesn't mean I have to be his private whore that he can solicit sex from whenever he wants. Look, I don't know what you expect from me but I don't think I can do that. I feel sex should be spontaneous, not a "it's 8 o' clock, on your knees b***h!" There's no passion there.



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18 Aug 2010, 9:32 pm

Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.


Every night? Holy sh**. What if I have something else to do? Like have a job? I'm sorry but being a girlfriend doesn't mean I have to be his private whore that he can solicit sex from whenever he wants. Look, I don't know what you expect from me but I don't think I can do that. I feel sex should be spontaneous, not a "it's 8 o' clock, on your knees b***h!" There's no passion there.


Just saying that's how a chubby girl can keep a man happy...

A buddy of mine who is rather good looking and a solid catch, him and his wife (who is not particularly attractive) bang nearly every night and she has no complaints and he is happier than a pig in s**t!



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18 Aug 2010, 9:36 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
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It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.


Every night? Holy sh**. What if I have something else to do? Like have a job? I'm sorry but being a girlfriend doesn't mean I have to be his private whore that he can solicit sex from whenever he wants. Look, I don't know what you expect from me but I don't think I can do that. I feel sex should be spontaneous, not a "it's 8 o' clock, on your knees b***h!" There's no passion there.


Just saying that's how a chubby girl can keep a man happy...

A buddy of mine who is rather good looking and a solid catch, him and his wife (who is not particularly attractive) bang nearly every night and she has no complaints and he is happier than a pig in sh**!


Yeah but that's one way to wear out all the traction in my vaj by the first anniversary. Besides, I'm a virgin. I have to wait until a man proves himself before giving it up. If he can't take that then he can f**k off. I'm not a whore and I don't intend to be one. Despite what you may think, women are more than just baby-makers. D:



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18 Aug 2010, 9:44 pm

Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.


Every night? Holy sh**. What if I have something else to do? Like have a job? I'm sorry but being a girlfriend doesn't mean I have to be his private whore that he can solicit sex from whenever he wants. Look, I don't know what you expect from me but I don't think I can do that. I feel sex should be spontaneous, not a "it's 8 o' clock, on your knees b***h!" There's no passion there.


Just saying that's how a chubby girl can keep a man happy...

A buddy of mine who is rather good looking and a solid catch, him and his wife (who is not particularly attractive) bang nearly every night and she has no complaints and he is happier than a pig in sh**!


Yeah but that's one way to wear out all the traction in my vaj by the first anniversary. Besides, I'm a virgin. I have to wait until a man proves himself before giving it up. If he can't take that then he can f**k off. I'm not a whore and I don't intend to be one. Despite what you may think, women are more than just baby-makers. D:


Apparently they are awesome comedians as well... :twisted:



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18 Aug 2010, 9:47 pm

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Yeah but that's one way to wear out all the traction in my vaj by the first anniversary. Besides, I'm a virgin. I have to wait until a man proves himself before giving it up. If he can't take that then he can f**k off. I'm not a whore and I don't intend to be one. Despite what you may think, women are more than just baby-makers. D:


Apparently they are awesome comedians as well... :twisted:


Some of them are, yes but that wasn't really the point I was getting at. Yes I get that you were trying to make a mockery of my views of gender equality. D:



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18 Aug 2010, 9:57 pm

Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
Erisad wrote:
RICKY5 wrote:
It means coc... I mean cognitive behavioral therapy. :lol:

Chubby girls can be quite fun. I've had a few chubby escorts and I gotta say they work their ass off to show you a good time!

Obviously avoiding crap food (like anything with "glucose syrup" known as "high-fructose corn syrup" in the USA) can mitigate your perceived weight issue.

Like I said before, you just have to bring something that other girls don't offer to the table. If you know how to give an awesome massage, it will take you very far as well.

I routinely see guys that I would rate about a 8-9 out of 10 in the looks department with girls that I would rate at a 5 or so on the looks department. The reason those guys have chosen girls who are seen as below their league is because they are being offered something that the conventionally prettier girls do not offer.

Sex and "love" is a marketplace. Offer something the competition does not.


Reminds me of those American autoworkers unions wondering why nobody wants to buy their crappy overpriced cars...

No therapy! Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiissssssssssssssssssssss. :evil:

I have been eating better and exercising, which has been helping. I just wish it would work faster. D:

That's the thing. I don't know if I have anything to offer, which is probably why I'm always lonely. People say that I'm funny but that probably doesn't do me any good. :(


If you can make a guy feel good almost every night without fail, you will have a VERY happy man. You'd be amazed at the number of guys who work their ass off for someone who doesn't appreciate anything they do and barely touches them.


Every night? Holy sh**. What if I have something else to do? Like have a job? I'm sorry but being a girlfriend doesn't mean I have to be his private whore that he can solicit sex from whenever he wants. Look, I don't know what you expect from me but I don't think I can do that. I feel sex should be spontaneous, not a "it's 8 o' clock, on your knees b***h!" There's no passion there.


Just saying that's how a chubby girl can keep a man happy...

A buddy of mine who is rather good looking and a solid catch, him and his wife (who is not particularly attractive) bang nearly every night and she has no complaints and he is happier than a pig in sh**!


Yeah but that's one way to wear out all the traction in my vaj by the first anniversary. Besides, I'm a virgin. I have to wait until a man proves himself before giving it up. If he can't take that then he can f**k off. I'm not a whore and I don't intend to be one. Despite what you may think, women are more than just baby-makers. D:



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18 Aug 2010, 10:00 pm

Um...did you forget to add some text there? What do you have a problem with the fact that I'm a virgin? Do all women have to be sluts? :lol:



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18 Aug 2010, 10:03 pm

Usually I don't agree with Ricky, but he has a point...as a not-so-attractive girl that refuses to put out and has a negative attitude and low self-esteem, you aren't doing yourself any favors. The way you could win a guy's heart is to be the girl of his dreams...i.e. understand him, be upbeat, give him all the sex he wants and so on. This isn't necessarily what I want, but unfortunately it's what the majorty of men want. The whole, I'm a depressed, misunderstood, unattractive virgin thing isn't going to help you in your quest for a boyfriend.



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18 Aug 2010, 10:05 pm

Erisad wrote:
Um...did you forget to add some text there? What do you have a problem with the fact that I'm a virgin? Do all women have to be sluts? :lol:


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Kinda reminds me of those overpaid american autoworkers who wonder why nobody wants to buy their crappy cars...