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18 Nov 2010, 12:22 pm

ooooh...
you're one of them

well I'm sorry but this sensei is anti food marriage
marriage is a union between a man and a woman!
or a man and another man
or two women
BUT NOT MAN AND FOOD



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18 Nov 2010, 12:26 pm

A real sensei must must be forgiving and accepting new variations.....



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18 Nov 2010, 12:27 pm

David Bowie accepts nothing
(btw I'm not David Bowie)

alright, we'll try it your way, I can be nice
I have these bells...



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18 Nov 2010, 1:21 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Erisad just reminded me of this extremely-devoted pro-Hezbollah muslim girl who used to lecture me how and why she wouldn't never consider a non-muslim to an almost agnostic ,secular , anti-clerics in a less than month just to be with an Christian guy (who's in fact agnostic too).

I witnessed such sudden intellectual and cultural transformations in other girls too.

Evolving is good but it can only be genuine when it happens on gradual rate.




*Sorry for the horrible stereotyping below, but I am gonna spit it out ***

Most girls are like this.

They change their whole self-being (their culture, their values , their beliefs ....everything) in a tick just to be with the Mr.right guy.


/runs away.

I think your compleatly right, which is why the 'impressive hobbies' concept is silly, as people change their hobbies, views, and even religion to please a potential or actual mate.



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18 Nov 2010, 1:24 pm

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I think your compleatly right, which is why the 'impressive hobbies' concept is silly, as people change their hobbies, views, and even religion to please a potential or actual mate.


Which just proves it's not what you do, but rather who you're with, that life is all about...



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18 Nov 2010, 1:26 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Erisad just reminded me of this extremely-devoted pro-Hezbollah muslim girl who used to lecture me how and why she wouldn't never consider a non-muslim to an almost agnostic ,secular , anti-clerics in a less than month just to be with an Christian guy (who's in fact agnostic too).

I witnessed such sudden intellectual and cultural transformations in other girls too.

Evolving is good but it can only be genuine when it happens on gradual rate.




*Sorry for the horrible stereotyping below, but I am gonna spit it out ***

Most girls are like this.

They change their whole self-being (their culture, their values , their beliefs ....everything) in a tick just to be with the Mr.right guy.


/runs away.

I think your compleatly right, which is why the 'impressive hobbies' concept is silly, as people change their hobbies, views, and even religion to please a potential or actual mate.

Personally, if I was looking at women to date it wouldn't matter if she picks up or shows an interest in my hobbies, views and interests after the fact. However, I'll be looking at things differently before the fact. I value authenticity in people.



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18 Nov 2010, 3:13 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
A real sensei must must be forgiving and accepting new variations.....


Unfortunately you can't marry your cake and eat it... unless you want to get married a lot of times.



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18 Nov 2010, 3:28 pm

LOVE LOVE LOVE :heart:



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18 Nov 2010, 3:44 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
I think your compleatly right, which is why the 'impressive hobbies' concept is silly, as people change their hobbies, views, and even religion to please a potential or actual mate.

why do people do that? (sorry, i'm not arguing and i don't expect an answer - just a rhetorical "why" question).

being individuals with different perspectives can sometimes strengthen a relationship. arguing politics, religion (he is christian, or recently theist, and i am atheist), morality and philosophy for many hours over pizza with my husband-to-be (at the time) was an incredible bonding experience. i guess maybe not every couple wants to debate though!

it's true that people do change quite a bit over time. it is most heartening when they change for internal vs. external reasons.


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18 Nov 2010, 4:13 pm

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being individuals with different perspectives can sometimes strengthen a relationship. arguing politics, religion (he is christian, or recently theist, and i am atheist), morality and philosophy for many hours over pizza with my husband-to-be (at the time) was an incredible bonding experience. i guess maybe not every couple wants to debate though!

Aren't you ever worried that the differences could tear apart your relationship?



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18 Nov 2010, 4:20 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
*Sorry for the horrible stereotyping below, but I am gonna spit it out ***

Most girls are like this.

They change their whole self-being (their culture, their values , their beliefs ....everything) in a tick just to be with the Mr.right guy.


/runs away.


Ever thought (if that is true) Then maybe this is why so many men here struggle with relationships? Their inflexibility?



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18 Nov 2010, 4:25 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
being individuals with different perspectives can sometimes strengthen a relationship. arguing politics, religion (he is christian, or recently theist, and i am atheist), morality and philosophy for many hours over pizza with my husband-to-be (at the time) was an incredible bonding experience. i guess maybe not every couple wants to debate though!

Aren't you ever worried that the differences could tear apart your relationship?

after 20 years together (16 years married), i'm not worried at all. we distinguish debates from arguments. funny though... in our debates we have come to agree more now than we did way back, so we have discussions that consist of "i think blah blah blah"... "really? me too!". i guess now we understand better where the other person is coming from.


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18 Nov 2010, 5:00 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
being individuals with different perspectives can sometimes strengthen a relationship. arguing politics, religion (he is christian, or recently theist, and i am atheist), morality and philosophy for many hours over pizza with my husband-to-be (at the time) was an incredible bonding experience. i guess maybe not every couple wants to debate though!

Aren't you ever worried that the differences could tear apart your relationship?

after 20 years together (16 years married), i'm not worried at all. we distinguish debates from arguments. funny though... in our debates we have come to agree more now than we did way back, so we have discussions that consist of "i think blah blah blah"... "really? me too!". i guess now we understand better where the other person is coming from.


I wish i could have that kind of stability... my ex left me for no apparent reason, so I couldn't even address the issue properly...



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18 Nov 2010, 5:10 pm

ToadOfSteel wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
being individuals with different perspectives can sometimes strengthen a relationship. arguing politics, religion (he is christian, or recently theist, and i am atheist), morality and philosophy for many hours over pizza with my husband-to-be (at the time) was an incredible bonding experience. i guess maybe not every couple wants to debate though!

Aren't you ever worried that the differences could tear apart your relationship?

after 20 years together (16 years married), i'm not worried at all. we distinguish debates from arguments. funny though... in our debates we have come to agree more now than we did way back, so we have discussions that consist of "i think blah blah blah"... "really? me too!". i guess now we understand better where the other person is coming from.


I wish i could have that kind of stability... my ex left me for no apparent reason, so I couldn't even address the issue properly...

well, we weren't stable to start with. for unrelated reasons, we roke up 8 times before we got married. but he wasn't the first guy i dated (or vice versa). i had to fail and get rejected and break up with other poeple for a while first.


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18 Nov 2010, 5:20 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
*Sorry for the horrible stereotyping below, but I am gonna spit it out ***

Most girls are like this.

They change their whole self-being (their culture, their values , their beliefs ....everything) in a tick just to be with the Mr.right guy.


/runs away.


Ever thought (if that is true) Then maybe this is why so many men here struggle with relationships? Their inflexibility?


ahh touche, you should make a thread about it
mind you I'd like not to read 20 posts of toad whining



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18 Nov 2010, 5:36 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
*Sorry for the horrible stereotyping below, but I am gonna spit it out ***

Most girls are like this.

They change their whole self-being (their culture, their values , their beliefs ....everything) in a tick just to be with the Mr.right guy.


/runs away.


Ever thought (if that is true) Then maybe this is why so many men here struggle with relationships? Their inflexibility?


Yea....you're probably right , maybe that's one my main obstacles.....I guess.

(Damn , you're good)

and it might the case of some of the women here struggling with relationships too.