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22 Feb 2011, 6:37 am

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If all men demanded women who are beautiful and all women demanded men who are tall, dark, hansom, masculine and rich then only about 1% of people would ever marry.

Look at the movie stars. Two people who are all of the above marry. It should be a perfect match, right?
How long does the average Hollywood marriage last?


I wanted to see a statistic on that, didn't find it, but this blog post suggests that 'celebrity' marriages in 2008 lasted longer than average.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jill-broo ... 51702.html


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22 Feb 2011, 9:21 pm

When I encounter a woman for the first time, I do emphasize her looks and attire. I tend to seek women with long or semi-long hair because I find it as symbol of femininity.

I would never want to date a woman who completely looks and dresses like a man (e.g. Rachel Maddow, Chyna, KD Lang). You know women with extremely short hair and no make-up or jewelry, dressed up in mens' clothing.



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22 Feb 2011, 10:08 pm

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To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.



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22 Feb 2011, 10:18 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/



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22 Feb 2011, 10:21 pm

Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/
While true, you still are doing well for yourself.



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22 Feb 2011, 10:27 pm

Jonsi wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/
While true, you still are doing well for yourself.


Yeah, I don't feel like going into this here. It would derail the thread quite a bit. >.<



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22 Feb 2011, 10:32 pm

Erisad wrote:
Jonsi wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/
While true, you still are doing well for yourself.


Yeah, I don't feel like going into this here. It would derail the thread quite a bit. >.<
Yeah, we'll leave it to the thread in the haven. :D



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22 Feb 2011, 11:34 pm

Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/


You have a boyfriend don't you, who you're into? Regardless of the riff raff that is his mother. That's something. I have huge trouble with men, i'm older than you but it doesn't mean no lovely men would ever have me.. and the same applies with you.



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23 Feb 2011, 7:14 am

hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/


You have a boyfriend don't you, who you're into? Regardless of the riff raff that is his mother. That's something. I have huge trouble with men, i'm older than you but it doesn't mean no lovely men would ever have me.. and the same applies with you.


What does being older have to do with it? Women can still be attractive when they get older. I'm confused...this might make more sense after being awake longer than 10 minutes. :lol:



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23 Feb 2011, 7:17 am

Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/


You have a boyfriend don't you, who you're into? Regardless of the riff raff that is his mother. That's something. I have huge trouble with men, i'm older than you but it doesn't mean no lovely men would ever have me.. and the same applies with you.


What does being older have to do with it? Women can still be attractive when they get older. I'm confused...this might make more sense after being awake longer than 10 minutes. :lol:


She's saying stop being so down on yourself. You're doing fine.



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23 Feb 2011, 7:17 am

Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Erisad wrote:
To me, not that much. As long as we're compatible personality-wise it's okay. Sadly, most guys don't seem to think that way of me. So if things don't work out with the bf and I, I'm waiting until I lose 80 pounds to try dating again. >.<


I think you're over dramatizing a bit about how men don't want you. You're 21 right? I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24, you're doing pretty well if you ask me. There's also aspie females here older than me who have never dated and are still virgins.


Just because I lost my virginity doesn't mean I'm doing well. There are some guys that will f**k anything. :/


You have a boyfriend don't you, who you're into? Regardless of the riff raff that is his mother. That's something. I have huge trouble with men, i'm older than you but it doesn't mean no lovely men would ever have me.. and the same applies with you.


What does being older have to do with it? Women can still be attractive when they get older. I'm confused...this might make more sense after being awake longer than 10 minutes. :lol:


What I'm trying to say if you're looking at it as a race, you're winning. I don't know how you can think you're not good or good enough compared to everyone else.



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23 Feb 2011, 7:25 am

How I'm not good enough? I was talking about looks-wise. I made the first move with most (arguably all) my relationships. Most of the time the guys like, "Eh. Why not?" in a way that suggested that nothing else was going on in their lives at the moment, as if a relationship with me was just to pass the time until they found someone who was "their type." :/



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23 Feb 2011, 8:08 am

looks are not important. neither is intelligence. neither is personality.

i do not know why i love tammy so much. i have no idea. it is like 2 peoples souls somehow are connected in some way, and nothing else on earth can replace it.

for me it happened out of nowhere. i was not attracted to anything. i just got used to being with her, and my love grew in the relaxation i felt while being with her.



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23 Feb 2011, 4:07 pm

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How I'm not good enough? I was talking about looks-wise. I made the first move with most (arguably all) my relationships. Most of the time the guys like, "Eh. Why not?" in a way that suggested that nothing else was going on in their lives at the moment, as if a relationship with me was just to pass the time until they found someone who was "their type." :/


We all get that though. Men can be shallow creatures, it's quite common they're always shopping for someone else. It's happened to me, a lot of women are lucky if they have someone who isn't like that - but all the good guys are usually taken, and for good reason, the rest of us get the duds who treat us like crap.



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23 Feb 2011, 4:09 pm

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We all get that though. Men can be shallow creatures, it's quite common they're always shopping for someone else. It's happened to me, a lot of women are lucky if they have someone who isn't like that - but all the good guys are usually taken, and for good reason, the rest of us get the duds who treat us like crap.


True that, which is why I wish we could custom order boyfriends from the internet. Not like online dating but like genetic alteration. :twisted:



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23 Feb 2011, 4:46 pm

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I would never want to date a woman who completely looks and dresses like a man (e.g. Rachel Maddow, Chyna, KD Lang). You know women with extremely short hair and no make-up or jewelry, dressed up in mens' clothing.


Have you ever dawned upon you that they might be looking and dressing like men for a reason? At least 2 of the 3 you are mentioning prefer to date women. Therefore the question is not whether you would date these women or not as they demonstrably have little interest in males.



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