I don't want to date poor people

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13 Mar 2011, 2:14 pm

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Its a simple fact: it is highly unlikely you will keep dating guy #2 and keep dating guy #1 if both guys are equally appealing physically/emotionally to you.

And if they both played drums, were firefighters, voted democrat and owned purple unicorns? How would I ever choose between them!

The likelihood of two guys being equally appealing with transportation being the sole difference between them is so slim, it just makes this an exercise in futile gender stereotyping.

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13 Mar 2011, 2:33 pm

Grisha wrote:

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oh you shallow men.
maybe he's a lovely guy and you're rejecting him because of how he looks!
shame. :wink:

At least he has a nice rack...

hahah!! !

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13 Mar 2011, 2:42 pm

wefunction wrote:

Dantac wrote:

Its a simple fact: it is highly unlikely you will keep dating guy #2 and keep dating guy #1 if both guys are equally appealing physically/emotionally to you.

I'm sure lack of transportation could be a factor in some people's decision making process. Some people really despise walking and public transport.

I agree that it's nigh impossible for two people to be identically attractive in the same ways. But it's not unthinkable for two people to have a similar aggregate level of attractiveness. Then the one with just one black mark on their score card is probably gonna get the chop, whether that be 'doesn't drive' 'has crap taste in movies' or 'hangs underwear on indoor radiators'.

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13 Mar 2011, 2:50 pm

I'll answer your question. If there were two guys, EXACTLY the same level of attractiveness (EXACTLY - this is just hyperthetical because its not common to have EXACTLY the same likeable traits and hate-able ones)

I would choose the guy with the car. Why? Not because it's more attractive. Simply because its more convenient. Who wants to wait for a smelly and dirty bus that arrives on a schedule when you can just be picked up from your house in a smaller and less dirty vehicle?

Remember, these guys have EXACTLY the same traits. If the bus guy was any way better, i'd chose him.

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13 Mar 2011, 3:37 pm

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It's nature at work. Girls want a rich successful guy the way guys want a girl who is hot.

Cliche gender stereotypes ftw!

Element of truth in many unfortunately...

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13 Mar 2011, 3:41 pm

Jono wrote:

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For many women, dating a car-less guy is big no-no ...

What happens if you can't drive because of some kind of disability? Such as poor eyesight or no depth perception? Not wanting to date a guy for that reason actually seems a bit shallow.

One ugly truth that NOBODY likes to talk about is that crippled guys are often on the bottom when it comes to the dating market.

You'd be surprised how many guys in wheelchairs hire "working girls" for this very reason.

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13 Mar 2011, 3:46 pm

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I can kind of empathize. I've dated poorer guys before, and it's pretty dismal when you know that
if you pursue a relationship with this person,
all the time you spend with them will have to be at home.

If you want to go see a movie, you have to pay.
If you want to go out for a meal, you have to pay.
Theatre? You.
Ball game? You.
Money for gas? You.

There's a difference in pursuing someone because they're LOADED (gold-digger)
and setting a standard that you're only willing to date someone who can afford to actually, ya know, DATE.

There is a social status/economic element to relationships that people do not like to talk about.

So for the overweight virgins who are unemployed and still living with their parents, doing the best you can to improve your lot in life (job, skills, etc.) will take you much farther than complaining about how nobody loves you.

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13 Mar 2011, 3:52 pm

la la la la la laaaa

don't ask me why I am singing here.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:12 pm

I'm very torn. There are these two guys and each has half my heart, like, you know, straight down the middle. They both have PhDs, gorgeous, great kissers, funny, serious, just like, the whole package. Neither one drives.

I don't know who to go for though. Can you guys help me decide?

Dipak dazzles me with this:

while Kanye romances me with this:

:help:

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13 Mar 2011, 4:13 pm

oh my god i want to ride in a sidecar.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:35 pm

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None of those things make someone a bad person (Especially someone on the autistic spectrum). All those things are just emblematic of someones societal stature. Guys like us just need to find women who can see past that.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:43 pm

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Guys like us just need to find women who can see past that.

Vanishingly rare to the point of practical non-existence, not even worth looking for IMO.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:45 pm

i dated a homeless guy before.
that's worse than living with parents etc.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:46 pm

emlion wrote:

i dated a homeless guy before.
that's worse than living with parents etc.

Let me guess-he was very "confident" - right?

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13 Mar 2011, 4:48 pm

no, he was a dick.
it was a stupid mistake.
he was the classic 'bad boy' :roll:
i'd take a fat, virgin..whatever else it was...over him anyday.

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13 Mar 2011, 4:54 pm

Grisha wrote:

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Guys like us just need to find women who can see past that.

Vanishingly rare to the point of practical non-existence, not even worth looking for IMO.

There are a lot of women out there who aren't superficial about income and simply prefer a man who appears confident, upfront and honest. You live in a place that's known to put wealth and plastic surgery as a priority in life. Where you live, men who are upfront, honest and genuinely confident are vanishingly rare to the point of practical non-existence. Some of us live in different places where people behave differently. Where I live, waiters tell people they're waiters, not actors.

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