Proof that aspies can have successful relationships

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The cause of misogyny can either be cultural influence, or blaming them for self's failure, or both.

The cause of misogyny can either be cultural influence, or blaming them for self's failure, or both.

Aspy men can have successful relationships if they're good-looking or rich. I'm neither.

Why do you guys assume that all women want are rich and good-looking men? You guys must be looking at the wrong women. :/

Basically, "this doesn't apply to me because I'm a special case".
You're ignoring all the straight success stories, of course. I think mine's the only same-sex success mentioned in this thread.



You've never been on the gay scene. Some are nice, but there are also a lot of bitchy queens. Even bisexuals struggle to gain acceptance sometimes. And if you're a racial minority or disabled, good luck on the scene.

Actually, my success really started when I discovered the clubbing circuit wasn't all there was. Pubs and clubs are really terrible places to meet people, and I don't even enjoy them as pubs and clubs.



"Those" guys. You exclude yourself already!



This is true. If I were straight, I'm not sure what I'd be doing now, but the key point is not that I'm gay but that I learnt to keep trying. I had my heart broken several times. I was taken advantage of. I wondered if I'd ever get anywhere. But I kept trying. I'd like to think I'd have done the same if I were straight.

You've given up, people. You've decided it's too late to try again, that you can't succeed, that it's all over. At 45, I'm pretty sure you WILL fail miserably if you're using dating techniques for teenagers! If at first you don't succeed, try something else - quit the bar scene (that stinks anyway), consider what you have to offer, rethink what you're looking for. The perfect woman does not exist, so lower your standards. Don't go looking for a long-term relationship from the start, because that will just put women off - these need to develop over time. Look for a short term fling instead. If it'll work out, it'll turn long term. If not, move on.

Dating is a weird game in which the rules are unclear, there's no clear scoring system and the players are after different things. Don't bother trying to win - you can't - but you haven't lost until you quit. Instead, remember what games are for - having fun. So you're starting late - it just means you need a different strategy. You think no-one else has ever joined (or rejoined) the dating scene in their forties? You've not got the youth card to play, but you've got life experience, and (hopefully) a stable home/career, both of which make you an interesting prospect. If you can control the more antisocial aspects, your AS can be a point of interest rather than a problem. If you can't, it's damn well time you learned.

All this said, I'm expecting you'll still say none of this applies to you, and then you'll give me a list of excuses.

Looks and money don't guarantee f*ck-all for anyone, including NTs, other than they can more easily afford to hire a prostitute.

Not true. I have AS and I'm a pretty damn good girlfriend.

They can be for Aspie guys. I'm an Aspie guy with an Aspie girl & she's perfect for me

I've had aspie boyfriends though, they all sucked.

I'll give a bunch of "excuses" as to why this doesn't apply to me. I've never been to college, in fact I spent most of my life in special ed until I dropped out in the 9th after repeating the grade twice. So basically I'm too stupid to get into college and in turn find a good job.

I'm 25, ugly, poor, slow, uneducated, never dated, with no friends, and have no prospects for a good future. I've spent the last few year locked up in my house to avoid being ridiculed and talked town by the people outside.

No offence, but life feeling like a prolonged death hints towards depression more than people wanting social interaction with people IMO. 'Tapping into your inner meh' is not going to get anybody anywhere, it's giving up. I feel that many people forget that autism is a spectrum disorder and that while some people have no desire for social interactions, a lot of people do, and some very strongly so. The fact that it's sometimes extremely hard for us to succeed in relationships doesn't completely rule it out as a possibilty. I think this thread is intended as an optimistic message to those who are convinced that they will never find a partner, not a way of showing off. There's no denying it takes a lot of effort and a good deal of luck, but it can happen.