Am I ugly?

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Every female is different and eveyone looks for something different in a man.

Really if i have to give you a grade you`re a 6.5/7

I`m straight so not that good at juding looks of other males.

On what? The ugly scale?

It starts to sound like you`re only here to get some attention...

If you feel that way then you don't have read or post in my threads, because I'm going to keep making threads and posting whether you or anyone else likes it or not.

I'm not going to get bullied/intimidated into anything.

Well, people are ignoring the elephant in the room a bit here in this thread. You're black. Basically, to put it shortly without me writing 8 paragraphs like I generally do, black people with Aspergers, tend to act, well, white. How often have you hung around white folks? White folks tend to enjoy black people who don't call everyone niggas and can speak English in the appropriate manner without constant slang. In some ways, being black, having Aspergers is a Godsend, as you're not going to conform to the idiocy around you in black culture as much. Thus, in the real world outside of "the hood" you might do really awesome.

You know, bathe, wear clean clothes. If you smell, cover it up with cologne at the very least. One thing, your hair, you should get your head shaved or comb your hair. Combing your hair if you're black is kinda hard, as you gotta like, rake it. I'd not get cornrows ever, I knew someone that was white, upon a black person attempting to braid his hair, remarked "Man, now I know why black people are always mad all the time." But as far as your looks, the only physical feature that seems "off" is one eye is closed slightly more than the other. That, and you are somewhat overweight. However, I will argue black people can get away with being overweight more than white people, hell, look at the rapper Rick Ross, he's fat as hell and still somehow successful. I mean generally only fat white people are used for comedic relief, but he's trying to market himself as some super cool gangsta n***a from the streetz or something. So yeah, I'm going to err on the side of "basic grooming" and you'll be fine. You could stand to lose a little weight, but really, you're not really anymore fat than average nowadays.

Really though, I'm probably going to get called insensitive and/or racist for this post, but yeah, truthfulness is what you want. Have you hung around with white people much? Especially nerdy groups, anime clubs, etc? You'd probably be surprised at how well they'd accept you. I mean, it's not going to be perfect, but I'm gonna take a gander that it'll work out better than black people. Black Aspergians seem to have trouble with their own race. Like, Darius McCollum, he's a famous train "thief", he ended up getting obsessed with trains as a kid. Why? Some kid in his class stabbed him when he was like 10 and he almost died, so he'd skip school and ride the train.

Black people that are "different" have it hard. My best friend, I don't know if I'd apply Aspergers/etc to him, but he is a bit "different" and people say he's like a more outgoing black version of me, but he's half black (looks full black, as his dad is Wesley Snipes dark, and his mom is Portuguese) and he's dealt with lots of issues relating to this sorta stuff. Black people think he's weird, white people think he's weird, and he's had to learn to adapt to both. But overall, I'd say he's got many more acquaintances and friends that are white. He's found a great niche in airsoft, and is a good airsoft sniper, and like me and you, likes anime and video games and all that great stuff, and is staff at Connecticon anime convention.

So yeah, as racially insensitive as this sounds, try to get out of the "urban culture" the most you can. It's dumb. I say this from experience, having been to jail around black people, and now living in a "black neighborhood." It's a toxic culture, that shuns knowledge and any degree of intellectualness at all.

(I'm probably going to get flamed like hell now.)

Anyway, that's my suggestion, bathe, groom, all that fun stuff, you'll be fine. Maybe lose a little weight, but no, you don't look grossly disfigured or anything. Oddly, I never use soap anymore, but I shower everyday. I just rinse down well with water and I'm fine, no shampoo either. Just shower everyday. You could try that, at the very least, it'd be better than not showering at all. Perhaps soap/shampoo/etc is your sensory issue with the showering thing. But seriously, having been in close proximity with people who don't shower as often as they should (in jail) it's not nice.

And yeah, my other not too racially sensitive suggestion, you could always try that. Maybe you have, no idea.


If you still think you're ugly, could be worse. I know this guy personally. He's actually had like half a dozen girlfriends. No joke. He posts here, too. At least you're not him.

Yes you are. That's sad but what should we do... I'm also not beautiful.
That makes it a bit harder but not impossible. The only thing you won't be able to is going out looking for some quick sexual activity.

I'll never have sex until I'm married (however unlikely that is)


If you have got other qualities they count the same if not even more in social questions, you will of course be able to have relationships etc.

I don't have any redeeming qualities, read through the thread.


So... what should you do? A surgery maybe if you suffer too much from it. But I doubt that it would be necessary.

I don't have nearly enough money for plastic surgery, and If I did, I wouldn't get it. Most of the time PS makes a person look worse than they were before the surgery.

See the problem is, even when I bathe people say I stink. I believe it's my house. It's rat infested, dirty, and broken down. It also has a few pipe leaks. Also my sister barley bathes too and she still has problems with not urinating while she is asleep. (she is 24, unbelievable right?) That doesn't really help with the smell of our house.

It's been this way since my teens, so bathing doesn't really matter.

What am I supposed to do about me being slow, stupid, irritating, and poor? All of you people sound like my grandma and her friends. Of you wouldn't say I'm ugly because you don't want to hurt my feelings. I'd bet $10,000 if I were just a random person you saw in public or walking down a street, you would have a different opinion.

BTW, how do I get confident? I have nothing to be confident about. I am not attractive, I can't attract women, I don't have friends and noone wants to be around me, I'm poor, I can't take care of myself, I'm not smart, I don't have any special skills or talents, I can't drive, I can barely bathe myself, I'm simple-minded and mentally weak. Nothing about me says confidence.

I am supposed to fake it? Delude myself into think I'm better than I actually am? Like some douche?

I am literally the antithesis of what a woman wants in a man.

Yup, pretty much. Fake it till you make it. Heard that one before?

Am I ugly?