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31 Oct 2011, 10:22 am

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In my case, I think the answer is pretty simple - reincarnation :(


The thing with that is, if you don't learn anything in this life, your next life is going to be exactly the same. You won' just be re-born as a popular guy.


I've learned plenty, albeit a little too late this time around.



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31 Oct 2011, 11:33 am

(I saw nothing wrong in that first girl though, don't know who she is - don't care.)

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The ultimate goal in this thread should be for each of us to make ourselves more attractive to ourselves in order to attract the correct partner.



Yum!

Just for the fun of it here is another picture of Abby :D

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31 Oct 2011, 11:48 am

I've lost 85 lbs and it's still coming off. I have a problem with my self esteem. I still consider myself fat and ugly, but I'm learning to accept myself for who I am and am trying not to compare myself with other women. I'm buying new clothes that fit properly. I like my clothes larger as it's more comfortable, but it makes me look fat. Putting on a little make up. I don't like to wear a lot of it. Got my hair highlighted and growing it long.

I have been doing things that I've always wanted to do, but have never had a chance to do them. I started belly dancing, yoga, firespinning, hiking, camping, singing, playing guitar and drums, writing songs, a novel, a childrens book and various poems, plus a whole lot more. I doubt very much if anyone will ask me out, but over the last week, I've been very happy and smiling a lot. This past weekend, I noticed a lot of guys doing double takes on me which I never got before. Someone said I looked beautiful in my costume, too. That was awesome!!

I think a lot of it comes with self confidence and self esteem. When I smile and am happy and feel good about myself, people want to talk to me. When I'm not, I literally become invisible, and no one can see me.



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31 Oct 2011, 12:26 pm

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I think a lot of it comes with self confidence and self esteem. When I smile and am happy and feel good about myself, people want to talk to me. When I'm not, I literally become invisible, and no one can see me.


Exactly. I think that's really the whole point of this thread: "what do you need to do to like yourself more?", not "what to you need to do to be acceptable to others?" - once you've got the first, the second naturally follows.



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31 Oct 2011, 1:49 pm

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Please don't ever consider injecting Botox into your skin, it's the most toxic substance in the world. :( Plus it would be a crime to warp a face as beautiful as yours. I honestly don't know any way your face could be improved, it's a face in a thousand as I've said before. Not intending to flatter, this is just fact.


the toxicity part is true, but it's also true that botox has been widely used in dermatology since the 80's, on actual living humans, and the reported fatalities are sparse (see here).

I'm not advocating it or anything, and definitely not in the case of someone as young as hale_bopp. but for myself, looking at the fact that in some 10 years I'll probably have my usual constantly quizzed/startled expression chiseled solid into my face, I might just think about it ;(


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31 Oct 2011, 2:03 pm

Ichinin wrote:
(I saw nothing wrong in that first girl though, don't know who she is - don't care.)

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
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The ultimate goal in this thread should be for each of us to make ourselves more attractive to ourselves in order to attract the correct partner.



Yum!

Just for the fun of it here is another picture of Abby :D

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I love Abby :D



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31 Oct 2011, 3:54 pm

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A big rule of thumb is to never, ever, use cologne to cover bad body odor. The two combine and the smell is atrocious. If you worry about body odor, then the first plan of action is to shower and clean yourself thoroughly whenever possible.


I clean myself daily, thank you very much. And I'll use as much cologne as I feel like. I've never had any complaints so far - although I do agree that it can be obnoxious if people go hugely overboard, I generally never get that far.

And I perspire during the day, not at the time of application.


I'm sorry, I wasn't intending to be offensive. Perhaps my language came across a bit strongly. I promise I was thinking literally and objectively, not subjectively of you being a person that is unclean or smells bad.

A lot of boys in high school that did have scent issues would attempt to cover it up with strong smelling cologne. The results were disastrous, to say the least...

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the toxicity part is true, but it's also true that botox has been widely used in dermatology since the 80's, on actual living humans, and the reported fatalities are sparse (see here).


I do know this, however I didn't think botox had been around long enough to properly assess the long term repercussions on people. I suppose I could be wrong.


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31 Oct 2011, 4:02 pm

wyldragon wrote:
I've lost 85 lbs and it's still coming off. I have a problem with my self esteem. I still consider myself fat and ugly, but I'm learning to accept myself for who I am and am trying not to compare myself with other women. I'm buying new clothes that fit properly. I like my clothes larger as it's more comfortable, but it makes me look fat. Putting on a little make up. I don't like to wear a lot of it. Got my hair highlighted and growing it long.

I have been doing things that I've always wanted to do, but have never had a chance to do them. I started belly dancing, yoga, firespinning, hiking, camping, singing, playing guitar and drums, writing songs, a novel, a childrens book and various poems, plus a whole lot more. I doubt very much if anyone will ask me out, but over the last week, I've been very happy and smiling a lot. This past weekend, I noticed a lot of guys doing double takes on me which I never got before. Someone said I looked beautiful in my costume, too. That was awesome!!

I think a lot of it comes with self confidence and self esteem. When I smile and am happy and feel good about myself, people want to talk to me. When I'm not, I literally become invisible, and no one can see me.


Nice post!


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31 Oct 2011, 4:03 pm

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I think they are both gorgeous, for different reasons.

The second one reminds me a little of Hyperlexian....

awwwwwww thank you. she is sexier than all heck so i appreciate that!! !!


You're welcome! : )


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31 Oct 2011, 4:05 pm

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Please don't ever consider injecting Botox into your skin, it's the most toxic substance in the world. :( Plus it would be a crime to warp a face as beautiful as yours. I honestly don't know any way your face could be improved, it's a face in a thousand as I've said before. Not intending to flatter, this is just fact.


the toxicity part is true, but it's also true that botox has been widely used in dermatology since the 80's, on actual living humans, and the reported fatalities are sparse (see here).

I'm not advocating it or anything, and definitely not in the case of someone as young as hale_bopp. but for myself, looking at the fact that in some 10 years I'll probably have my usual constantly quizzed/startled expression chiseled solid into my face, I might just think about it ;(



Botox is pure ugliness, don't even think to do it, not now and not even in 10 years. Your smile is fine, you silly.




This what happens to you after a lot of botox re-injections: Image



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31 Oct 2011, 4:09 pm

^^ it's not the smile I'm worried about dude. but my left eyebrow will eventually shoot out of my forehead if I don't restrain it somehow :lol:


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31 Oct 2011, 4:45 pm

^^ whoa? what? go online.



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31 Oct 2011, 4:46 pm

ok I was slightly exaggerating :P


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31 Oct 2011, 4:51 pm

An anal bleach always looks nice and fresh and clean



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31 Oct 2011, 4:51 pm

LOOK!

It's a bird....it's a plane....


It's .....Anna's SUPER eyebrow!!

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31 Oct 2011, 4:58 pm

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I'm sorry, I wasn't intending to be offensive.


I know you weren't meaning to be offensive but it came across a little bit too strong in the sense that I thought you were saying that almost everyone who ever uses cologne is disgusting.

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A lot of boys in high school that did have scent issues would attempt to cover it up with strong smelling cologne.


I know the kind of thing you're referring to here, when people go way overboard, it is really obnoxious, yes.

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ok I was slightly exaggerating :P


See, I bet you were talking out of your bumhole here. I bet there's absolutely nothing wrong with you and you look gorgeous. I'm not even going to ask for pics. ;)