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26 Jan 2012, 1:59 am

Mummy_of_Peanut wrote:

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I agree with you to an extent, OP. I don't see why people have to be sexually atttacted to each other to form romantic relationships.

Conversely, I don't understand how one can call a relationship "romantic" unless there's a sexual component. I think it's just personal needs and semantics we're disagreeing on, here. For me, intense friendship = intense friendship. Intense friendship + sex = romantic relationship.

Oh, and I guess I should add that for me, sexual attraction is a necessary prerequisite for sex.

In some cases, and usually after many years, a romantic relationship reverts back to being just an intense friendship. I may or may not be speaking from experience. :wink:

But would you still call it a romantic relationship? I sure wouldn't! I would call that a former romantic relationship.

Yes, I would still call it romantic. I'm pretty certain my parents come into that category and they are still very much in love. I wouldn't call it just an intense friendship.

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there can be romance from the very first moment 2 people meet or see each other.
Romance virtually comes from not knowing, discovering, and thus liking the other person wether it be their physical apearance, thoughts, kindness humor, or..........anything that is attractive to ones self.

Romance can happen anytime anywhere and doesn't need to result in sex
Sex without love is just sex Love without sex is still love
Romance can last a lifetime. so can love, sex need not
Friendship with sex is a quick way to ruin a friendship

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26 Jan 2012, 7:51 am

gadge wrote:

Semantics, from where I sit. YMMV, of course.

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26 Jan 2012, 8:43 am

All that other crap is just the ideal. What people really want is sex with someone they're attracted to.

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26 Jan 2012, 9:33 am

why not date the same sex...
well, i only have one answer for that: i am not attacted to the same sex; not sexually and not romantically, that's why.

if i would meet a man i would be interested in, in that way, i wont hesitate more then i already do for women (although it's inpossible to hesitate more, but that's besides the point).

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26 Jan 2012, 9:42 am

gadge wrote:

Mummy_of_Peanut wrote:

mv wrote:

Mummy_of_Peanut wrote:

mv wrote:

diniesaur wrote:

I agree with you to an extent, OP. I don't see why people have to be sexually atttacted to each other to form romantic relationships.

In some cases, and usually after many years, a romantic relationship reverts back to being just an intense friendship. I may or may not be speaking from experience. :wink:

But would you still call it a romantic relationship? I sure wouldn't! I would call that a former romantic relationship.

Yes, I would still call it romantic. I'm pretty certain my parents come into that category and they are still very much in love. I wouldn't call it just an intense friendship.

IMO
there can be romance from the very first moment 2 people meet or see each other.
Romance virtually comes from not knowing, discovering, and thus liking the other person wether it be their physical apearance, thoughts, kindness humor, or..........anything that is attractive to ones self.

Romance can happen anytime anywhere and doesn't need to result in sex
Sex without love is just sex Love without sex is still love
Romance can last a lifetime. so can love, sex need not
Friendship with sex is a quick way to ruin a friendship

Maybe for some but certainly not for everyone. My mom and dad are like best friends now moreso since they split up years ago. They hold hands and hug each other which they never use to do. My aunt and uncle are the same way and have been for years. As I said, different strokes for different folks. Personally I think friendship + sex are what make a relationship more healthy but that's just my opinion. Some people view the opposite sex as something to be conquered or challenged or that there needs to be this constant excitement like "romance" in a relationship.

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26 Jan 2012, 11:35 am

DanRaccoon wrote:

I wish I were gay :/ men are easier.

I wish I were straight. Men are easier.

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26 Jan 2012, 5:15 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:

DanRaccoon wrote:

I wish I were gay :/ men are easier.

It would be so much easier if I was gay. :lol:

Same here.

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26 Jan 2012, 7:31 pm

I thought that it would be understood that when I start with IMO(in my opinion) it would be understood thats my view, not everyones.

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27 Jan 2012, 8:02 am

gadge wrote:

I thought that it would be understood that when I start with IMO(in my opinion) it would be understood thats my view, not everyones.

And I am free to disagree directly with your opinion, which I did. ^^ No need to get one's panties in a wad. :wink:

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27 Jan 2012, 3:03 pm

I'd be happy to have a male-male relationship, but at the college level it seems all the gay men are too in-your-face and the sort of mousy guys I'm looking for are always too straight. I guess what I want is a shy, awkward mousy guy with plain looks who is willing to be the dominant one in a relationship.
Sexual attraction isn't really an issue. I do have my likes and dislikes, but I can be attracted to anyone that I feel a connection to, male or female.

Then again, I'm a bit of a weirdo.

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27 Jan 2012, 3:35 pm

There is NOTHING wrong about wanting to have sex with someone you find attractive. That is the normal response..
The problem is of course my shyness/blocks/AS that gets in the way of my normal instincts..
Also, I think I expect too much of people early on.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:49 am

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For all the "Im just not gay" responses or Im just not attracted to the same sex. Relationships are not all about sex in fact sex and attraction only makes up a small part of a relationship. I'm talking if your looking for a long term partner to share your life with that understands you. Then think, does that person really have to be the opposite sex as you? Like why does that have to be a requirement. Sure it can be but for some people(aspie and NT), finding someone of the same sex that understands them and can be a life partner might be more probable then trying to find someone of the opposite sex. Especially all those aspie guys who claim that NT females are repulsed by them.

I'm afraid you will find that sex is a driving force in most relationships, where you share your life, if people are really honest with themselves.

You can have a life-long friend, but that's a strong friendship, and they can be male or female, that is a sexless thing.

When you say partner, because of the depth of sharing and feelings, then sex becomes involved, it's quite natural.

So if you are considering a same sex partner, then chances are you're gay or bisexual.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:59 am

I have dated both me, and women. For me, sexuality is fluid. Currently, I would say I am into men, and not women. But that may change again. Depends on who comes into my life.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:35 am

No thanks, I don't get along with most females. Too much drama!

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15 Dec 2012, 10:58 am

If I could rewire myself to be gay I'd probably do it, honestly. Considering I very rarely get hit on by women but get hit on by men a whole lot, it would make dating easier on me. But I don't swing that way and never will, so....

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15 Dec 2012, 6:29 pm

Not attracted to women.

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