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14 Nov 2012, 2:23 am

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At an anime convention.



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14 Nov 2012, 3:50 am

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AspieOtaku wrote:
At an anime convention.


For every hot girl at an anime or video game convention, there's a ton of other guys so the ratio of men to women is high. It wouldn't be the best place in my opinion but you may feel more comfortable at a convention as opposed to a bar or club and it will give you a common mutual ground.



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14 Nov 2012, 10:07 am

Wolfheart wrote:
BrokenEnvoke wrote:
AspieOtaku wrote:
At an anime convention.


For every hot girl at an anime or video game convention, there's a ton of other guys so the ratio of men to women is high. It wouldn't be the best place in my opinion but you may feel more comfortable at a convention as opposed to a bar or club and it will give you a common mutual ground.


and it can help with the friend's of friend's method.
you get to meet some cool guys, and those guys might have sisters or neighbors or co-workers. just as long as you dont hurt your new friend by fooling around with people important to them.



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15 Nov 2012, 1:48 am

it's like women just have to exist in order to get a date, a boyfriend, thats all



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15 Nov 2012, 2:37 am

Wolfheart wrote:
For every hot girl at an anime or video game convention, there's a ton of other guys so the ratio of men to women is high. It wouldn't be the best place in my opinion but you may feel more comfortable at a convention as opposed to a bar or club and it will give you a common mutual ground.


This is, rather fortunately, starting to become less true with every passing year. There is ONE factor to keep in mind, though:

At these conventions, competition will be high, as you mentioned. But see, here's the thing.....most of that competition isn't much competition! Seriously, walk into a convention wearing nice clothes (or a good cosplay outfit) and sporting a decent bod, and you've instantly set yourself above 99% of the nerds there.



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15 Nov 2012, 5:46 am

Any event on which people are expected to be friendly/open at most times, even better if they are lacking on people.

You may not find a partner but unless its a male orientated group you are bound to come across some females that will think its perfectly normal for you to approach them/try to get to know them and they will probably approach you if you dont approach them(Ive gone as far as a girl talking to me one-on-one once the group was over just because I was normal around others and awkward around her(way out of my league/ I was familiar with the others and she was new))

Having a chance to talk to women in a friendly enviroment where they feel comfortable will help you become more comfortable around women/when approaching them.

Its better if they are lacking on people because they tend to make an extra effort on getting to know each other and treating you just as they treat anyone else so that you do go back to this group



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15 Nov 2012, 2:12 pm

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15 Nov 2012, 2:38 pm

Shau wrote:
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For every hot girl at an anime or video game convention, there's a ton of other guys so the ratio of men to women is high. It wouldn't be the best place in my opinion but you may feel more comfortable at a convention as opposed to a bar or club and it will give you a common mutual ground.


This is, rather fortunately, starting to become less true with every passing year. There is ONE factor to keep in mind, though:

At these conventions, competition will be high, as you mentioned. But see, here's the thing.....most of that competition isn't much competition! Seriously, walk into a convention wearing nice clothes (or a good cosplay outfit) and sporting a decent bod, and you've instantly set yourself above 99% of the nerds there.


Agreed. Lot of those girls already got boyfriends, though. If you got an anime club in your area it might be good, too. My convention in my area has game nights and member days and stuff to hang out, so yeah.

That said, I feel odd at anime cons and related things now for some reason. It's just not my "crowd" anymore, but I don't know what exactly is.



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15 Nov 2012, 2:41 pm

Down on the corner
Out in the street


Anywhere works for me. 8)

I prefer natural environments. Not artificial ones created for the purpose of meeting. People aren't as on guard and far more open when you just run into them wherever they already are naturally.


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http://www.gk2gk.com :D


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17 Nov 2012, 7:59 pm

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Don't just look for women, look for aspie women. NT's are only going to reject you or keep you for a bit and then kick you away penniless. Actually, an aspie woman has a better chance with an NT man than aspie men have with an NT women. The very purpose of an NT woman's life is a social one. When NT men socialize, they don't care if their women are there or not. The NT woman EXPECTS you to socialize. ........ My NT cousin married an aspie and was ever so grateful for his fidelity and hard-work but after 8 years, she got very depressed and gained a lot of weight.......Her complaint was that he always wants to stay home. He doesn't talk to people. He's embarrasing and bores people when he does talk to them. ... She wanted to go to the bar with friends. Because of her guilt that he was indeed a GOOD man...... Stay with your own type!!


I don't know what to say.... based on your comments I would be an autist (versus ADD). I know autist males that love going out, so I don't know about your assertion. I'm the one who stays home and doesn't talk and can be boring. And I would be considered NT by many but I beg to differ. I do sympathize with your cousin and the aspie. Could not have been easy at the end.


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19 Nov 2012, 4:04 pm

1000Knives wrote:
Shau wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
For every hot girl at an anime or video game convention, there's a ton of other guys so the ratio of men to women is high. It wouldn't be the best place in my opinion but you may feel more comfortable at a convention as opposed to a bar or club and it will give you a common mutual ground.


This is, rather fortunately, starting to become less true with every passing year. There is ONE factor to keep in mind, though:

At these conventions, competition will be high, as you mentioned. But see, here's the thing.....most of that competition isn't much competition! Seriously, walk into a convention wearing nice clothes (or a good cosplay outfit) and sporting a decent bod, and you've instantly set yourself above 99% of the nerds there.


Agreed. Lot of those girls already got boyfriends, though. If you got an anime club in your area it might be good, too. My convention in my area has game nights and member days and stuff to hang out, so yeah.

That said, I feel odd at anime cons and related things now for some reason. It's just not my "crowd" anymore, but I don't know what exactly is.


it makes me want to beat up a girls boyfriend out of anger and jealousy



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19 Nov 2012, 4:08 pm

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it makes me want to beat up a girls boyfriend out of anger and jealousy


Dude... you're starting to scare me a little bit... this obsession is getting serious! 8O



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20 Nov 2012, 5:52 am

I saw meetup.com mentioned before and didn't find anything in my area. But now I found there is one that works for me (just didn't realize exactly what it was before). I know a lot of aspies are non-religious (including me) and it can be difficult getting a date especially in the south because of that. Yep, I found out we have an atheist meetup group only 30 miles from me that meets every week and is quite active. I joined it myself last week and it is a fun and talkative group! If you are interested, look for groups with names like "freethinkers" or "freethought". They also have a facebook page and that is a good way to connect with locals. They got a kick out of my red "seeking a girlfriend" t-shirt.

I also got a reply today from my ad in in the Craigslist personals titled "seeking a woman with Aspergers syndrome". Yep, already starting talking online to an aspie woman within 10 miles of me! She doesn't want a relationship, but it's still a great start. May get a nice friend at least. Give it a shot.



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05 Dec 2012, 3:47 am

BlueMax wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
it makes me want to beat up a girls boyfriend out of anger and jealousy


Dude... you're starting to scare me a little bit... this obsession is getting serious! 8O


well another reason why i feel like doing that is to show life, society, the world, that i'm sick and tired of gender stereotypes, double-standards, on how us guys are expected to toughen it up all the time, take personal responsibility all the time, etc.