My two hours with Mystery

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Do you think people necessarily should share the same interests too? Or just similar opinions about the world?

I think it's important to share similar interests to an extent but I wouldn't say it's a necessity when it comes to the success of a relationship. Sometimes I think it's best if both people have different interests as they have individual and independent means of expression and that can be healthy as opposed to two people doing everything together in a relationship. I think it's good to have an open mind and to try different activities but I think it's important that people have similar lifestyles to a degree.

Wolf, 90 of women on WP find you good-looking...

the irony, do you remember our debate about how attractiveness isn't that much subjective?

Interesting. Shared interests have never really been a requirement of mine, but a similar POV on life I view as very important. I agree on having a similar lifestyle too. You seemed very quiet IRL - do you search mostly for people online?

I did know someone very good looking who was unattractive to women, I think because he was so blunt. I still wonder whether I should have ended our friendship. I've hardly ever had a friend IRL who has tried to contact me after I've ended a friendship with them. He hinted I was "really, really stupid", and I just found it unforgivable. He has the most incredible smile, though. Maybe I should get back in touch with him, just cos he tried to get in touch with me. But then, that would make me feel like a doormat.

Thats not him in his avatar BTW.

sorry to burst your bubble but thats not him in his avatar.

With guys like Mystery, Dave DeAngelo, Niel Strauss, you kind of see where personal revelation so to speak doesn't necessarily extrapolate. You have guys the world over who say they learned how to pick up women and that they can teach their friends how to do it - sometimes it works, other times it just seems like 'unwillingness', has really a lot more to do with who that guy is, how much room he has to work with within himself, and more importantly - what venues absolutely will or won't work for him as who is.

From what you said in the OP its kind of a shame to hear he's that much of a goober, you figure he'd be a little better at sorting people out by now. Apparently though some girls are looking for a specific 'something', he found it, and if it sounds like odd/disjointed gibberish you're probably just not that type. As for his cohorts; they're sucking up to a guy who they think has the answers, he perhaps had the answers for himself but him having the answers for 'them'? Its a long shot, and you saw that one demonstrated pretty clearly.

You said he had the appeal of a rotten cold cod , so for a moment their I thought you thought he was a bit of an all right ,yummy in fact, than I realised you where Finnish (Surströmming ).

What does it matter no one is going to read what I wrote anyway.

It was a joke BTW (lame)

Not sticking it to you (mod likes to edit everything I like to say you see ) but do you sometimes wish you where asexual/borderline without good looks or education, than you wouldn't have all these "problems"

Sometimes I'm glad I'm me and not some one else.

It was particularly unfunny (I googled it) (Surströmming ). is also eaten in some parts of Finland apparently , are you from some part?

Sometimes I wonder why I bother coming here knowing it will be another post i make that will go unread/unresponded.

Oh well , that is life I suppose

I'm sure 90% of women is an overstatement and I doubt I am everyone's cup of tea.



In some cases, I think I come across quiet in group dynamics because I'm not used to large groups or because I find it difficult to process group dynamics or socializing in a large group, I am better at one on one approaches. I tend to meet people through smaller groups or approaching them on a one on one basis, I definitely find I'm better at that.



It is me, Smudge and other members have met me in London in real life and I'd be more than happy to verify in a video call over Skype. I even held the last meet up in London and I am currently organizing the next one in London.

Someone's jelly!

Especially considering that smudge has met him in london. And yes wolfheart, im also thinking that 90+% of women see you as a form of attractive.

I've actually never heard of Surströmming, so no, I've never tried it and I'm not a fan of cod, personally. (Excuse the term I used, there was no proper word to describe how I perceived the situation.)

As for if I wanted to be asexual or uneducated in order to avoid unpleasant attention from men, not really... All young women I know have had similar problems at some stage of their lives no matter their looks, sexuality or background.

There's no need to belittle yourself, you have a lot of good things in your life and you're a colourful add to this forum.

And let Wolfheart be, please, he seems like a great guy (and he IS good-looking).

Yeah your right, my mistake, I thought he said that was some football star of some sort in his avatar , I must have mistaken him for some one else.