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07 Jun 2012, 3:31 pm

My hat goes off to you, Boo. :)



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07 Jun 2012, 3:37 pm

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Wow...

Thing is though, most of these messages aren't from people you would actually consider going out with right?


unlike you most men are realistic to their standards



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07 Jun 2012, 3:40 pm

I've never shown you photos of girls I'd consider acceptable.. so you really have no idea how "Realistic" my standards are..

All I've said is I prefer blondes, and I prefer girls within a certain weight range relative to my own.

You are making assumptions.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:44 pm

well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you



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07 Jun 2012, 3:47 pm

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well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


Many aspies are placed in an artificially low league below otherwise equally attractive NT men. Som of the traits caused by Asperer's syndrome is incompatible with the party loving, extroverted and popular ideal traits of 2012.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:47 pm

MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Wow...

Thing is though, most of these messages aren't from people you would actually consider going out with right?


unlike you most men are realistic to their standards


Yes!

e.g. I'd give most women a chance if I was single and they were friendly, average intelligence, enough traits to make things comfortable and they were reasonably good looking lol

Considering going out with them on a date, though, isn't the same as considering all these women to be long term material. That's another story! Like women, any guy with a bit of self respect also has a selection process.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:48 pm

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well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


That is a good question. I'll tell you my theory though.

1) I am extremely nerdy: D&D, Role Playing Games, Costumes, Ren Faires, Fantasy novels, Etc. I tend to hang out with a lot of people who are into those same things, and I tend to go to places where those sorts of people hang out.

2) I've been told repeatedly that I remind people of an Elf, lots of girls who are into the things I listed above, find Elves attractive.

3) Lots of the girls who are into these sorts of things, much like lots of guys who are into these sorts of things, are overweight and don't take particularly good care of themselves.

So that's my theory. They are attracted to me specifically because of my appearance relative to the other guys who are into the same things they are into.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:49 pm

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MXH wrote:
well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


Many aspies are placed in an artificially low league below otherwise equally attractive NT men. Som of the traits caused by Asperer's syndrome is incompatible with the party loving, extroverted and popular ideal traits of 2012.


Which means is you are a lower league, so be realistic and go for your league



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07 Jun 2012, 3:51 pm

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MXH wrote:
well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


That is a good question. I'll tell you my theory though.

1) I am extremely nerdy: D&D, Role Playing Games, Costumes, Ren Faires, Fantasy novels, Etc. I tend to hang out with a lot of people who are into those same things, and I tend to go to places where those sorts of people hang out.

2) I've been told repeatedly that I remind people of an Elf, lots of girls who are into the things I listed above, find Elves attractive.

3) Lots of the girls who are into these sorts of things, much like lots of guys who are into these sorts of things, are overweight and don't take particularly good care of themselves.

So that's my theory. They are attracted to me specifically because of my appearance relative to the other guys who are into the same things they are into.


Ok, now that you have a theory what can you modify to get the results you want? Because as we see it you're not at the league of girl you go for. What are you willing to do to reach that league.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:51 pm

rabbittss wrote:
Wow...

Thing is though, most of these messages aren't from people you would actually consider going out with right?


not that simple, most of them live outside Lebanon:

-Some of them live in the Middle east, so meeting up with them is possible but not too simple.
-Some of them live way abroad but frequently visit Beirut ( job requirements, expats, half-half families....etc)
-There are only 2 hot prospects who currently live in my country, but hey...after all I just want one girl.
-Some are just random messages from everywhere.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:53 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
Wow...

Thing is though, most of these messages aren't from people you would actually consider going out with right?


not that simple, most of them live outside Lebanon:

-Some of them live in the Middle east, so meeting up with them is possible but not too simple.
-Some of them live way abroad but frequently visit Beirut ( job requirements, expats, half-half families....etc)
-There are only 2 hot prospects who currently live in my country, but hey...after all I just need one girl.
-Some are just random messages from everywhere.


I see, I've only ever received one message from some one overseas, a girl in Germany sent me a very snarky email answering a question I had on my profile..



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07 Jun 2012, 3:56 pm

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rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


That is a good question. I'll tell you my theory though.

1) I am extremely nerdy: D&D, Role Playing Games, Costumes, Ren Faires, Fantasy novels, Etc. I tend to hang out with a lot of people who are into those same things, and I tend to go to places where those sorts of people hang out.

2) I've been told repeatedly that I remind people of an Elf, lots of girls who are into the things I listed above, find Elves attractive.

3) Lots of the girls who are into these sorts of things, much like lots of guys who are into these sorts of things, are overweight and don't take particularly good care of themselves.

So that's my theory. They are attracted to me specifically because of my appearance relative to the other guys who are into the same things they are into.


Ok, now that you have a theory what can you modify to get the results you want? Because as we see it you're not at the league of girl you go for. What are you willing to do to reach that league.


Nothing, I'm not willing to change anything about myself, nor am I willing to date unattractive and overweight girls who think I'm pretty. I don't believe that I can change anything, either I will eventually get what I want, or I won't. The Universe decides, not me.



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07 Jun 2012, 3:59 pm

MXH wrote:
Kurgan wrote:
MXH wrote:
well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


Many aspies are placed in an artificially low league below otherwise equally attractive NT men. Som of the traits caused by Asperer's syndrome is incompatible with the party loving, extroverted and popular ideal traits of 2012.


Which means is you are a lower league, so be realistic and go for your league


A girl in my league is reasonably attractive (but not a perfect 10), working on a degree, is intelligent and physially fit, but is socially awkward, has slightly poor fine motor skills, is "uncool", and lacks empathy.



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07 Jun 2012, 4:10 pm

I wonder what would happen to my inbox if I change my location to somewhere where there are much more okc users like US or UK or anywhere in Europe.


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07 Jun 2012, 5:09 pm

rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
MXH wrote:
well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


That is a good question. I'll tell you my theory though.

1) I am extremely nerdy: D&D, Role Playing Games, Costumes, Ren Faires, Fantasy novels, Etc. I tend to hang out with a lot of people who are into those same things, and I tend to go to places where those sorts of people hang out.

2) I've been told repeatedly that I remind people of an Elf, lots of girls who are into the things I listed above, find Elves attractive.

3) Lots of the girls who are into these sorts of things, much like lots of guys who are into these sorts of things, are overweight and don't take particularly good care of themselves.

So that's my theory. They are attracted to me specifically because of my appearance relative to the other guys who are into the same things they are into.


Ok, now that you have a theory what can you modify to get the results you want? Because as we see it you're not at the league of girl you go for. What are you willing to do to reach that league.


Nothing, I'm not willing to change anything about myself, nor am I willing to date unattractive and overweight girls who think I'm pretty. I don't believe that I can change anything, either I will eventually get what I want, or I won't. The Universe decides, not me.


ok, then the answer is stop bitching about it and let the "universe" do what it has to.



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07 Jun 2012, 5:11 pm

Kurgan wrote:
MXH wrote:
Kurgan wrote:
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well, youve yet to prove that you dont have too high standards. If the only people that go after you are as you say "unfit" then what about you makes them come to you


Many aspies are placed in an artificially low league below otherwise equally attractive NT men. Som of the traits caused by Asperer's syndrome is incompatible with the party loving, extroverted and popular ideal traits of 2012.


Which means is you are a lower league, so be realistic and go for your league


A girl in my league is reasonably attractive (but not a perfect 10), working on a degree, is intelligent and physially fit, but is socially awkward, has slightly poor fine motor skills, is "uncool", and lacks empathy.

All of those things add up (the + and the -) to give your league. A very pretty girl who is a social butterfly yet lacks intelligence and isnt working on a career can be deem to be in your league.