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14 Dec 2012, 7:45 pm

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Brain, send me the link of this girl's profile.

I have... something in mind lol.


It's not that video of you dancing in a bikini is it? lmao


I might add this to the mix.



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14 Dec 2012, 7:46 pm

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Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


You don't know that every girl has cold heartedly rejected him. From what I see a few might have, but they aren't worth knowing anyway. If he gets upset about that, it's something he would do well with working on, for his own sake, no-one elses.



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14 Dec 2012, 7:47 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


You don't know that every girl has cold heartedly rejected him. From what I see a few might have, but they aren't worth knowing anyway. If he gets upset about that, it's something he would do well with working on, for his own sake, no-one elses.
i have read Brian's posts before. from what i have ascertained he is a 28 yr old with 0 experience..despite constantly trying.


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14 Dec 2012, 7:50 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
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Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


You don't know that every girl has cold heartedly rejected him. From what I see a few might have, but they aren't worth knowing anyway. If he gets upset about that, it's something he would do well with working on, for his own sake, no-one elses.
i have read Brian's posts before. from what i have ascertained he is a 28 yr old with 0 experience..despite constantly trying.


I've been reading Brians posts for the past 6 or so years. Just because he's been rejected, you don't know that it was done "cold heartedly". Speaking from someone who struggles to make and keep friends, I know what rejection is like, it's like someone twisting a knife in your heart every time it happens. Don't you think that he would be better off without that feeling?



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14 Dec 2012, 7:53 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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hale_bopp wrote:
Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


You don't know that every girl has cold heartedly rejected him. From what I see a few might have, but they aren't worth knowing anyway. If he gets upset about that, it's something he would do well with working on, for his own sake, no-one elses.
i have read Brian's posts before. from what i have ascertained he is a 28 yr old with 0 experience..despite constantly trying.


I've been reading Brians posts for the past 6 or so years. Just because he's been rejected, you don't know that it was done "cold heartedly". Speaking from someone who struggles to make and keep friends, I know what rejection is like, it's like someone twisting a knife in your heart every time it happens. Don't you think that he would be better off without that feeling?
of course i do. i think he would be best off with friends and a gf but that doesnt seem to be happening


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14 Dec 2012, 8:00 pm

I think some girls get ego boost by rejecting. They're the 'ego vampires'.

Rejecting = + Ego points

Rejected = - Ego points


Poor males, really. They're the ones who get the latter most.


Hell, I got some when I rejected someone, another case was the opposite - depends how much i care for the person and how much I believe she deserves my rejection.



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14 Dec 2012, 8:02 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I think some girls get ego boost by rejecting. They're the 'ego vampires'.

Rejecting = + Ego points

Rejected = - Ego points


Poor males, really. They're the ones who get the latter most.


Hell, I got some when I rejected someone, another case was the opposite - depends how much i care for the person and how much I believe she deserves my rejection.


Men get an ego boost rejecting too, boo. It's really quite similar for them.



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14 Dec 2012, 8:04 pm

hale_bopp wrote:
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I think some girls get ego boost by rejecting. They're the 'ego vampires'.

Rejecting = + Ego points

Rejected = - Ego points


Poor males, really. They're the ones who get the latter most.


Hell, I got some when I rejected someone, another case was the opposite - depends how much i care for the person and how much I believe she deserves my rejection.


Men get an ego boost rejecting too, boo. It's really quite similar for them.


Except, it's much less frequent for them and it's much more frequent for them to get rejected (social fact: men are expected to be the ones who ask out).



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14 Dec 2012, 8:07 pm

(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?



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14 Dec 2012, 8:08 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



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14 Dec 2012, 8:11 pm

nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*


Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.


^ That what really happens in life.



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14 Dec 2012, 8:13 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*


Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.


^ That what really happens in life.



Lol did you?

You must have read it very inaccurately as my ego's unbruised I'm afraid :wink:

(He's here attempted a double bluff to try and salvage his ego but has failed)



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14 Dec 2012, 8:15 pm

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Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol


At this point, I wouldn't worry about it. The OP hasn't posted in how long now? The thread is essentially trashed, and he probably doesn't care anymore.

Have a ball.

You ever going to post a thread on the dangers of OKCupid? I mean as it was so important that aspies know and all? :scratch:


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14 Dec 2012, 8:19 pm

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Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol


At this point, I wouldn't worry about it. The OP hasn't posted in how long now? The thread is essentially trashed, and he probably doesn't care anymore.

Have a ball.

You ever going to post a thread on the dangers of OKCupid? I mean as it was so important that aspies know and all? :scratch:


I could do but having subsequently seen someone's post on here saying something like 'a person who'd go out with a paedophile is forgiving not bad', I thought what's the point with attitudes like that abounding?!

No one takes any notice of what I say on here 99% of the time, why should they change just because I post some kind of parental-like warning?

People on here mainly just want to be 'cool' and find a gf/bf - we are in conflicting generations

It needs someone 'cool' to say it in coolspeak :roll:



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14 Dec 2012, 8:22 pm

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Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol


At this point, I wouldn't worry about it. The OP hasn't posted in how long now? The thread is essentially trashed, and he probably doesn't care anymore.

Have a ball.

You ever going to post a thread on the dangers of OKCupid? I mean as it was so important that aspies know and all? :scratch:


I could do but having subsequently seen someone's post on here saying something like 'a person who'd go out with a paedophile is forgiving not bad', I thought what's the point with attitudes like that abounding?!

No one takes any notice of what I say on here 99% of the time, why should they change just because I post some kind of parental-like warning?

People on here mainly just want to be 'cool' and find a gf/bf - we are in conflicting generations

It needs someone 'cool' to say it in coolspeak :roll:
stop derailing the thread. with pedophile talk.


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14 Dec 2012, 8:26 pm

@ nessa238, Ah. I see.

@ wtfid2, I never mentioned that word. :wink:

Well then. Carry on. 8)


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