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That's a very good mantra. Mind if I use it, too?

I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase
I will NOT marry another nutcase

LOL! Heck... even scrub "marry" out of there and switch it to, "I will NOT date another nutcase!"

Sanity... honesty... gosh, those qualities are becoming all too rare!! I guess it's just not exciting and sexy enough! (I suppose that's why I'm not either...)

well I guess I have this inability to recognise when it should be red flagged. Perhaps giving everyone the benefit of the doubt is the wrong way to life. I could only assess the situation once some communication flowed. I wouldn't know the next time anyway, it will most likely happen to me again in the future.

if you were actually giving her the "benefit of the doubt" then you are admitting you had doubts about her. you are alternately saying you couldn't recognise any red flags, so you're kind of saying 2 opposite things here. either you had doubts or you didn't. if you had doubts, you should have listened to them, evidently. if you didn't have doubts, then you wouldn't be giving her the "benefit of the doubt" in the first place.

here is a short list that can help you for next time. for friendship, don't bother contacting people with:

-empty or near-empty profiles (i.e. one word in every space)
-interests that do not match yours at all
-obviously photoshopped pictures
-unfriendly profiles
-mixed messages (i.e. flirty text in the boxes or sexy pictures, but looking for "friends only")

actually, this applies to dating as well

Are you a psych? Unless you are qualified to professionally diagnose someone, I wouldn't go around calling people nut cases as the term is a negative one.

I can understand your tone, hyperlexian, but you trying to confront me by saying I was searching for friends myself with ulterior motive, which would make me a hypocrite. But I wasn't doing that, I wrote, I searched for women, I didn't specify exactly. Only after reading her profile I got to know her intent, but the way that she writes, make one wonder what she is really up to. I wouldn't have known this if I didn't bother to write to her at all.

Last edited by Stalk on 02 Jan 2013, 8:37 am, edited 1 time in total.

Nutcase is not a psychiatric term. Just so you know.

Not a professional term but a negative one nonetheless, no one should use it any case.

no, you're putting words in my mouth. i accepted that at face value - that you messaged her to make a friend. but she sounds like a poor choice for a friend so i could not understand why you did not listen to your own instinct, as clearly you had doubts as well. but again, taking your post at face value, i helped you to make better friend choices in future because you said you have an inability to recognise the red flags.

the red flags were all in her initial profile, so you could have saved yourself some time and trouble. she didn't lead you on, she didn't do anything wrong here - you messaged someone when there was really no point whatsoever.

Well, it's true, I do neglect my instincts, as I found out by doing the R-Drive personality test http://www.wrongplanet.net/postp5117249.html. I'm very unconventional and this seems to highlight that I don't follow my gut instinct at all. I don't know if other guys experience this too.

Never seen that before, links?

i wanted to say this. women have no clue that we are watching them without even being on the net. our profiles stalk them. i have a image of me looking up to god. see how many fear that. if they do their mentality is getting the best of them. okcupid you have my word on what i see.

Tough one but I found a few... sort of.
[ONE] [TWO] [THREE] [FOUR and a better one] [decent FIVE]

It's not an easy find, but it's certainly common enough to base a number of romantic comedy movies around the premise without seeming out of place.

That's what I like too. It's easy to weed out things you don't or do want with the advanced searches. But the searches seem to work better on POF and Datehookup. I never yet had a date off of OKCupid. I had the most dates from POF.

I think he meant post examples; links to all the profiles of the same woman from each site.

I'm on more than one site, and I see some of the same guys on each of them.

OTOH, you don't portray yourself as a TOTALLY DIFFERENT PERSON on each! Country girl on one, goth or nerdy on others... I imagine you to be more honest and actually try to portray the real you.

That's just logical anyway... if you act, you'll attract incompatible types and be unsatisfied with the outcome...