Toxic femininity

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Janissy, I should show you the screenshots when I have claimed to be a pornstar (or male stripper) , the results were fascinating, I have tried it with a lot there. and I can assure you, no one of them even blocked me (I blocked them) and got generally very interested, some even quickly pushed it to sexting.

hes a actor so has status and money.

hugs. thats good, doesn't sound like he was very nice to you, you deserve to be loved and treated with respect.

boo. being tall, hasn't helped me. so dont' feel bad about being short. atleast you don't' bump into stuff all the time or have women use you just to get stuff up high for them.

good for you! hope things become better from now on.

Thanks



Was he born a successful actor?

Thanks. It is a revelation to me that I don't have to accept what people tell me.

So do these women who insist on marrying up find the partners they want? Do they settle or do they end up alone? Obviously there is a limited number of men with all of the above attributes. A friend of mine in high school was around 188 cm tall (6'2'') and I recall it gave her a lot of grief to be taller than most of the boys. At the same time I have long been told that (prior to lucking out and meeting my husband) that a major reason for my lack of success with men was that I didn't act like most women--that I acted too intelligent, assertive, and decisive. Apparently this is seen as intimidating, or so I have been told.

Much like masculinity, social pressure to conform to feminine roles saturates society and comes from both men and women. I think that women are told that they should value certain types of accomplishments in potential male partners to the degree that financial success/height etc. could be considered emblematic of "maleness." In that sense women taught to be drawn to men who are "more male" than they are. Obviously everyone isn't this way but I this this is the sort of dynamic that is going on.

I think that the polarization of gender roles in general is toxic. Ultimately it hurts everyone.

Generally, yes, they eventually find such a man - no problem, even if it takes them more time but in most cases, they find someone.

I had a friend who worked as a corporate secretary, who kept rejecting suitors left and right because of their jobs, she even rejected the one guy she liked because of his job. At age 36, once she got a suitor who's a doctor working in London, she accepted to date him, even though she admitted to me on many occasions that her "heart" is still unsure about him, she even once replied to my other friend, who's also a single woman who was telling us about a crush she has on someone, she said : "You got love but not a man, while I got a man but not love" - I found this is slip of tongue disturbing. The thing is, all her female friends encouraged her to go for it despite stating that she still doesn't love him, while we guys present there exchanged looks full of ??? between us.

What also felt so wrong that their relationship went forward so fast from dating to engagement, it didn't even take a whole year.

She even told me once on the phone, before TWO Months of the wedding, that's she still unsure about her feelings. When a fiancée is still unsure about her guy just two months before marriage then something is not right at all. They got married in late april, still in honeymoon by now.

The thing is, she has to live with him there in London away of her family, so if marriage goes wrong, and a marriage with someone you don't love might really go wrong, she might not have the means nor the support to escape. She can barely speak English too.






Very true, I completely agree.






I am curious, who usually tell you this s**t, women or men?

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I'm not saying this isn't true, but it doesn't make sense at all. Why would anyone ever specifically look for someone less intelligent? Are these standards natural or learned?

Growing up as a girl I was generally told that to attract a man a woman should act less intelligent. Mostly I heard this from women, though in some cases they weren't telling me that I *should* act less intelligent so much as that they were offering this as a reason for why boys generally steered clear of me. What I have been told is that the men in these situations feel threatened by female partners who are more intelligent than they are. I never understood why it would be desirable to act stupid in order to attract a partner. My thoughts were that if I intimidated them, then good riddance, since anyone who wanted me to play that game was not worth my time. I was rather lonely though.

I love girls who are smarter than me. If they are (or if I can tell they're trying not to be honest about it) I get bored in minutes.

I know what you mean... it's cool to see i'm not the only one to think that


and now for some hard core toxic feminity: (complaining but still posting)
this subforum is becoming scary....I realize that especially after seeing someone using vulgar language , others alluding to mature things out of the blue(if you don't know what i'm talking about that's super fine,,it's just my hyper sensible me
;_____;...

I bet you man Trollcatman and his hundred of sausage pics.

He just loves sausage! He's not referring to anything else

Amy Parkinson, Australian gold-digger to her boyfriend: "You lack ambition and you'll never amount to anything so I'm dumping you."
Amy Parkinson, Australian gold-digger to her ex-boyfriend: "Oh wait, you just won $362,000 in online gaming? What are you doing Friday night?":

http://thelifescoop.com/dumpedboyfriendjackpot/

Tough karma for this poster-child of gold-diggers. Hope the guy doesn't fall for it.

She doesn't even have the integrity or self-respect to admit she made a major, irreparable life error, exposed herself for the money monkey she is, wish him well and move on. Nope, like she can't even see how this makes her look to other guys that she's now going to have to convince to date her. She'd have much better future dating prospects if they interviewed her and she just said that she took friends' advice, led her wrong, and now she has to live with her decision.

Of course, the guy could really be a loser, and will blow through the money in 2-3 years, which can easily be done, she'd possibly be married to him by then, and decisions become more expensive. But that's not what Amy's thinking.

Very high, I'd say. Seems to me that women try to play the role of loving someone for who they are, but sooner or later, if the money's not there, they'll eventually go someplace where they can get it. Or status. Status can be as good as money, because sooner or later it is likely to turn into money. Or they think it will. I got chased just for being in uniform. They knew virtually nothing else about me.

Fortunately in this story, the girl made her move before it was too late for the guy. I've heard two stories just recently of men who weren't so lucky, well-off married men who got hit by the recession, and the women wouldn't stay with them through the slump. They bolted.

Amy who?

Translation to English: "He has no more income (the motivation lacking thing is a so old overused excuse and often false), and my girlfriends told me to find some another source of income. Guy for me is equal to income!"