Getting hit on by an Amazon, help!

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You must ask her out the next time you see her. That's an order!

Ill ask her later about that most ladies arent into geeky stuff like that and it might creep her out if I do right away due to misunderstanding of how society perceives things, its not as bad as being a brony but fairly close due to ignorance of how society perceives things like stated before.

Maybe, maybe not. I've met a fair few girls who were into anime. Remember that anime has an element of cuteness and some girls like that.

Nowadays it's a lot more common for girls to like anime. Partly because anime is now more mainstream for both guys and girls and partly because to some extent gender divisions have blurred in entertainment (not disappeared entirely). There are now plenty of tomboys but regardless, there are many anime series made for girls and many more tailored specifically for young women (I'm sure you're already familiar with terms such as Shōjo and Josei).I used to think the same way. I learned far too late in life that when a girl likes you, she wants you to talk to her, she wants you to ask her out, etc.

If a girl likes you it's nearly impossible to creep her out unless you do something that's obviously creepy (and by that I mean obvious even to the aspie male). If you commit some minor mistake she will be quick to forgive (remember she wants to be with you for holding a grudge against you would be counterproductive to her purposes). What's more likely to happen if that while, not noticing your minor mistakes she'll commit some minor mistake (in her own view, possibly unnoticed by you) and then she'll get very embarrassed and apologised profusely. This will be followed by nervous laughter. Remember that she'll be very nervous because she's around the guy she likes (you) and she's worried about making a mistake and ruining her chances of being with you.

Now since this girl obviously wants to be with you, you should spare no time in asking her out. Set yourself a deadline. Don't keep the poor girl waiting.

I'm not sure all the mistakes a clueless aspie would be likely to make count as minor

Off the top of my head, "I'd really like it if she started caressing and massaging my chest with her sweet hands, so why wouldn't she?"

it's a sexual fantasy for me to be dominated sexually by a tall, sexy amazon woman.

Well when I started doing that with that girl I was dating, she didn't seem to mind. Later I tried to go south of the equator and she gently lifted my hand away and softly told me not to.

She didn't scream or shout or cry rape or call the cops or press rape charges or stuff like that. She didn't expect me to be a mind reader. However, she did expect me to read the language of touch, which began when we wordlessly had our first kiss and went on from there (never ask if you can kiss her, it kills the mood). Some of the time she was guiding my hands towards her and other times she was guiding my hands away from her. Remember not all sensuous touch has to be overtly sexual.

Girls will give you plenty of nonverbal clues about what you can and can't do. Don't worry if you can't read body language. Body language is a visual medium but this is more kinesthetic and much easier to read.

Let me reiterate. Move your hands slowly and she will gently push you away if you go to far. So long as you don't persist after she's done this, you won't get into trouble. It worked for me. Remember the girl I was with liked me. She was attracted to me. She didn't want to be perpetually chaste. She didn't want to send me to prison either. If your with some girl and she likes you, she'll want you to do something sooner or later so don't disappoint her.

But before you try something overtly sexual there should have already been all sorts of sensual touch. Even something as simple as laying your hands on hers across the table or sitting right ap against her on the couch triggers and endorphin rush in girls. It's an early stage of their pair-bonding process.

Don't do nothing or the girl you like will think you dislike her. It's happened to me more than once. You don't want the girl you like to think you hate her so much you can't even stand to touch her.

(Apologies if I oversimplified but I didn't want to assume any prior knowledge).

Interesting. My prior knowledge is negligible. The only non-verbal clue I've ever noticed is that, back when school gave us plenty of chances to greet one another with a hug, girls almost always put their hands on my shoulders so I couldn't get too close to them. Only twice did they not. Those two isolated times they wrapped their arms tightly around me and seemed to enjoy the moment, though I'm sure they didn't see me as anything more than a possible friend.

Any situation in which anything remotely sexual might be appropriate has always seemed completely unreachable to me, for multiple reasons.

By the way, I wasn't fat at all at that time. I got fat later, doubling my weight over the years.

I will take my time, my first move is to ask her out for some lunch and such since she said shes not old enough to drink yet until January, yeah she is much younger so it makes things much more awkward. She looks like shes 24 but shes 20 I thought it would be easier to ask her to hang out at the bar with my friends and co workers but I will have to be more subtle.

Good. I find that very encouraging.

We're all rooting for you

She's not jailbait--that's the most important thing.

You're not that much older than her. I'm 12 years younger than my wife.

Right, also girls mature faster than guys.

It still seems awkward and being shy on top of that does not help! The only compatibility I see is similar size is my mental maturity level, I may be 32 but act like I am 22 and look like I am 24. I am just not used to being hit on by some much younger than me. It is all of a sudden and not expected! In a public perspective a 32 yo with a 20 yo is like borderline pedophilia. I should just let it go and ignore her advances and try to find someone closure to my age or older than me, I tend to be picky about age, and the youngest I prefer is 24 yo between 24 to 38 but that's just me, maybe I am too picky and a jerk when it comes to that, but I don't want to be seen as some creepy person dating someone that young which is how I feel although she looks 24 and I thought she was I don't want to get that creepy vibe. I don't know what to do and I am confused and in conflict with myself and the image of others.

A 33 year old guy and a 20 year old girl? That is not pedophilia.

Besides, if she looks 24 and you look 24, of a stranger sees you two in the street he'll think you're both 24. What's so bad about that?

Private Otaku, I order you to ask that girl out!

doesn't seem to be uncommon

I think its wierd but maybe something is wrong with me for thinking that way also I am 32 not 33 until October its a system glitch I was born October 3rd 1982. I will turn 33 in October this year.Maybe I should give her a chance but i am super shy and hesitant because I normally dont go for women that much younger than me.

I must admit any sexual or romantic thought about someone younger than me, with a smaller age difference than that, makes me feel like a paedophile.