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30 Sep 2015, 1:53 pm

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So you're saying that over the course of three full years you would make eye contact with a girl, but never really spoke to her?


Exactly. I'm that crazy, and so was she. :wink:


How do you know she was crazy too? You never spoke to her. She could have been doing all sorts of things with other guys when you weren't around, unless you're omniscient.



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30 Sep 2015, 2:08 pm

Lukeda420 wrote:
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So you're saying that over the course of three full years you would make eye contact with a girl, but never really spoke to her?


Exactly. I'm that crazy, and so was she. :wink:


How do you know she was crazy too? You never spoke to her. She could have been doing all sorts of things with other guys when you weren't around, unless you're omniscient.


I think I already explained that above. And why do you think speaking is something magical? Maybe you ex-girlfriends did all kind of stuff with other guys even if you spoke to them? :roll:



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30 Sep 2015, 2:12 pm

The things you are saying rdos are so unreal.

Even the mute Wall-E interacted with EVE somehow.



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30 Sep 2015, 2:17 pm

Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


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30 Sep 2015, 2:20 pm

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Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


You might be so mistaken, a lot of guys like nerdy girls.

How often do you send friend requests to guys?



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30 Sep 2015, 2:21 pm

rdos wrote:
Lukeda420 wrote:
rdos wrote:
Lukeda420 wrote:
So you're saying that over the course of three full years you would make eye contact with a girl, but never really spoke to her?


Exactly. I'm that crazy, and so was she. :wink:


How do you know she was crazy too? You never spoke to her. She could have been doing all sorts of things with other guys when you weren't around, unless you're omniscient.


I think I already explained that above. And why do you think speaking is something magical? Maybe you ex-girlfriends did all kind of stuff with other guys even if you spoke to them? :roll:


I get it now. Rdos's "relationship" was 100% in his imagination. Fleeting eye contact, no talking, no texting and no physical contact doesn't count as a romantic relationship (which is, by definition, reciprocal) to anyone but him. The "girlfriend" probably had no clue he thought she was his gf!



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30 Sep 2015, 2:22 pm

MissZahara wrote:
rdos wrote:
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rdos wrote:
Lukeda420 wrote:
So you're saying that over the course of three full years you would make eye contact with a girl, but never really spoke to her?


Exactly. I'm that crazy, and so was she. :wink:


How do you know she was crazy too? You never spoke to her. She could have been doing all sorts of things with other guys when you weren't around, unless you're omniscient.


I think I already explained that above. And why do you think speaking is something magical? Maybe you ex-girlfriends did all kind of stuff with other guys even if you spoke to them? :roll:


I get it now. Rdos's "relationship" was 100% in his imagination. Fleeting eye contact, no talking, no texting and no physical contact doesn't count as a romantic relationship (which is, by definition, reciprocal) to anyone but him. The "girlfriend" probably had no clue he thought she was his gf!


K...I mean MissZahara, I am so agreeing with you lately! What's happening?! !

I am starting to like YOU.

Maybe it has something with the red moon.



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30 Sep 2015, 2:24 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


You might be so mistaken, a lot of guys like nerdy girls.

How often do you send friend requests to guys?


He's right. I like nerdy girls. I understand them a lot more than the more main stream types.



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30 Sep 2015, 2:28 pm

I fail to see what's wrong with rdos' method. If he liked it and was happy with the result then fine, I don't get what all this arguing is about. I also fail to understand why he has to put down guys who wouldn't be happy with his method.



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30 Sep 2015, 2:37 pm

Lukeda420 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
StaticWorld wrote:
Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


You might be so mistaken, a lot of guys like nerdy girls.

How often do you send friend requests to guys?


He's right. I like nerdy girls. I understand them a lot more than the more main stream types.


Imagine this:
A girl who talks about books, sciences, sci-fi, and fictions vs a girl who talks about reality shows, pubs and clubs.

First girl sounds way more interesting to me.



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30 Sep 2015, 3:03 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


You might be so mistaken, a lot of guys like nerdy girls.

How often do you send friend requests to guys?


I never do this.


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30 Sep 2015, 3:12 pm

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I get it now. Rdos's "relationship" was 100% in his imagination. Fleeting eye contact, no talking, no texting and no physical contact doesn't count as a romantic relationship (which is, by definition, reciprocal) to anyone but him. The "girlfriend" probably had no clue he thought she was his gf!


Yeah, sure. Then more or less the same method 10 years later resulted in a marriage that has lasted for 22 years. But then I suppose that's also in my imagination. :roll:



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30 Sep 2015, 6:21 pm

StaticWorld wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Maybe friends, yes. I get (for my standards) many friend requests on Facebook, but mostly not because they admire me but because I comment on many sites and they agree with my opinion. I can't imagine anyone having a crush on me, really. I'm like the perfect nerd and nobody.


You might be so mistaken, a lot of guys like nerdy girls.

How often do you send friend requests to guys?


I never do this.



See, because those guys have other motifs - don't believe it's just because they agree with you on something.

Go check them now, evaluate and filter.



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30 Sep 2015, 7:46 pm

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They didn't help in class. Their friends tried to intervene so things would progress beyond just courtship.


Oh I see, then I suppose that is a sign they did have mutual attraction.

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But the point was that they acted exclusively, and so did I.


There is no way you could know that for certain if you only saw them in class, and never even talked to them it is possible they only had interest in you...and its also possible you were on of many each of them had interest in. All you know for certain is you were not interested in other girls whilst being attracted to these girls at school.

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I met her in my class. We kind of started the eye contact game very quickly, and then continued with it until school ended 3 years later.


An eye contact game and being with someone as in a relationship are not the same thing. It is very possible even if she did keep some interest in you for that 3 years that eventually it fizzled out especially once she was certain that is all it would amount to is eye contact games. So you were not really with her after all...as that would imply going on dates, spending time together outside of school and some amount of talking.

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But they didn't move on. The high school girl gave up after visiting my college without being able to setup anything new.


That is moving on though....when you stop making efforts to interact or be with someone.


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30 Sep 2015, 8:01 pm

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I fail to see what's wrong with rdos' method. If he liked it and was happy with the result then fine, I don't get what all this arguing is about. I also fail to understand why he has to put down guys who wouldn't be happy with his method.


Well yes that is all good and fine.....but having a girl you make eye contact with at school, isn't the same as having a girlfriend. If having crushes that never develop into the stage of being boyfriend and girlfriend is what makes him happy cool....but no need to push it on everyone as if its some kind of superior way to be.


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Sweetleaf wrote:
There is no way you could know that for certain if you only saw them in class, and never even talked to them it is possible they only had interest in you...and its also possible you were on of many each of them had interest in. All you know for certain is you were not interested in other girls whilst being attracted to these girls at school.


I was only in the same class as the college girl. The high school girl was at the same school and grade as me, but we were not in the same class, and we had no common lessons either. She and her friends kind of setup things so we could meet during breaks, and I sought all the opportunities I could get to be near her. The time tables were public, so I knew hers just as well as knew my own.

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An eye contact game and being with someone as in a relationship are not the same thing.


You kind of know if you play the game just for fun with some random girl or if it is more serious. You can detect that in how they respond. I also kind of think that how a girl reacts to that is more sincere than what she claims verbally, since anybody can lie and exaggerate verbally. It's much harder to do that in a nonverbal exchange that is mostly instinctual. And the issue if it is a "real relationship" or not is mostly a definition of what a relationship is. To me it worked like a relationship, and the girls were kind of hooked on it too.

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It is very possible even if she did keep some interest in you for that 3 years that eventually it fizzled out especially once she was certain that is all it would amount to is eye contact games. So you were not really with her after all...as that would imply going on dates, spending time together outside of school and some amount of talking.


It's very possible that someone that has dated for a few months don't think it will lead anywhere so decides to break it off. So where is the difference?

Also, if being in a relationship implies you must go on dates, then I've never been in a relationship (even if I'm married). 8O

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That is moving on though....when you stop making efforts to interact or be with someone.


Sure. It was simply too easy being in the same class, so none of us really needed to put down any effort in it. That's why I wrote that the high school girl had more potential, as she actively participated in us getting to see each others.