Sweetleaf wrote:
There is no way you could know that for certain if you only saw them in class, and never even talked to them it is possible they only had interest in you...and its also possible you were on of many each of them had interest in. All you know for certain is you were not interested in other girls whilst being attracted to these girls at school.
I was only in the same class as the college girl. The high school girl was at the same school and grade as me, but we were not in the same class, and we had no common lessons either. She and her friends kind of setup things so we could meet during breaks, and I sought all the opportunities I could get to be near her. The time tables were public, so I knew hers just as well as knew my own.
Sweetleaf wrote:
An eye contact game and being with someone as in a relationship are not the same thing.
You kind of know if you play the game just for fun with some random girl or if it is more serious. You can detect that in how they respond. I also kind of think that how a girl reacts to that is more sincere than what she claims verbally, since anybody can lie and exaggerate verbally. It's much harder to do that in a nonverbal exchange that is mostly instinctual. And the issue if it is a "real relationship" or not is mostly a definition of what a relationship is. To me it worked like a relationship, and the girls were kind of hooked on it too.
Sweetleaf wrote:
It is very possible even if she did keep some interest in you for that 3 years that eventually it fizzled out especially once she was certain that is all it would amount to is eye contact games. So you were not really with her after all...as that would imply going on dates, spending time together outside of school and some amount of talking.
It's very possible that someone that has dated for a few months don't think it will lead anywhere so decides to break it off. So where is the difference?
Also, if being in a relationship implies you must go on dates, then I've never been in a relationship (even if I'm married).
Sweetleaf wrote:
That is moving on though....when you stop making efforts to interact or be with someone.
Sure. It was simply too easy being in the same class, so none of us really needed to put down any effort in it. That's why I wrote that the high school girl had more potential, as she actively participated in us getting to see each others.