Worst decision - okcupid

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I also hate this cultural norm. I am not at all interested in a woman my age or younger women. The youngest I would consider dating is in her late 30s and I'm 31. But a potential partner would get made fun of by their friends if she dated me. I'm thinking I may have to wait until I'm in my late 40s or early 50s to find a suitable partner.

OMG! I may have found one!! He's 2 yrs younger than me but wants a woman my age, never been married, no kids, likes museums, exercising, coffee, he likes reading and wine, has the cutest picture of a cat and him with wine in front of them, likes to travel - everything I like! And he lives in Lawrence Kansas and is a teacher. This might lead me to believe that he's a professor at Kansas University that is located in Lawrence. This could be bad or maybe not. I was just accepted to KU for the BSN program. Can't think about that now. I sent a message and a wink and we'll just have to see what happens!

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My working weekends might kill the romance before it even starts. This has been my problem in the past is working weekends, but that's the job that makes a lot more money and you only work 2 days a week. He sounds perfect. He even likes farmers markets! Me too! And he's cute to boot!

I was the opposite: I was only interested in women 3-5 years younger than me and not for the reasons one might assume. Go figure I fell in love with one 7 years older than me. What's ironic is that she looks younger than any of the other women I dated even though she is by far the oldest.


That is a great thing. There's no taboo about professors dating students as long as they aren't in the same program. In fact, many universities even offer huge discounts off tuition to spouses of employees. Hopefully things work out for you!

Grumpy cat is happy.


You see ladies, as I always told you here , the more you whine, the faster you get a boyfriend. This is something I've observed on WP since I joined here.

For guys, it works in reverse.

Very true. If the ladies didn't wine, how else could we tell that they're single

Grumpy Cat isn't happy. Nothing happened. Back to me having some cheese with my whine.

What?.... Nooooo!! you have ruined my women&w(h)ine theory!!

You're more unlucky than I thought.

What?.... Nooooo!! I've forgotten how to spell!

Not true. It works when you have a profile with decent photos and interesting content and it can take time. You also need to use the Quickmatch feature and send messages to people where you both *like* each other.

How can my profile be improved?

Close it.

The biggest thing I learned about using OKCupid is that even God himself would get only a 10% response rate at best. I re-did my profile four different times (dare I say it was one of the best on the site) and the response rate doubled.... from 2% to 4%. Every single date was a waste of time there and I don't even want to mention my crazy ex. It's like auditioning for Hollywood: sure you don't have to be perfect but you have to be pretty close.

What place would you suggest as an alternative place to meet women?

Any place a woman you would be interested in would go. For example, I have been going to a function at my Fiancées Church. Even though I am not religious they are a great group and there are a number of quality, single women there. I also found running clubs and "hipster" restaurants to have large numbers of single women as well. Do not just be like me and be a rink rat during the winter months and wonder why no women fell in my lap.

Yes I believe that traditionally, church has been one of the most common places for young men to meet young women. I'm not really one for religion so what kind of church functions should an aspiring young atheist like me attend? I don't want to go to mass but do they have parties, etc?

Why do you think you'd click with girls religious enough to regularly attend social events at a house of worship?

Not saying you can't but the odd's likely be better someplace your lack of belief won't be thrown into sharp relief.

(It broke my heart but I had to dump a guy I adored who was very much into his evangelical faith - church every weekend, bible study 2x week - after two years due to religious incompatibility. He was cool with me being culturally Baha'i but non-practicing, I don't have an issue with raising a kid in two religions but there was no way I could raise a kid equally in 2 faiths with one actively practicing/believing one and one non-practicing and iffy on a deity one. Otherwise loved the guy).