"I just didn't see you that way"

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Have you asked any of the women to elaborate on why they "didn't see you that way" and what you could to change that for future dates?

When people choose to keep things obscure, they usually get pissed off if you ask them for an explanation. They don't have to give you one after all.

I once complimented a woman on her artistic fingernail paint, and she threw a fit and accused me of sexual harassment. creepzone indeed.

I've never complimented a woman about anything related to her looks, and it looks like a good idea to keep it this way. Years ago, I sometimes daydreamed about what would happen if tried it, but I was too out of the loop to know how badly it was likely to end up.

I suspect she was mad that I wasn't a high-status dreamboat.

I've read in multiple places that women love being complimented on their looks.

but only by the right people. others are seen as a threat.

I'm not used to being complimented, so I wouldn't say that I love it. *shrug*

They really don't seem to like that. At best, I get the speech about nothing being wrong with me, it is just that they don't see me like that, but that I should just show more confidence in myself and love myself more.

You know what, AuntBlabby: I think you have the bad luck to run into real idiots!

I wish I could introduce you to real woman---not those whom you run into!

Same with you other guys.

Unless that person is a VERY close friend, you are unlikely to get an honest answer. You're very likely to get some kind of politely banal reason (and there are guys who ask a bunch of girls why they don't wanna date them and take "oh you're great but I'm just not into you" as "I'm a great guy, so many girls told me so!").

Unfortunately, because so many of us have encountered men who get very upset, angry, abusive, or even violent when given an honest answer about why we're not interested, most of us have learned to say whatever polite nonsense we think will get us out of the conversation without being attacked. It's true that, unless you know the woman well already and she trusts you, she's probably not going to give you a directly honest answer about why she doesn't want to date you. Too often it is not safe to do so, and most of us learn that pretty early on in the dating arena. If you don't believe me, just google "when women say no" and see what comes up. We are rarely more in danger in life than when we are rejecting a man, so we have to be very, very careful how we navigate that situation--and that usually means excessive politeness and platitudes.

thank you my good man

When I was walking up to the shops, I walked past a couple of women who were sitting at the bus stop and I smiled at them. It was a nice morning, I was in a happy mood and just being friendly. You should have seen the filthy looks I got back.

After I'd been to the shop, on my way home, they were still sitting at the bus stop so I said to them, "Don't flatter yourselves. I was only smiling to be friendly! "

One of them was getting up to deck me and her friend had to hold her back.

The hide of some people. How conceited! How arrogant! How presumptuous!

These women are definitely more uncouth and classless than most women.

Most women just don't react like that.

Still, smiling at random strangers seems a bad idea to me.