Are you single, or are you in a relationship?

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I've only had one real relationship. When I was 15 I was with someone who I actually loved, and we were together for two years. It was actually him that first ever brought up the idea I might be autistic, although we didn't take it very seriously or pursue it at all.

I have had two 'relationships' since then, the first long distance and lasting one month, the second with a friend (my only 'real life' friend, actually) and that lasted two months.

It's hard to meet someone who likes me, who I like back, and who communicated with me adequately. I'm not going to understand how they think or feel unless they tell me, and I need honesty and most people seem to not just not bother. I also need someone to give me the benefit of the doubt instead of automatically assuming that if I do something wrong or upset them I'm doing it on purpose and that I realise that I'm doing it.

I can't foresee being in a relationship for a long time, partly because I'm too much of a tomboy to attract the opposite sex anyway, and partly because I never really go out. I wouldn't go on a date with a stranger either, because I need to know someone as a friend before going out with them and often before really being attracted to them.

I'm happy being single though. It's a lot simpler. Although I would be willing to attempt another relationship if the right person came along.

I'm in a relationship. He's a few years older than I am, and another Aspergian.

I'm in a relationship with the most wonderful human being alive. He seems to know and accept all my little problems and fears (most of which disappear when he comes around).

:)

relationship.

Single and looking, if anyone wants to start a relationship, drop me a message

Currently single and interested but lacking the energy to search with any enthusiasm. Previously in several relationships, one a marriage which lasted 8 years.

I've met two women over the last 3 years with whom I shared a strong attraction, but (true story) they both were lesbians and this proved to be a problem. My point that I'm essentially a lesbian trapped in a male body didn't help...

Was in a serious relationship from age 17-22. Briefly had a girlfriend when I was 12, but it doesn't really count. And that's it. I do not expect to be in a relationship again, and not because of not wanting to. "It is a luxury not for me." (Nadine Gordimer, "The Pickup")

Single!

Same thing here - I don't read minds. This sort of issue put a lot of stress on the one relationship I've had - she just wouldn't say things out loud, even though she knew I couldn't read her mind, she knew it was irrational, she knew it was bad for the relationship, but just couldn't help herself. As a result, I didn't feel I could talk about lots of things. Communication is a two-way street.





I don't think tomboys are necessarily unattractive - at least I would much rather date one than a girl obsessed with makeup and dresses and so on.

Well, not in a relationship anymore. I just began to feel lukewarm in it, after a long time of never really meshing as a couple. Singlehood is my best path, sprinkled with occasional dating, for sanity insurance.

I'm single. Part of the problem is my difficulty to communicate with women and paranoia. The other problem is that I fantasize on how a "true" relationship should be made. I believe that a true relationship should be made slowly when the couple starts as friends. I also believe that quick relationships would never really last as long as one would hope.

Smart kid you are Yosh. In my opinion if any and every girl out there was on top of the ball as you are, then everyone could be happy and have someone special. But the world isn't like that, cause if it were we'd all be screwed. I believe that the only way to have a successful world is to have strife and conflict, and people fighting for what they believe in(no I swear I am not Muslim) and that love and peace and all dat jazz can solve many of the worlds many problems.

relationships my dear young dinosauresque friend are based on probablity and then after that their based on the commital that both people want to put into it. That is the true source.

I agree with you that a relationship should be made slowly from when the couple starts as friends, things work better that way and the relationship lasts a long time. That's the one thing that may have been my downfall first semester this year with dating the girl, is that I rushed into it, and didn't give enough time for the friendship to build.

Its all dependant on both sets of people mind you, some people (mainly males) have no problem rushing into a relationship because all they want out of it is sex, and so they maintain this whole gentlemenly appearance right up and unto the point of sex. THen from that point the relationship is strained because all one side ever wants to do is have sex and its the relationship isn't worth it anymore because of that one part of a minor harmonic. But if things are allowed to run their course and intimacy and whatnot is not a major factor, then the couple can learn to get know each other better. That's the one thing that I've always struggled with in my relationships, not the sex part, hah, I can wait until marriage, or if its offered at some point in the relationship then that's a different story. No, I struggle from trying to learn more about the other person. I can do it, its just painful sometimes because I have no idea what I'm doing. Some couples it comes naturally for, though sometimes I think I have trouble is because I feel awkward sometimes, but at the same time I realize that it is necessary for a growth to occur.

This situation is probably the number reason that first time couples have a hard time starting off, and yet they manage to get through it all right. Hmm. we'll see how it goes for me.

I'm a single, and I'm happy with that. I don't think I'm ready for the relationship, because I've noticed I just get anxious in a relationship, and I feel like someone has invaded my world. I need my space. I've had 3 relationships, but any of them didn't last long, just few months.

Single. Not really anything good or bad to say about it. *shrugs*

Single. Since we are counting online relationships, was in 1 when I was around 19, haven't tried to be in one since, I don't realy like online only relationships. I was in another that was a "real" relationship at about the same time that didn't work out but turned into a great long term friendship that I only recently drifted away from.