What do I need to do differently (reboot)

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I think Disney has a more realistic view on relationship dynamics (Prince as status + Princess/PoorGirl as beauty) than anime, ironically.

Ok, so back to the original question - what should I do differently?

I would suggest reflecting upon the things which haven't worked and why.

For instance, you said you tried to join an agency but they would not accept you because you work part-time. Did you try any other agencies or did you give up after the first rejection?

Marknis, let's go back to the basics, and post the below for a honest assessment:

- Post a real photo of you
- Tell us what is your job, and how much is your income.
- Do you have a car? Do you drive?
- How many friends do you have? How often do you socialize on weekends?

If you want to remain completely anonymous in everything, then we can't help you.

This is not true - what you are saying is that you cannot help, please do not speak for me. Marknis does not have to reveal anything he does not want to. It is very intrusive to try to get this kind of information and absolutely unnecessary.

I am not giving the troll posts (Not you, Boo) the time of day.

The one I tried is the only one located anywhere near me. It was also after I tried speed dating and that didn't work out either. Someone here actually suggested that to me and I wish she was still here.

Last edited by Marknis on 23 Oct 2017, 9:21 am, edited 3 times in total.

Forget "speed dating." It's a ridiculous concept, in my opinion.

When you go out in the world, don't think of yourself as an "Aspie" (unless you want to convey some political message). Think of yourself as a person who has the same rights as any other person. So what if you're "awkward." I've seen many "awkward" people who find a way to "fit in," despite their awkwardness. Oddly, this might be what makes you "special" in a positive sense to decent people.

I am sure there are women out there who share your interests. But I would search in more urban areas.

If he wants real help he should post that I agree.

Speed dating is like a meatspace version of Twitter. I like the concept in that the pressure to impress on a large scale is minimal. I would like it because it wouldn’t give me enough time to get myself in trouble by talking too much.

I’m not sure I’d know how to go from 5 min. to date-date, though. It looks like an easy way to get some time with someone over the weekend, but perhaps it more exists for its own sake. The up side is at least you can practice some social skills that might benefit you in forming real relationships.

I find "speed dating" works for people who are able to make a good superficial impression quickly. Much of that involves physical looks.

It would never work for me.

Pretty much. I don't know how to be anyone but myself. When I try to be someone else, it feels uncomfortable and fake.

Where did I even mention you? I was not talking to you.

No but you spoke for everybody. We.

That’s kinda the impression I get. I don’t think I could ever get a gf through speed dating, but I’ve never had that experience. I would use it more to become more comfortable in social settings and get some practice interacting with MOOS.

Aaaaannnd it’s a bit of a microcosm of meeting people anywhere. Even with people I know and have conversations with regularly, I still seem to have a “life expectancy” of at most 5 minutes.

In terms of actually getting a gf, any direction you go requires tenacity. Again, I’m not the expert here, but it looks to me if you enjoy the speed dating experience and keep coming back to it, you’ll figure out how to meet one of them away from the venue.

I’m more of a traditionalist I guess. I’m just trying to understand it in principle. Some aspects will be easier than conventional dating and others may be more difficult. I don’t imagine everyone out there is well suited for it.

Ah, oh....ok. I see.

Sorry, I mean it as "I" but I have the habit to use we in work emails.

I'll tell you Bambi has the most realistic view, because Bambi had to grow up to get his girlfriend. Bambi didn't get his girlfriend overnight either.

Honestly looking at the problem from a outside perspective it is our social networks that are most important for relationships. As in people like us need friends.