Late 20's to 30's: dating & romance

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I sincerely doubt it to be honest.

Ouch!

You have no faith in my sexual prowess?

I’m 5 foot 5 and look very un-Alpha.

I did okay from the sexual standpoint at times in my 20s. Other times, I felt the sting of loneliness.

I am the alpha and the omega.

Bow before me all of you, silly mortals.

Kraftie, judging from your shiningly white suit, I assume you are a Gamma male.

Highly radioactive and mass destructive.

I’m quite compatible with ladies from the Delta Quadrant.

^ But that's where The Borg are from.......

He has a thing for Seven.

How about supermarkets made a cosmetic guidelines for bananas for selling where they can make profits? Growers were told to dump over 1million tonnes of bananas a year because all supermarkets in Australia says customers do not like the look of the bananas.

They said they need to be solid, 30cm in length and bent at good 15 degrees angle like a shape of a boomerang. The disused but dumped bananas still tasted good. This case appears that how people judge by its cover affects their privileges and values. Supermarkets are challenged by customers judging in a superficial misunderstanding that different appearance or shape of bananas won't taste good compared the regular grown ones.

So let compare to this to dating and social attitudes. If someone is quirky, nerdy, intelligent and behave differently (like a disability) they will be judged like how customers pursue supermarkets not to sell 'different' bananas. In this case humans, who are dumbfounded by lack of nature is following money and physical appearances. Many times I hear a girl in my network dated and had sex with a very good looking guy, she expected him to be very good at sex but when they had it turns out not. She felt ashamed by lack of respect and confidence.

If you compare having sex with a shy guy, would you expect him to be good at it?

Strange, considering how many years I managed to be in it without even knowing such thing as a frat house existed.



It never ceased to bewilder me how eager people are to dismiss even those only a few years younger than them as kids. I’m afraid they’re adults. And if anyone had expected what you seem to imply from me, they’d have been sorely disappointed.



I greatly doubt the disorder formerly known as Asperger’s is enough to guarantee a pretty young female university student won’t ever be approached by a male peer. The fact that you were “quite happy minding your own business” might have done the trick, however.



For me, there was basically no social dynamics, except for being bullied at the place where I lived.



And plenty more would be if they had a chance, at least among the men.

^ I wonder what they would mean by “not good at sex”; was it a skill-related matter, like he didn’t know how to foreplay or give oral?

Or was it physical-related like his penis too small, like he suffers from premature ejaculation or any form of E.D; his erections overall are weak and don’t last.. etc?

They AREN'T SMART human beings! You can be talented and intelligent person to have an ability to learn have sex like doing your maths and ecological survey designs. It about brains. They told me they have no idea how to do it, hence she kept hurting physically down there. They are so focused on status of having sex rather knowing the job of doing it.

I know there couple of guys who are married have micro-penis have kids. They have great sex lives. So they know what the job doing.

i usually get approached by older men/ manly type guys and often times they put me on a pedestal in which I'm some sort of mythical creature. i feel like a fetish of some sorts, especially when i was younger. after some time, they get bored or tired of me and dismiss me so i know their intentions were dishonest!

I just want to meet someone who is my equal and want to engage with me in an honest, face to face type way..

mind you - i do like being admired (who doesn't?)

Btw hale bopp, I am gonna finally tell you about my dark secret:

I work as a porn star!

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I am sorry if I disappoint you.

Yes, some level of physical attraction is needed for a relationship. Some level of intelligence is also needed for some people. I'd probably not date an extremely obese man, simply because there's no sexual attraction. I'd probably not date a man with an IQ of 80 either (or at least no 2nd date, in case I wouldn't have known him enough before the first to realize that he wasn't particularly bright). It's a turn off too and yes also in a sexual sense.


What if I do not usually have a lot of fantasies when I do it?
I have sexual fantasies at other times though, but they're in several ways not representative of what I'd want in reality. They also don't necessarily include myself. It's not voyeurism, I'm not merely watching it. I do sort of identify with one of the two persons involved (and if one is a woman it's the woman) but that person isn't me. Yes, the people don't tend to be ugly (not all are extremely hot either), but they also don't tend to be stupid (I have at least a vague imagination of who they are and that might include something that is indicative of their level of intelligence).
Was that weird enough? That's probably already said a bit too much, given that we're not in the adult section and in someone else's thread.

That's true, and I think it's another thing where people often talk at cross purposes. You, and some other men, talk about what influence a man's chances of getting sex the most. Some women were simply talking about what they personally find attractive or which traits also matters. It's not even necessarily a disagreement as people are not talking about the same thing.

hale_popp is also right about the biased sample as young women who are into casual sex will probably be over-represented in the samples of a lot of men trying to figure out what women are into. That's the ones most relevant for men who are looking for casual sex but a woman who is not among this group might rightfully think that it's not a very good representation of herself. (I don't think the sample bias makes the results completely wrong just that some things are more extreme for certain subgroups of women than others)

Lastly, what influences a man's chances at getting sex and what a woman feels attracted to especially when it's not about casual sex don't need to be the same things.
E.g. the only guy so far I ever fell in love with was not bad looking but definitely didn't look like a porn-star or anything like that. Yet, if he was very obese and absolutely hideous I'd probably not have felt about him that way and neither would have some other women who felt anything that has something to do with sex or relationships about him. Therefore, being good enough looking is definitely important for his chances with women. But I didn't feel like what I liked about him were his looks. During that time I met hundreds of other guys with equally good or better looks. The looks were not what made him special. What made him special was his sense of humor, his intelligence, that he had a lot of opinions that I shared or liked anyway, that he had opinions and thoughts about things most people don't even have opinions or thoughts about, that he could think and talk about something completely hypothetical (but not random in the sense that someone just blurts random stuff) and not every thought or idea needed a practical purpose or consequence, that he treated me like a human being (I had some other issues back then in addition to autism, such as social anxiety (I didn't delude myself into thinking I could actually be good enough for that guy) and most people ignored me, treated me badly or were on a superficial level too nice, therefore it was nice to be treated like a person) and so on and so forth. That's why, if I tell someone what I like about him, I'll probably mention other things before I mention looks.